i am a muslim and have had sex on many occations, and sometimes i feel i should have waited, i want to know if you think it is right or wrong ? and if you your self have had sex b4 marriage do u regret it?
2006-07-22 21:13:01 · 21 answers · asked by billy_uk 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is wrong. Sex is a gift that God gave to a husband and wife so that they could connect and express their love for each other. It is only right in God's eyes if the two engaging in sex are married.
I did have sex before marriage, and I DO regret it. It was a sin, and I have since asked for forgiveness. I have not always followed a Christian path, but do now. I have been forgiven for all my sins of the past.
2006-07-22 21:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very personal thing. How devout are you?
Speaking from a secular standpoint, would you buy a car without test driving it first?
From a logical standpoint, sex is a natural thing...marriage isn't. I've said this many times before, but here goes again. As a creature living on Earth, you're here for one reason...to propagate the species. No more, no less. With very few exceptions, most creatures, don't mate for life. Marriage as an institution was created to create bloodlines (preferred traits handed down), political reasons (to strengthen and create kingdoms), and control the population (fewer partners=fewer kids).
2006-07-22 21:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bill K Atheist Goodfella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the scriptures, I have every reason to believe that sex is the consumation of marriage. Having sex is "joing two as one", as it is reasoned that if a man "lays" with a prostitute he becomes one with her. And this bond, two become one flesh, is the very expression and mystery of marriage. If you have experienced this bond, have you not become spiritually married?
We have done a great disservice by trying to draw a line between sex and marriage. People think that they can have one without the other. It doesn't really work that way.
The distinction between sex and marriage is rather new to society. By the scriptures, if a man had sex with a woman who was not engaged to be married, she immediately became his wife and he could never divorce her. The only exception was if the father of the woman forbid it, but the father had the power to annul the woman's vows while she was under him (if he does so at the time he hears of her vow and not delay), so it's not an extraordinary exception.
2006-07-22 21:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Netchelandorious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit of a traditionalist (believe it or not). I think that loveless sex is a very sad thing. I think that marriage should, at least in theory, be the ultimate goal of someone you choose to have sex with.
But I don't think there's anything useful in being absolutist about sex before marriage. In my opinion, love, sex and marriage are all different aspects of the same thing and, as long as you have all three in the end, it doesn't matter which order they develop in.
Of course, that's easier said than done, but that ought to be the thought process behind your decision to have a physical relationship with someone. I think so anyway.
2006-07-22 21:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by XYZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeeezzzzz people you are all so negative. How can something so incredibly beautiful be wrong. You are basing you decisions and assumptions on words written in a book by a group of "men "claiming to be writing the words of God, Allah, what ever you wish to call him (her). Then it's been edited, rewritten and rearrange by countless other men over the millennium. " Making love" is the most natural, most exquisite thing there is on this earth, if more people were busy making love instead of war think what a wonderful world this could be!!!
2006-07-23 01:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth Im on the fense with this one, There is no doubt that it is wrong biblically, but I have found out that sometimes you just arent sexually compatible with everyone, and thats a big thing to find out before getting married. Becasue if you are stuck with someone who is a poor performer or just loses interest, you are stuck period unless you have an affair. So your sex life is over.
2006-07-22 21:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by h nitrogen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. To have sex before marriage is to cheapen the gift and ones self. If you have already done this you can "re-adopt the life style of a virgin."
Peace Be With You,
Debra
2006-07-22 21:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..id din't have sex before marriage...iam muslim too u know...as i said before...when u wait for sex until it's after marriage..u make sex during marriage as anew adventure and u always want to discover ur partner in sex...that gives aflavour to the marriage and sure makes it stronger...u want my opinion...even if u had sex b4 marriage...ask urself honestly...did this really was the best thing
2006-07-22 21:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by doctor^love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by Having sex b4 marriage ur disrespecting urself and ur future partner...moreover sex is a process you undergo to have kids...its a process not a fun thing you got to do all the time...you want to have fun..get a PS2...but don't go around humping ppl just to satisfy ur basic instincts...that's what differs us as humans is that we have control over ourselves.....so get a grip of urself and pray to god for forgiveness
2006-07-22 21:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by sphinx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is neither right nor wrong. Right and wrong and good and bad are moral constructs designed by humanity to control the masses. Do what you feel is right for YOU and don't accept anyone else's judgment on what that might be.
2006-07-22 21:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋