i've been close friends with this one guy for a long time and we've always had chemistry. recently, tuesday, we started dating. i really like him, he's smart and sweet and funny and over all a great guy! the problem is: he's a virgin. i am not. he is 3 yrs older than i am. he knows i'm not a virgin, and he and i have discussed sleeping together once... and throughout the whole conversation it was hinted that he only wanted sex it wasnt sex with ME that was important to him... idk if i'm just over reacting and i think he likes me for other reasons, but i cant be sure... as invasive as this may sound... could someone please respond to me (preferably a guy) who would befriend him and help me out... i know its horrible... but I HAVE to know what's going on with our relationship, and i'm too afraid to discuss it with him... please help!
2006-07-22 17:58:02 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hon I'm sorry, but you'll have to talk to him about it sooner or later! decide if you want it to be after you get hurt, or before, on your terms! I say the second one.
I'm not saying that he's using you, I'm saying that if he is, it'd be best to find out now.
if you want to get the truth out of him, I say to something really sexy with him, and while so doing ask him. he'll probably be shocked, I would be, but it should be sufficient.
be really sharp.
:D have fun, and always practice safer sex.
2006-07-22 18:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this guy use you. Sex isn't a game. It should be part of the cement that holds two people together in a long-lasting, committed relationship.
Why do you even what to THINK about having sex with a guy who you believe is just using you. Why don't you give your relationship with him some time (sex free) and see what is going on with him. And I don't mean three weeks either.
If he cares about you he can wait for sex with you, if he can't wait let him use someone else to lose his virginity with.
2006-07-22 18:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can be odd when it comes to sexual satisfication. If he was merely looking at pornographic websites and getting off on it then techinically it should not be that bad, for he is relieving some tension that maybe sometimes even yourself needs to get off if your significant other is busy. Maybe he is ashamed of what he is doing and is terribly afraid to tell you. Possibly a serious sit down and talk about both of your feelings in the bedroom would help in clearing the matter. However, the part that scares me about this is his "on-line sex" believe it or not on-line or not it is, in my opinion, a form of cheating. Maybe he doesn't believe it or does you need to confront him and tell him how you feel, just hiding that you know that doesn't help your relationship. Sorry for your predicament but facing it will answer all your questions. Best wishes!
2016-03-27 03:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are too afraid to discuss anything with him then you have absolutely no business having sex with him. Are you going to be able to discuss the child you two create together. What is wrong with you. You have no business having sex, with this guy. You have chemistry but you cant talk about being intimate.
You are not ready for sex with anyone.
2006-07-22 18:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by Yourname Here 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is your sense of guilt that is bloating this situation!!!Your friend, probably, is keeping away from sex thinking that you will refuse him and you otherwiseQQ There is no need of a guy to help you. You would have discussed a lot more beyond sex but discuss frankly about it. If refused, dont worry, he considers you as friend only!!!
2006-07-22 18:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's only using you 4 sex ask him if he loves and see what his reaction is and you decide or just ask him what does he like about you the most and what drives him crazy. If he answers any of these questions dealing with sex than you know sumthing iz up. Or just give up sex for as long as you think possible and see does he stick around or doesn't want to act like he likes/loves you.
2006-07-22 18:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry that you didn't realize that all the guys what only that! I am tired of guys like that. i meen whenever i start to be interested in a guy he plays nice for a time and the minute he starts to see that i like him he pops the question: when do whe have sex? it's not that I am a virgin or something it's just that all want it very, very soon! for more contact: hatshy2005@yahoo.com
2006-07-22 18:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by ioana p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if you ever think that some one is using you for sex then try and start a different ? when u are talking with him if he brings up sex ask him if he would like you if you didnt want o have sex and if he says no then that tell you that he dont really want you he wants what between your legs so then it then and their when you need to make your decision because if you dont you will still wonder ..... oh yea and if you afraid to talk to him tell him you want to slow down a little bit you not ready to give it up yet ..... believe me its worth it because you never want to give your body to the wrong person
2006-07-22 18:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by tweetygirl_2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had sex with him, neither one is a virgin. But the fact that one is and the other isn't shouldn't make any difference. I think he's really into you, but is anxious enough to want sex, that he can't wait any longer. Frankly, I don't blame him, if that's truly the case.
2006-07-22 18:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant have an open, honest, and candid conversation with your boyfriend, then you have no business being with him. Communication is one of the most important elements to any relationship.
So, either get over your fear and talk to him, or find someone else with whom you can speak openly with.
and on a side note..if you cant talk to him, then you shouldnt even be considering having sex with him.
just my thoughts
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2006-07-22 18:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋