Does anybody spank their children?

Question

i don't but i might because my kid is really bad,how should i pank my kids?

Answer 1

on the bottom with a belt

Answer 2

I spank but only because my child needs the extra push to do what he's told. He's 2 and 1/2 and a hellian. Spank only when you are not angry and warn first. Say "I told you that if you...that I am going to spank you. Then spank them. If they laugh you're not doing it right. Some kids just need a stern look, others need more. Tell them you love them and want them to behave so you can have a good day together...or so they don't get hurt (like if you spank them for running out into a parking lot or running away from you in a store). Never spank when you're angry!! Only when you're calm and when a time out or stern voice won't work.

Answer 3

My husband and I have agreed to reserve spanking for when the child does something dangerous and he won't respond to "no" or time outs. Hit firmly, but if it hurts your hand, you're hitting way too hard. It should only mildly sting... enough for a shock and to let them know that it's getting serious. And if you're angry or upset, never ever spank your child. You aren't in as much control and it can get to be habit. I will say that both me and my husband were spanked as children. With me, my dad used it as a main disciplinary technique and I grew up fearing men. I'm still terrified, and if a guy seems like he's remotely angry with me, I automatically get defensive and often start crying. My dad also tried time outs which didn't work, and he started those because spanking didn't work. Surprisingly enough, the one thing he didn't try until I was 10 or so was just talking to me, and once he did I calmed down. I got pretty traumatized, but I think it was also because my dad did spank me hard (bare hand, not bare bottom) and sometimes did it when he was very angry with me. My husband was actually spanked with a switch and it still didn't stop him from doing something wrong. He just found new ways to test it. It even amounted to him and his mom getting into a huge fight when he was older, which his step dad had to stop before things got way out of hand. He was never traumatized like I was, and I've started getting over it (though it's taken years) so all together, we're fine. But really the main warning here is to keep in control of yourself, and make sure you've also tried other avenues. I'll admit: sometimes spanking is necessary. It just shouldn't happen really often.

Answer 4

There are better ways of disciplining a child than spanking. Firt try them and only if they dont work, than you may spank them a little. But i think that taking away favourite object (toy, TV, PC) is much more effective! The key is to be consistent. Always keep your promise. If you banned them to watch TV for 3 days, dont let them watch it for exactly 3 days! Write down things for which they are going to be punished. If they do them, punish them. If they protest tell them: "We have an agreement, if you do this, you will recieve a punishment". Say this in a calm, quiet, but firm voice. It really works! Spare spanking only as a LAST resort, when you tried everything else ( including talking about the misbehaviour with the child and being sure its not a cause of emotional prblems that should be solved sensitively).
Good luck!

Answer 5

It depends on what he has done. If it isn't too bad the I just pop his hand but if it is something like talking back then I spank his butt. He is learning. I didn't start spanking him until he was old enough to understand what it meant. He is now 2 1/2 and after he gets a whoopin I ask him why I had to spank him and he can always tell me.

Answer 6

First of all, you need to not think of your child as being 'bad'. We use the 'naughty' word in my house. That way my daughter knows it's not HER that's bad, but her actions or behavior. You can spank, but don't do it when your angry. I know, that's REALLY hard. You need to take a couple breaths first. I count backward from 5 before I spank. That way, my daughter knows it coming if she doesn't stop that behavior by the time I get to 1. It also gives me time to chill. After the whole spanking scenario (spank and the crying) is over, I talk to her and tell her that I still love her even though she did a naughty thing, and we talk about it. Before we drop the subject, I make sure neither one of us is mad anymore. And then it's over. Don't bring it up again.

Answer 7

I don't have kids, but I think it's perfectly fine to spank your kids. It's a good thing. Those kids who aren't spanked are the ones that go to school with guns. . . Some kids just need to slapped on their little rearends from time to time. I'm a teen and I think not enough kids are spanked when they need it. Then they get my age and by that time they're doing VERY bad things. Good Luck.

Answer 8

I just started spanking. I didnt believe that it was a good thing until my daughter would not listen & the time outs would not work. I did lots of research online and they say to do one quick spank on the bottom with clothes. Just enough to give her a little "I mean business" spank. Dont spank out of anger but to let them know you are not happy. I do use time outs when they work but my LAST resort is a spank. Believe me it works! and the fear of another spank even works better!!

Answer 9

Time outs (done like Supernanny) work better. Spanking is a loaded topic. There is spanking and some people think they spank when they are actually beating. So if you do spank, make sure to look it up and do it right, or else you'll see them on Oprah in a few years...;)

Answer 10

How should you spank your kids?
answer: out of pure love-
never out of anger,
never with a raised voice.
Firmly, but not to hard.
with consistancy
I spank my children for 3 things, and 3 things only:
1. Lying
2. Disobedience (I mean obeying your voice the 1st time)
3. bad attitudes

If they got these 3 down pat, they will be very well-behaved children. Very pleasant to be around. When one of these 3 things are broken, I get the paddle (wooden spoon usually), and they must touch the bed, and stand still to get their spankings. Usually about 2 or 3 firm ones. Enough to sting. Depends on the crime. I hate lying more than anything, so they might get about 7 of those for lying. Then, after the spanking session is over, I ask them why they got spanked. They must tell me why, or some kind of communiction went wrong. Then they must say they are sorry, and name the thing they got spanked for. Saying "I'm sorry" is not enough. They must say "I'm sorry for _______". Then I give them a hug, love them up, and tickle them or something to keep the communication lines open. never tell them to go to their room after you spanked because they will just think of reasons why that was so unfair, or why they were right, and you were wrong. Yes, spanking must be administered in love. Never spank for accidents, or things like they are just being kids- such as running around, or being loud or things like that (unless you tell them to stop- then that would be disobeying.) I am a mother of three, and have peaple begging me to babysit my kids because they are happy, sweet, enjoyable children. Perfect??? Haaa!!! NOPE!!! But they are enjoyable to be around for the most part. I love them, and spend time with them, read them books on free time.

Hope this helps- and a key word is CONSISTANT- don't spank them for something one day, and let them get away with it tomarrow. This method won't work. It's not easy, but rewarding.

Answer 11

time outs and takeing things away work best but u have to be verry consistant aobut it and it also depneds on the age if htey are todles or ying children the time out goes for ever how old the child is htats how many min htey are in time out for if the child is 2 then its 2 min if the child is 3 then its 3 min of the child os 4 then its 4 min so on and so on if it is an older child try taking things away that he or she is relly into and lieks take them away for a few days or a week and see how they act if they still act up then kepp takeing them away if htey ahve nothing and sitting in there rooms stareing at a wall for a few days im sure they will change there attitudes real fast but all kids act up now and then jsut be verry consistant aobut everyhting and never give in