i need a poem to ask for money gifts at our wedding?

Answer 1

We have set up our happy home
The wedding was the icing on the cake
We wanted to invite you to come
But didn't want you wondering what to take

We already have our spoons and towels
The dishwasher has been delivered
Please don't think us rude
But a helping hand towards our move/holiday would be
oh so much sweeter

Have had friends that have done this - much better than gifts you do not want or cannot use.

Answer 2

I'm not exactly sure why so many people are being so negative about asking for money gifts. What's the first thing you think of when you get an invite to a wedding 'oh sh1t! What do I buy them?' Or if they have a wedding list 'how many things should i buy? to what value?' Asking for money or vouchers for somewhere like John Lewis, Marks and Spencer, or Debenhams is completely practical, and if the people you are inviting know you as well as most family and friends do they won't think you're being cheeky or anything. They'll appreciate the guidance.

Answer 3

The politest way of asked is by just being honest. Put a note in with your invites saying more than anything all you ask is for their company on your special day. Explain that as far as gifts go there is nothing you require, however if people feel that they want to give something then a nice bottle of wine or a contribution of money that you can put towards the cost of your wedding would be very much appreciated.

Friends of mine did this & i can honestly say that i dont think anybody felt insulted.

Answer 4

I wish I could ask for money too, but I felt that even letting people know where we registered was tact-less. It's a given that people will bring something. You can always take it back and keep the cash.

I actually do not expect gifts from anyone, not even my parents, even though they are paying for part of my wedding. They offered to get us a deluxe outside gas grill and I gracefully declined telling them they have done enough. Though it is a given or at least "was" a given that gifts are presented, it should never be assumed, especially in this day where gas prices are super high and you are lucky to have them there for you.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

People can talk about "correct etiquette" all they like, but surely most of us accept that if we go to a wedding we buy a gift? It is a gesture to help people start their married life together. And personally I would far rather give them something they would like rather than something of no use to them, therefore a wedding list is ideal. I would be cross if I didn't get a gift list in with the invite - I'm not a mind reader and no doubt have different tastes to the couple in question!

I would feel uncomfortable being asked for cash though. I would like to think that my gift was going to be something special rather than frittered away. With that in mind, perhaps consider a wedding list that has a giftcard option, e.g. Debenhams. Or other companies, like Thomas Cook and even our photographer, operate voucher schemes for weddings. Then your guests know that their gift is going towards something specific, like a honeymoon, or photos.

Perhaps put something in your invites like "We would rather have your presence than your presents, but if you would like to buy us a gift then ....".

Answer 6

Hi, this is what we have asked for, for our wedding gift, I dont know about writing a poem, but it could be a good idea, But i dont know how to put it in a peom, Our reason for getting a money gift, is because we have no room to put all the gifts we would be reciving and they would get put away and not used, ive still got loads of gift from my engagement. I will go away and write one for you, Perhaps we could both use it.

Answer 7

I think it depends what you want it for - I think most people accpet now theat when couples live together before getting married that they have most of the things they 'need'.

Three times I have given friends money. Once they asked for contributions to a special honeymoon - this was paid annonymously at the travel agents - they had so much over they were able ot take a hot air balloon trip too. Secondly friends were planning on a dive trip during their honeymoon - as a diver I know what a difference good masks can make to the enjoyment of diving so I offered to buy them for them - rather than tag along to the dive shop I gave them the cash. Thirdly friends who hired a huge house to have their wedding in asked for contributions towards the hire - as for most weddings I have to pay for a hotel room I was happy to do this.

Its not always tacky - it dpends on the circumstances I think - I'd rather controbutw towards something special than feel I'd given them a gift that would sit at the back of a cupboard for years before being taken to the charity shop or 'e-bayed'. Perhaps you could tell your guests what it is you want to buy - I think no-one minds contributing to something guests jsut don't want to think they'll be paying off your credit card or that it'll be frittered away on take out dinners.

Answer 8

Just get a good wedding gift list pick things you want asking for money just money can be rude and some people will hate giving money and will get you a present anyway which you might hate so a list helps you.
If you really are determined for money try looking at some comedic poets Spike Milligan or Pam AYres are first that spring to my mind.

Answer 9

It is NEVER, NEVER polite to ask for money. If I were your guest you would be luck to get a card from me. You sure as hell wouldn't get a gift of any kind. A wedding is a celebration of two people starting a life together, not a gift grab or shakedown for spare change.

It is also against etiquette, no matter what the sales people tell you, to put ANY registry or gift requests in your invitations. If guests need to know what to get you they will ask. Trust me.

Answer 10

That is just not done, it's beyond tacky. You shouldn't ask for any gifts, much less money. The closest you can come to asking for gifts is registering at stores. Definitely don't do this, people will talk about you forever, they'll being telling your grandchildren about your tackiness.