I'm always wrong, he is never wrong, and never ever bring up his faults, that will be an arguement you can not win.
I did I called him on it.
2006-07-22 17:47:45 · 13 answers · asked by prayingangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's mad enough, he's not going to stop you, even if he does love you. How would you like it if someone else shoved our faults down your throat? You and he can discuss your differences without a big argument, but only if you don't attack him, just tell him how YOU feel (like, "my feelings are hurt when you tell me I'm wrong"), and don't use words like "always" and "never". Lots of people know they're wrong, but don't want to admit it, out of fear mostly. If you hit him over the head with it, it's probably too much to expect him to come running after you.
2006-07-22 17:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people are like that. I mean whom really likes to have what they do wrong splayed in their face...even if it is in a fight. And in the middle of a fight tempers run high, tensions are there, and your body and mind are effected.
Thing to remember is that even in the middle of a fight, it does take two. One can not fight with themselves, so in a sense, something is wrong on both sides, whether it is due to a simple misunderstanding or something larger. Each one both feeling they have a right to be angry.
Sometimes its often good to "go to corners" as I call it. We are human and we all fight, specially with the ones We love. The saying "We hurt the ones we love" is very true. We lash out at them because We know that they do love us. We want them hurt before they can hurt us. In doing so makes a larger fight. Going to corners, taking some time apart, and sitting down, and actually thinking sometimes defuses anger. That doesnt mean it has to be hours or days, but even a few moments can be enough sometimes to help.
In the middle of a fight, try to keep your cool, even if it means becomming quiet so that way you may try to think. Dont have diarhea of the mouth and keep running it. Try to listen to what the other party is actually saying, and try to be calm. Dont accuse. Accusations will make a fight grow large like a wild fire licking at dry leaves If you have an accusation, put it in the form of.."it seems like" or "it feels like to Me that you"...it off sets the person. You are no longer accusing and you are stating how you feel. Sometimes in the middle of a fight..just stop and give the person a hug. That can deflate anger. Give you a better starting point to be able to talk. Break the fight so to speak.
No one likes to fight but when you do fight, some of these things can be helpful I know I have fought both ways, and had much better and more effective fights, that have moved towards discussions and then actual talking with the other person with what I have said.
Of course this works for Me. And what works for Me may not always work for everyone, the only thing you can do is try it. If it works cool, if it doesnt...well then another plan needs to be put inplace.
I hope I have been of some help, and good luck.
2006-07-22 18:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he cares...somewhere along the way he should be showing it. He's got a good ego going on there and you'll never compete. You deserve better don't you?
You called him on it...now look in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve better and you're going to have it and there's no looking back. Then stay away from this guy because if you ever ended up married to him...it would be a marriage that would be rocky to say the least. You want a good relationship don't you? You can have it ...just not with this guy.
Good luck
2006-07-22 17:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really does make you feel that you are always the one who's "wrong" in every argument, then he is a classic manipulator. You will probably end up feeling really bad about yourself because of the way you guys are communicating. Save yourself a lot of emotional damage and move on. There are guys out there who will never want to see you upset and never want to see you cry. This guy is just projecting all of his emotional insecurities onto you. Love shouldn't be so mean. It can be lovely. Allow yourself the chance to experience that.
2006-07-22 17:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by slpla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you drive off, you've ended the argument.
He wouldn't stop you because he'll wait to talk until you're both in a calmer, more rational mood.But sounds like you need to find someone just as wrong as you are, and forget Mr. Perfect.
2006-07-22 17:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like the old fall to the ground waiting to get picked up. Grow up. Stop the games. Do you have a brain? You are like a little child.
2006-07-22 17:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by ricaca123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times when things get too heated up it's best to walk away for the time. of course the couple should talk about it when both are calmed this allows them to make wiser choices.
2006-07-22 17:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in a relationship like that. End up, and move on. You will save yourself a lot of stress and you will eventually find someone who really cares about you and makes you happy.
2006-07-22 17:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me on this move on...
you do not need the stress or the drama.
you are expecting a reaction that you are never going to get...
he may not be the guy for you, maybe this is just a learning experience.
2006-07-22 17:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One or both of you is playing games. Game playing in a relationship will never work.
2006-07-22 17:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋