ok, I meet this guy about 3 months ago through a friend.
she gave me his number beacuse he asked my friend to, as he already had her number....... after about 2 months of txtin we finaly caught up agin just the two of us...... we had sex that night.
and then when he left he kised me and saidhe would talk to me later, he then txt me later that day, we keep on making a time to catch up again but keep getting busy, he only wants sex but i dont, but i told him that just sex was fine with me, im pretty sure once he gets too know me better he will like me. or have i ruined it... P.S he is really kinky and all about sex...... which is kinda a turn off.
2006-07-22 18:20:44 · 23 answers · asked by prettybee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Hey guys thank for the help, im attracted to this guy he looks after him self has a good job. i actually asked him what he wants from this and he said " i think your a great and nice chick, intense but nice, and i think we could have some fun together". at first i told him no that i wasnt emotinally ready for that, and then a week later i txt him and we decided to meet up again..... and i dont sleep around i made it a standard of mine to never have a firends with benfits relation ship, but this time i said to my self maybe i need to do it at least once, beacuse what i was doind before wasnt getting me a boyfriend either, all im getting is guys that want sex..... i i had never put out to any of them.
2006-07-22 18:39:33 · update #1
Two things, either he views the relationship as a friend with benefeits partnership or looking at the facts, he wanted you to have his number and he kissed you when leaving and wanted to see you again, and he contacted you again as he said he would.
Honestly, I think you should let him know what you want.
Good luck.
P.S. Usually when a guy says he will call you, and he actually does call you like he said, he is really into you.
2006-07-22 18:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by shogun 3 · 21⤊ 3⤋
why worry about it either your only going to have sex with the guy or it will turn into something more guys are werid and you never know cause all of them don't always show or tell how they really feel. So keep your options open and play his game with him, go out or be busy with someone else and you can even lie if you want and see if he gets pissed or not but it will either open up more feelings or it will be time to move on. For all you know he could be married and just getting a piece on the side.
2006-07-23 01:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to begin with, you shouldn't have had sex the first night! And even if you did, you shouldn't have said that your okay with just having sex. Mistakes happen.
I think you should text him and talk bout other things. Maybe call him too. Eventually maybe ask him if he wanted to get lunch or dinner. It's not going to be easy to get his attention as a "friend" first but you have to give it a try. Like you said, once you he gets to know you he'll like you better. Best of luck!
2006-07-23 01:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want more than just sex, you have to let him know that. Otherwise things could end very badly. Besides if you are turned off by his sexual style, you definatly do not want him thinking that you are in it just for the sex! Right now, all you are is a booty call who has lied about her intentions and feelings.
2006-07-23 01:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by samikay2683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the mistake of telling him just sex is ok with you. Get it all straightened out with him and convey to him that you are serious. But don't be a push over. Stand up for respect.
2006-07-23 01:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple: HE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU that is why he only wants to have sex with you. Move on. There are other hot men out there that would be delighted having a girl like you.
2006-07-23 01:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex. Some people aren't capable of relationships. Sorry if that's harsh but the world isn't a kind place.
2006-07-23 01:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slwo down on the sex, if you give him sex, hes gettign what he wants, why woudl he try for anythign else, plus hes free to do any other chick, if you tell him you wanna slow down and he bails, well than sorry, but thats all he wanted, than again you told him sex was fine, and you lied, cause its not, thats why you dont lie, i dont mean be a goody two shoes, but lyign is just stupid
2006-07-23 01:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by woundshurtless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do stuff to make him like you more..
Just be yourself, if he likes that, then great. If he doesn't, then just move on..Spend time with him, if he's not willing to do that, then you were just a booty call hunnie...
Guys are able to have sex without any emotional attachment..Its just a bit harder for women..so just try just actually spending time with him to get to know him, and for him to see you for who you are...
& by spending time, i dont mind kinky sex, that's pretty nasty..you should hint to him that you dont like that..lol
good luck!
2006-07-23 01:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very foolish. You should not be using sex to attract a guy. Sex is something you save for someone who you love, and who love you. What will you do when you get pregnant and he leaves you. He is NOT interested in anything but his pleasure and very soon, he will break your heart.
Find someone who likes you for you not for sex.
2006-07-23 01:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Yourname Here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already told you all he wants is sex. Maybe if you had not put out so soon he would have come to like and respect you more.
2006-07-23 01:25:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋