Is it wrong to give your heart and soul to a woman, To love her more ever year?

Question

I loved a woman so much that i told her every day that I loved her more and more. I cuddled and kissed her, told her she was beautiful, told her that I wanted to be with her when she grows old and wrinkled, told her I would die for her. I made love to her asif she were an angel, I made her orgasm in ways that made her almost faint. I gave her a home overlooking the med, and a Mercedes. I worked out in the gym untill my body was perfect, I gave her the freedom to be with others, I hated too, but she wanted it and although it almost destroyed me I gave her those others. She left me for a moronic fat millionair. I can't stop thinking of her, my life is meaningless, I have a new girl, but my mind returns to that woman i sold my soul for. People say she was a witch and that I am well rid of her, but love just can't end, can it? My tears never end and now I'm with a woman who keeps me prisoner, fears loosing me. Are there any women out there who would hate to be loved too much? she said so.

Answer 1

resortcaroline!
I can't imagine that woman you described.....I can't believe that someone would not appreciate your feelings, and leave you for money. There is nothing wrong with loving a woman too much, love is the most important value in a relationship for a woman (usually) and if you loved her as much as you described, you've done the right thing.
If you love, you have to love from the bottom of your heart, because this is the only love worth it. You can get hurt, but you're not stupid for giving your heart to a woman, because believe it or not there is a woman for you who would do the same for you, you just have to find her, and that woman, wasn't she! You'd better forget, and try to love someone as much as you loved her, but who feels the same way about you!Every woman dreams of a lover who loves her as much as you said, you've done nothing wrong, the problem was with her! She didn't love you as much as you loved her, if she did, she wouldn't have been with others.
You simply gave your hart to the wrong person, there is nothing wrong in that, it makes us more human, and makes life more interesting, because you were really in love and there were many happy moments you have to remember, and that is important. There will be another woman, whom you will love as much as you did this one, don;t worry, try to forget this love for her, but don't feel sorry for it, or don;t be embarrassed for it, because you did the right thing! The love for her will go away in time, and this time only depends on you! Good luck!

Answer 2

It's nice to buy someone something as a surprise every now and then, but to shower them can be extremely overwhelming. If you give someone too much freedom and never state how that makes you feel, then you can live in a cold and lonely world. You gave your heart to her, but it sounds like you never received hers. Face it, looks don't matter to that girl, the pocketbook did. She was a gold digger plain and simple.
There might have been things that you didn't mention to save face in you're question there, but setting all that aside, it didn't sound like she was interested in you and that you were trying to change yourself to someone you thought she would like. It's a bad habit that 98% of the entire population does, just remember not to do that ever again.
And the best part is, when her and Mr. Millionaire tanker-butt don't work out, she'll come crawling back to you. Be ready for this to tell her to ship out. It sounds like you didn't get the closure you needed anyways. That's usually another reason why some people just can't get over others from their past.
That's the best advice I can give, hope it helps.

Answer 3

No one can be Loved Too Much, nor would they hate to be Loved "Absolutely", there is no such thing as "Too much"., however people can Over-Express thier Love, sufficate (as ladybugewa pointed out) and overpowwer thier partner in it and ruin a relationship. We all need to feel as though we are Free Agents. Even in a Relationship, we need to feel a sense of Independance. Given what you have written in your question, I feel that Your (ex) girlfriend felt trapped. She must have felt that her every minute with You was some sort of Love Test. You say You made Yourself Perfect in the gym for Her. You told her you "would die for her". Your Lovemaking was so perfect she almost fainted etc.......everything was to the extreme. She must have felt in competition with You, smothered, suffocated.

Of course, perhaps you should examine Why Your behaviour towards her was to the extreme. It is possible that You are harbouring some very real insecurities that you do not recognise but others do, including your ex, and need to address those insecurities that make You Need to behave as You do with women.

Your question frankly is a warning to us all, male and females alike. Love has got it's boundaries. All people Need Space to live an independant life.....even in a relationship. Personaly I thank you for your question, I recognised from reading it that I too must be a bit overpowering and will now alter my behaviour to minimize stressing out the woman I Adore.

Answer 4

i think the problem was not that you loved her too much...u did ALL u could do to take care of her mentally, emotionally and physically, but it was that you didn't stand up for what you needed HER to do for you. she obviously wasn't giving you what you were needing, but you ACCEPTED that and therefore gave her all the power in the relationship. the thing about people is that if you give and give too much, not letting them know what boundaries are (ie, seeing other people), a lot of times they end up taking u for granted/taking advantage of your Lack of boundaries. if u had said "nope, if u act like this, if u cheat on me and don't appreciate me, you're out", then she may or may not have stayed. but at least u would've known if she was faithful or loved you enough to stay w/ you. most women i think experience this; they let the guy walk all over them because they love the guy, but he still ends up leaving. so if u were making sure u did all u could for the girl, but made sure she KNEW that you needed certain things in the relationship (respect, etc), then she would either stay and work on the relationship or been a b**** and u should have broken up w/ her. instead, u thought loving someone means doing anything she wants, even if its bad for the relationship. and that's not healthy.... i think u should remember that u have this wonderful capacity to love someone, and be and do all for them...now it's your job to take the next step and find someone who will make YOU feel attractive, needed, loved, appreciated and respected. don't settle until u find that someone. once u do, u will never even think about the old girl anymore, because she wasn't capable of the love and POSITIVE, healthy relationship that the *right* woman can give u. it's not going to be easy to find, but it's out there, ESP if u continue taking care of urself and work on being a confident man. don't stay w/ this new girl either if u don't feel it's right...u need someone who you are GOOD FOR, and is GOOD FOR YOU. (that's something that i prayed for when i broke up w/ my ex..and i found a great guy that i'm w/ now, and am more happy than i ever knew i could be in a relationship.) don't worry, u will find it. but give it time, and give it space: it's WORTH it to wait to find someone good enough for you. and its worth working on urself to be good enough for someone else.

Answer 5

There is a quote... Something along the lines of "the one who loves the least controls the realtionship"... Sounds like you loved the most. Anyway, been there and done that myself (though not to he extreme you did!).

The bottom line is that unless your relationship is a partnership of equals it is likely that troubles will develop. There is always another side to every story, but based upon your side of the story, I think it is time for you to move on, time to clear out anything that reminds you of her. It is ok to rebound into another relationship if it helps you move on - just don't get to the point of using this new lady in your life. That would not help you or her!

Here are 11 tips for getting over your ex (tailored for men apparently):

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/understanding/thinking/articles/0,,694165_698944,00.html?nlcid=c|481,16543

Use them with common sense - only do that which you feel comfortable doing...

Good luck, it all takes time...

Answer 6

Life goes on braw, take heart it happens to all once in a lifetime. Its just very painful but you'll get over it. You didn't need to rush into another relationship or what happens if she comes back in 2 months and apologises what will you do then?

Answer 7

it's not wrong. it just that u found the wrong person. thay don't know how 2 appreciate it. but, believe me, u r really great 2 love someone like that. people that said they hate 2 b loved 2 much r totally crazy

Answer 8

it all sounds too good to be true, l don't see the reason why she would leave if what you mentioned is all true, l think you forgot to mention something, if you are for real then its her lose, karma will get her one day, just try not to overdo it with your new girl, if you are not happy don't stay in a relationship just for the sake of it

Answer 9

You poor ol' duck. I would love to be treated like that. I cant offer you ant word to make things better, Just hope you feel better soon.

Answer 10

Maybe you suffocated her with all the attention? There's something you're not saying, I think. The situation seems bizarre.