I just met my four year old daughter. I want to get to know her but I don't know what to ask her. Is there anyone who could help me with getting to know her better?
2006-07-22 18:14:10 · 9 answers · asked by Skyler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't have to try so hard just spend as much time with her that you can let time take it course everything will fall into place just hug her and love her and don't let her go
2006-07-22 18:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by runninglate 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My four year old daughter asked me the other day why God made her daddy a bad daddy. The only thing she wants is for him to call her. Trust me, just being there and showing effort means more than you know right now. Show her genuine affection, and pay attention to her when she's talking. Answer her questions, and ask her some too. Your conversations with her mean more than anything you could do with her or buy for her. Tell her that you love her, and mean it. Back up your words with actions, and she will respond. She will be happy to get to know you, if you just stay focused on her.
2006-07-22 18:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by godluvsmommas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Why have you never met her? Is she newly adopted or have you just entered her life after an absence since her birth? If you've been absent and she has a family she's still with, you should only be seeing her when she's brought by and cared for by people she knows. You are a stranger.
If you've adoped her, or if you are just new to her life, when you hang out with her and these other people, you see what she likes, involve yourself, and ask questions from there. 4 year olds are NOT going to give you most info about themselves verbally. It will be from play and by observing her and her reactions to you. You should have complete and utter respect for her feelings. Let her lead the way, set the pace. She owes you nothing. Your feelings are really not imporant. She is not there to please you.
You must read books about child development if you aren't extensively familiar with the topic. The Irreducible Needs of Children is wonderful, but a scholarly read. Natural Child Project is a wonderful website with lots of insights about kids.
If she's happy about seeing you or you've adopted her, try to relax, enjoy, have fun. Let her know about you and your interests.
2006-07-22 18:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play with her with her favorite toys. You don't need to go anywhere or do anything, a child that age just wants someone to play with. Ideally if you do go somewhere if should be a place where they can express themselves and tell you things, so that would include the beach, but exclude the movies. Save them for later.
2006-07-22 18:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems so big that you think there must be something to do about it. There is nothing you need to do. Just tune in to her and how she is. Questions will come naturally as will smiles and affection. No effort is required. You are very fortunate to finally be with her. She is your daughter!
2006-07-22 18:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so lucky that you have your daughter whole life ahead of her! Take this chance to just be around her, take her to the park, color in coloring books with her, take her to the movies, take her to the beach, be an active part of her life from this point forward! How lucky she is to finally have her daddy in her life! Good luck to you!
2006-07-22 18:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her somewhere and spend some time alone with her and get to know here that way. The zoo My brother likes it, park, the mall -get her something she likes (have to get to know her to get here something), go to the beach, etc.
Ask what kind on shows, movies, books she likes. Ask if she has any friends. What does she like? What kind on foods does she like? her favorite color, etc.
2006-07-22 18:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by beast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play with her, 4 year olds want someone to play with, can I recommend "Littlest Pet Shop" , 4 year old girls love them and they are affordable, or just color a picture together, she will tell you about herself when you draw together. Good luck, little girls love their daddys.
2006-07-22 18:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can ask her about what she likes sports tv shows, music, movies, her friends, what does she likes to do for fun, tell her about u, take her out, tell her about ur child hood, tellher about ur self now, what u do for a living, u know get to know her and make sure she gets to know u do something special for her to
2006-07-22 18:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by *OMG* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋