Do you throw things or curse when you get angry?

Question

My mom once threw a fork at my dad in a fit of rage. She missed and it struck the refrigerator leaving prong marks on the side of the frig. They turned out to be a daily reminder of her "attack" until the frig had to finally be replaced. She also threw her sandwich on the floor one afternoon after losing her temper with him. He left it there all day, and it still lay there ( with flies buzzing around it ) that night when she got home from work. What do you think of such outbursts on her part and stubborness on his?

Answer 1

why didnt u pick up the sandwich?

Answer 2

There is a disease that causes this. It's new and people are starting to realize it. The symptoms are anger that goes into violent fits. It is like they can't control the way they react. I'm not sure what they called it but I have read articles on it. They are saying that it starts when they are young and as they grow older the more the fits happen when things happen, stress and everyday living can make things magnified and make the anger turn violent. She can't control it, it just happens. There is help with councilers, if she wants the help.
Your Dad is used to it, he accepts it as the way she is. He doesn't know what else to do and decides that if he doesn't react maybe it will go away. He doesn't realize that it is making it worse, but if he reacted the violence may be worse. He is doing the only thing that he knows how to do.
Take it easy on Mom, she's dealing with a disease. Slow up on Dad, he's trying to stop the anger...Try to talk with Mom about the issue and see if she can get help from her Dr. and Dad will tune in to whatever happens with Mom. He's lived with her and he knows her, at least how she is now.
Take care.

Answer 3

I have Asperger Syndrome (high-functioning autism), and I have behavioral issues. I am basically a kind person, but when overwhelmed and overstimulated, I become impulsive and can become upset. I admit I do have a major swearing problem. I developed it mainly as a way to deal with my high-anxiety and to keep me from getting physically aggressive. I am starting new treatment next week. Hopefully I will get back on track. I am not an easy caseload (and have been dropped for it), or person to live with, but I am not a purposely mean or abusive person, either.
Try to get your mom to counseling. If she ever does anything like that with the fork again, you can call 911 and have her admitted to the psych ward of your local hosp. That is tough, but is a place to start. Your dad may have to issue an ultimatum for the good of your family. My sister had to do that with her husband...he chose the bottle. Unfortunately, that is reality, but she is no longer with an abusive man.
I wish you luck. I need some, too.

Answer 4

We cannot tell you, because we know too little information, such as family what triggers the conflict and how is life in your family, etc.

Also, there is really no need to have right or wrong, dwelling on who's right wrong win lose blame game is most meaningless, unhelpful and destructive.

It takes 2 keys for make noise.

One thing I know it's that your parent need some marriage counselling, and your family (parents and you and others) need counselling.

Hope you all will get the harmony back asap.

Answer 5

I have a tendancy to curse when I get angry, I don't throw things, but I will slam doors.

I think your mom needs to get things under control before she hurts someone or herself. She needs to find out what is at the root of her temper tantrums, whether it is the issue at the moment or if there is something more basic that lies beneath and this incident is used as an outlet.

She needs to see a doctor to find out what is eating at her.

Oh yeah, I wouldn't have picked it up either. Maybe if she has to face the results of what she does often enough then maybe she will realize she has a problem and will seek help for it.

Good luck and I hope you know how to duck fast.

Answer 6

I know people who act on rage...I seriously consider taking them to a batting cage or a golf range...these people will do wonders swinging a bat...I think by having a bat in their hands and hitting a ball, or a club hitting a golf ball or even punching a bag do wonders for that rage...I think that is the safest way to exert that energy so that these things can be done in a way that they can come home and have much of the anger out of their system...

Answer 7

My husband used to throw things and break things when he got mad. I cured him of it. I used to just sit there while he did it. Then one day I decided to give him a taste of his own medicine. The more he threw, I threw too. lol..after it was all done...he realized how foolish and childish his behavior was. Sounds like your mom has temper tantrums and maybe she needs to get something for it from her Dr, like Prozac. All couples disagree,but talking things out is a lot better then throwing and breaking things. If that doesn't work then they need counseling before it becomes physical.

Answer 8

well she should have a reason for doing that because she`s having a fit.. Of course when people are in a rage they tend to do crazy things even if it`s throwing things around like king kong. Just leave them alone.. this probably has to with a marriage problem am i right?

Answer 9

Cursing can be inappropriate, depending on what exactly you say. But the throwing thing...that's physical expression of anger. Your mom needs to see a therapist to help get that under control. it is not typical (i hate the word "normal"), and it is DEFINITELY NOT ok. I'm glad you are questioning that behaviour. Many people grow up to think that their parents behavior illustrates how adults are "allowed" to act. She should seek help. So should your dad.

Answer 10

I tend to do both...mostly curse though...but that's not any different than me on a daily basis (I curse all the f*cking time :P)...I don't usually throw things unless I'm overly angry, usually when I start to cry (weird for someone to cry when they're mad, I know, but I do :D) I'll throw sh*t. Not at anyone, just at the walls or floor. Does wanting to throw your husband out the window count??

Answer 11

No, I never curse and I don't throw things when I get angry. I've always found it important to control my temper. I grew up in a home where acts of violence were daily occurences.