I'm 19. I also have a girlfriend. She isnt implying sex, but some kind of sex act (oral, masturbation). I met her online and gave her my phone number after becoming friends. Since then we have met up about 15 times and even gone out to see a few movies (she only lives 15 mins away). She wont stop calling me and she knows I have a girlfriend, but she wants me to go over and "play" with her. What should I do to stop this? Its so tempting, but I just cant do it. Any advice to get her to stop?
2006-07-22 20:00:11 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you have herpes
2006-07-22 20:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this the wrong way, but this situation is your fault. You should not have started a friendship with a 16 year old girl, even if you did not have a girlfriend. Now you have a young girl with a crush on you. This will not be easy to handle. I think for starters you should tell your girlfriend about this friendship, explain to her that you were only friends with this girl, but now she is bugging you for sexual favors. Be ready for the tough questions, like why the hell you started a friendship with this girl to start with. Hopefully your gf will remain on your side, then she can go with you to talk to this girl, or maybe she should talk to her over the phone. Be prepared for the possibility that this girl might make stuff up that the two of you have done to try to get your gf to be mad at you or break up with you. Chances are though, she will be intimidated by your girlfriend enough to stop bugging you. If not, then get your phone number changed, make sure she doesn't know where you live. Also block her online in whatever communication you are using with her. I would not tell her parents since as an older male you will become the victimizer, and their daughter will be just a helpless little girl who got caught up with an older man.
2006-07-23 03:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by jillkmilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't find this to be a big deal personally- I dated way older men when I was young- when I was 15, I dated a 47 yr old guy (a work associate of my dads no less) and the experience was amazing- all I know about sex I learned from him, now I'm practically a love-making expert. I say go for what feels good!
2006-07-23 03:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong for having contact with her especially since you know she's only 16. Now after leading this child on you want to cut her off because you have a girlfriend.
Change your number immediately!
Your girlfriend should dump you and you need to spend time in jail!!!
2006-07-23 03:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ERM................. STOP TALKING TO HER and STOP PICKING UP HER PHONE CALLS!! does your girlfriend know about her? would you appreciate it if your girlfriend had a male friend who acts the same way as this girl you are describing? DUDE... have some respect for your girlfriend. WHAT are you doing meeting girls online anyway and going to the movies with them when you have a girlfriend. SOMETHING is OBVIOUSLY wrong with this picture.
2006-07-23 03:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by sweetxirony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could tell her how u feel like say" hey i think ur a cool friend but i really like my girlfriend and don't want to lose her by cheating",or u could say "look i think ur a cool person and fun to be around but just aren't the type for me to be committed to and my girlfriend is", or "um yeah i can't do this because i don't want to cheat on my girlfriend but we can be good friends". Then she shouldn't do it any more and if she does after that i would call someone for help for u and HER.
2006-07-23 03:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rocker#12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how tempting it might be it could be illegal and for another thing if ur gf doesnt know about it she could get seriously pissed justifiably so. and for one thing i would be royally pisseed if somebody did that and they knew i was in a relationship. the only thing i would do if i were u is tell her that u cant and that if she wont stop then ur going to have to stop seeing her. and if she still wont stop then i would have to stop seeing her and calling her.
2006-07-23 03:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by stuffofdreams12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is incapable of making adult decisions because she isn't one. The choice to perform statutory rape on an under aged girl is totally your choice. The consequences could devastate your future...especially with your girlfriend. Tell this girl not to be so fast to give her goodies.
2006-07-23 03:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Chromedragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away, fast. Seriously, don't do it. If you do, you could face jail time and have it on your permanent record. Can you change your number or block her from calling your house? Better yet, have you told her you are simply just not interested?
2006-07-23 03:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Enigma1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well now that your 19 if her mom and dad fround out about this you can go to jail for this . your just a kid . sex is not the answer you should be too busy with working and school do think about this .
2006-07-23 03:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by ranger19802003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's YOUR responsibility, esp if u say u have a girlfriend. take ur girlfriend with u when u meet her and show her that your girlfriend comes first
don't meet her alone anymore. that implies that you're willing to do **i* with her
2006-07-23 03:04:02 · answer #11 · answered by X box lady(who doesnt play Xbox) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋