is this cheating ?

Question

if you are in a relationship and you have had your up's and down's and you start talking to someone else on the phone as a friend but you fine youself liking these person but only you know is that cheatin serious answers

Answer 1

It's called having an emotional affair.
Hope this information helps:
Emotional Affairs
When most people think of affairs they imagine some sordid set-up involving secretive meetings and lots of sex. However, an affair does not have to involve sleeping with somebody else. If you are meeting up with someone else, growing attached to them, and keeping it all a bug secret from your partner, then you are still having an affair, whether or not you decide to sleep with the other person or not. This is known as an emotional affair, where you are secretively seeing someone with whom you have a strong emotional relationship.

Despite many people’s interpretation of an affair, this activity is more about deception than sex. An emotional affair has all the traits that most people attribute to an affair, but does not involve sleeping with someone. An emotional affair can be looked at as the period that leads up to a full-blown sex-based affair. It has been shown in studies that those people whose partners have had an affair have been more upset about the deception of it all than the fact that their partner had sex with someone else, and an emotional affair is all about deception.

Consider these questions:

§ Are you spending a lot of time with another person, but keeping it all a secret from your partner?

§ Are you saying things to this other person that you wouldn’t dream of doing with your partner present?

§ Are you telling this other person things that you wouldn’t tell your partner?

§ Do you really look forward to spending time with this other person, and have started making up reasons or putting in a lot of effort to get to see them?

If you answered yes to the above questions, you could be classed as having an emotional affair. You are basically deceiving your partner in order to spend time with another person to whom you have become attached.

If you suspect that your partner is having an emotional affair, it is important that this is the time when everything is brought into the open before things get out of hand and it turns into a sexual relationship. With an emotional affair, there is an equal chance of it either coming to an end or turning into a ‘real’ affair. However, if you leave it to fester and hope that it simply fizzles out, you may find that instead it turns into a ‘real’ affair, which may be far harder to deal with and more difficult to stop.

Answer 2

Cheating can be on an emotional level rather than a physical one. If your feelings for this person continue to grow and it starts to really effect your current relationship in a negative way you will need to tell your significant other.

Is it cheating though? Well what is it you want from this other person? The answer to that question will determine if its cheating. If you just want a friend, the answer is not cheating. If you are building towards more, then yes it is cheating. Think it over.

Answer 3

I had this conversation with someone recently. there are other versions of cheating besides the physical sense. You can cheat with your mind, your eyes, besides just your body. If you are mentally distracted from focusing your attraction and interest on the one you're in a relationship with...then the relationship needs to end if you are supposed to be serious. Otherwise...consider that yo aren't blind, and it's ok to "notice" others but when it turns into genuine attraction and interest..that is wrong. Your focus should be on your supposed one and only. if your attention is being lured away...either end the relationship or find a way to get your attention back to focusing on what it should be. If your attention is too easily strayed, then that should tell you something. The right person will hold onto your attention and attraction. Something to think about..

Answer 4

Most people that have already answered is right. It is not cheating. You haven't done anything.

But if you're still not convinced and you feel bad. Well, I think it's best to equate what you're doing to a perfect stranger on the street. Suppose, for example, you were walking down the street and a really cute guy ask you for directions. Is it cheating that you think he's hot? Is it cheating that you think he's cute? The fact that you feel someone is charming or a movie star is cute doesn't make it cheating.

So what makes it cheating? Acting on it! If you go out with say To cruiese it would cheating

Answer 5

Depends on the type of relationship you have with your other. Also, who is the jealous one? There is usually one jealous party in each relationship. The other is usually more laid back and trusting. Finally, timing can make a big difference. Do you get on the phone after a fight? That will surley piss him off. As a rule of thumb, if you have to sneak to do it and you think he won't approve of you doing it then it is cheating, on an emotional level. You can also reverse the situation and think how you would like it if he did it to you.

Answer 6

No, that's friendship. And there's nothing wrong with that at all.

If you're taking it to flirting, innuendo, 'phone sex' or other intimate talk, THEN you have cause to worry about cheating.

Remember... once you're in a relationship, it deosn't mean you can't interact with others of the preferred sex. It just means you should only be intimate with your partner, unless you're one of those lucky couples that can honestly manage an 'open' relationship and not have issues with it.

Answer 7

It is emotional cheating. I don't think what is important is the label - cheating or not cheating. What you should think about is what you would want your boyfriend to do if the tables were turned, and he was talking to someone on the phone and started to have feelings for her. Would you want him to tell you so that at least you could open your heart to other guys? I think that is only fair.

Answer 8

Really to tell you the truth its not cheating unless theres is something going on you and your freind better keep as freinds cuase if you do that then your freind would take advantage of the situation and want to take the freindship higher and you have trouble with your boyfreind and ill be a problem later unless you break it off with your boyfreind and go wit your freind

Answer 9

No, this is thinking of cheating.

Cheating would to be actual sexual stuff like the obvious, phone sex, sending nekkid pictures through the Internet.

However if the thought is there you should re-evaluate the situation. Once the thought is there it is an easy road to go down.

Answer 10

Yes... well, @ least I consider it cheating...

I think kissing (&up) is cheating, Flirting is Cheating's ugly sister, and Thinking about someone else (more than a friend) is Cheating& Flirting's evil cousin... But I can be a lil' strict sometimes...