after i had told her a lie about making a phone call about checking on a job, she finds out that i didn't, we argue about the lie and she says "i will not live like this anymore" and then i threaten to leave, we have just moved 2300 miles to start a new life together, she says fine leave, i didn't mean it i was just angrey but now she wants me gone, i have said i am sorry and want to work on the relationship but it's" get out of my life", oh yea she has said this twice before over the last two years when i thought the relationship was going well, but had just had a fight help i love her but what do i do?
2006-07-22 17:33:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When harsh words are said, it takes time to cool down. One of the best things you can do is let time heal it. If she loves you she will let you know when its right. If you keep on her she will only run away. Give her some space and see if she really wants this. If its mean to be it will happen. You can only love for one not both of you.Its going to hurt but try and bear it. I can tell you I know what you are going through. If you can't handle this try going up on a mountain and cry...I know it sounds funny but it works. Tell yourself what you want to happen, what you expect from her, what you expect from you . Sit with yourself for awhile feel the hurt and deal with it. Thats a part in healing. And for the most part of all this think about your part in this whole thing. Cause when you guys fight and the situation gets out of hand, I know that i have experienced we will blame eachother but sometime in life you need to claim your own ****. When that happens things will change, but it takes time.If you really love her you will give her the space she's asking for.If she isn't playing games she will change too. But get to know you first again, cause its the little simple things we forget when we are in a relationship. We take eachother for granted and lean on eachother to much. We need to respect eachother and respect the right to have a different opinion without going balls out. I think you get the picture. Good luck and be patient, cause love is patient....
2006-07-22 18:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by capster 2 · 36⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, the regretted comment during an argument. Sneaks up on you every time doesn't it. Well hell, leave her. Take whats yours and go. If you bought the car, take it; if you're paying for your living facilities, kick her @$$ out you paid; the coffemachine you bought, take that too. Take everything. Life is short and you don't need an overbearing, nagging girlfriend. She's testing you. You say you would leave and you don't. That's just what she wants, to make sure she has the upper hand in this relationship. When you leave, she'll realize that you also are tired of living that way. She doesn't expect you to leave, so leave. That will teach her a lesson.
2006-07-23 00:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ca2Ga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably been looking for a way out since then, and this was just the inevitable and opportune time. There's really nothing you can do, but accept what is happening and get out with as much dignity as possible. Don't drag yourself through the mud when she has made it clear that it's over. Be strong and hang in there... cliche I know, but things happen for a reason.
2006-07-23 00:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Edith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs to cool down apart, and then talk it out rationally. People say things they don't mean when they're angry. Something must be going on besides the phone call and the fake job hunt. You both owe it to each other to figure out what's wrong in the relationship, and then work on it - IF it's important to you. But you can't talk to & reason with someone when they're angry.
2006-07-23 00:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry about your relationship problems...u should talk to her and tell her how u feel. and get a job. she must love u 2 if u just moved 2300 miles for each other. good luck ! ; )
2006-07-23 00:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard i can do bad by myself i dont need no help let the woman move on the game is over someone who lies aBOUT A JOB really dont want one 2300 miles from home you are a loser move on
2006-07-23 00:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just talk to her. Don't bring up anything in the past cuz that will make her even more mad at you. And tell her how much she means to you, and if you could take it back you would. But just let her know you love her no matter what happens. and i bet she'll talk to you after that.
2006-07-23 00:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Carmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Not right away, anyway. But it sounds like both of you need time to get you own selves together before you're ready to be in a relationship.
2006-07-23 00:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to be in a relationship that involves lies and one of you running away. This won't stop - it will only get worse.
2006-07-23 00:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU NEED TO GIVE HER SPACE AND TALK TO
HER BUT YOU KNOW LIES HAVE A WAY OF BITING YOU
IN THE A** AS YOU MAY BE FIGURE OUT BY WHAT GOING
ON RIGHT NOW. BUT JUST TALK TO HER, AND GO FROM
THERE SHE MIGHT JUST BE UPSET WITH THE LIE.
2006-07-23 00:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋