Okay so my mom pretty much doesn't want me to have a boyfriend she says im to young, which i can understand. However i go to my dads house (which is about 30 mins away) every other weekend. I have a boyfriend over there and my step mom and dad are fine with it. But because my mom isn't i only see him every other weekend and i have to sneak phone calls with him. Pretty pathetic. How can I be loyal to all three parties 1) my mom 2) my dad & step mom 3) my boyfriend
[[ FYI i just turned 14 two weeks ago ]]
2006-07-22 18:00:03 · 10 answers · asked by lhsdancehayla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well he knows about my mom and he seems to be okay with it, but sometimes when we talk on the phone or i can't call him back when he leaves me a message on my cell i feel bad.
2006-07-22 18:10:55 · update #1
yea this probably doesn't matter much but my mom and dad never got married. they both eventually got married and my mom now has 3 sons with my step dad
2006-07-22 18:17:17 · update #2
1.) You have to be honest with your mom, because, well, she's your mom! She has cared for you and raised you all your life, and lying to her would just be a no-no. Just tell her how much this boy means to you and tell her that you won't turn into one of those scandalous 4-cent hoes. Also tell her that she can have the last draw (i.e. if she think it's getting TOO out of hand, than she can call it quits for you), but at least ask her to give him a shot first.
2.) These two shouldn't be a problem considering the fact that you said that they are both fine with it. Just make sure that your boyfriend respects them and they respect your boyfriend.
3.) Tell your boyfriend about your family, especially your mom. So, for instance, if your mom asked to meet him, be honest with him and warn him in advance that your mother doesn't really approve whole-heartedly of you two together and that he needs to make a great first impression!
Okay, good luck, and I hope this helps!
2006-07-22 18:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You mention of not being in love and yet you have to sneak phone calls with him. There have to be some thing about him that make you do that.
You are 14 yrs of age and at this age there is nothing wrong to have a male friend, once you are prudent and don't get your self pregnant and ruin your chances of success in Education.
So far you seem to be doing a good job of balancing all three people concern for some time. You alone can make this decision as were to go from there.
2006-07-22 18:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just understand your mom's situation,you have a broken family and she is afraid that you will be having an early marriage as her married life does not work! I think you must move to your dad and step mom place so that you are totally free,because they are both liberated opposite to your mom and about your Bf, just give limitations and there is nothing wrong with that as long as he respects you and let you finish schooling before pre-marital sex! But if you love your mom(even if she is over protective about you because you are too young for a relationship) You must stick with her and don;t talk about BF because what happen to you is normal and your mom's reaction is normal too for such a parent who thinks about their children's future!Just be fair and show your mom that you keep studying even you have a BF,later on your mom will accept all situations if you show her that you are a well disciplined daughter!Good luck!
2006-07-22 18:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your mom about how you feel. If she still wants things her way then you may want to consider moving in with your dad and step mom. That is if you really want the freedom of having a boyfriend. Personally I think you're old enough to have a boyfriend.
2006-07-22 18:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mom. She really is just doing the best thing for you I promise. I'm still a teen and now that I look back on some of the stuff I was outraged about that my mom told me I realize she just done it in my best interest. She's right ya know. . .14 is to young to have a bf. There's plenty of time for boys trust me. . .hang with your friends and learn yourself before you get in a BF/GF relationship. Good Luck!
2006-07-22 18:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you do not want to be like the other teens your age who are lying and sneaking around their parents backs, and that you'd rather her be involved in your life as a friend as well as a mother. You are going to have feelings and experiences in life any way, so ask her if she wouldn't rather it be in a controlled, parental environment instead of some secret life that she doesn't know about.
2006-07-22 18:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him what's going on and ask him if he can accept the fact that you 2 wont be able to be together all the time, if not then he'll have to get over it, and he may dump you. if your dad is fine with it, then you should be able to have a bf at his house, and if your mom finds out, then just tell her ur dad says its fine! dont worry about it, and ignore the inevitable answers saying that your 2 young and should be dating at all! ok, we have every right to date! i'm 14 also btw
good luck & god bless!
-Jasmine
2006-07-22 18:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points for mui
2006-07-22 18:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by dancerchicka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. you are too young, so lose 3) boyfriend.
2006-07-22 18:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by erk m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell yhe truth
2006-07-22 18:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋