i hate it when guys pay for me but some girls love being spoiled. personally, i would rather spoil than be spoiled. what do you think girls? guys, society has this idea that guys should always pay for everything. do you like to do that or do you just feel kind of obligated?
2006-07-22 17:27:46 · 30 answers · asked by some person 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Paying for a date is more than just about money.This is a social expectation,a way for a man to show a woman that he is interested and cares.I once heard a story about a Native american that was told by a girls father that he could only marry the daughter if he gave 10 horses in exchange.To show how he felt about the mans daughter he brought 50 horses to give the father. The high number of horses was not about value ,but to show how much a man would have to love his daughter to get to marry her.The young man brought the 40 extra horses to show the father that he was willing to go to any length for her love.Simple and crude maybe,but also deep.
2006-07-22 17:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
I'd rather the guy pay. There is so much pressure and expectation put on a date that I'd rather not pay for being the one pressed. The flip side is that guys think that because he paid, he's owed something. If there was a happy medium, I'd be glad to meet there. But one thing you guys need to understand is that if you think you're buying sex, it costs a lot more than dinner and a movie. You're better of with a prostitute. At least that's a sure thing.
2006-07-23 00:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society does NOT believe that Guys should pay for everything. Instead, this belief is more ancient and biological. And our SOCIETY has rejected what biology would normally prove as true.
Women are compromised physically as we bring children into the world. Now, recently, there have been some who try to argue that women can do just fine without men to have and raise children. But I'm an attorney and I have had three kids, and I know when my belly got really big, I walked slower, I had to sleep more, my emotions, and ability to adjust to stress was compromised. I couldn't delegate the pregnancy and recovery to my husband, I also couldn't delegate breast feeding to my husband.
Instead, I had to slow down, and DEPEND upon my husband to be very active in securing the economic security for my child, and me. And even though I have contributed economically, it is slower than it would have been if I weren't a mother.
So, if I am dating someone who is reluctant, or resistant to auditioning for the economic provider role, then, I am setting myself up for disappointment when I start focusing on child rearing.
2006-07-23 00:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Mary 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't think it's a big deal..I mean i don't mind guys paying for me. If a guy pays for you it just shows that he is a gentleman that's all..and if doesn't pay well it doesn't mean he is a bad guy or something..he might just not feel comfortable with you yet. I usually bring my money anyway, but if my guy insists on paying I'd hate to break his heart ;) it makes them feel good sometimes. And i don't think that all guys think that they "should" pay for everything. It's just a sweet gesture..if you feel uncomfortable it's better to let them know why.
Take care.
2006-07-23 00:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pay when I feel obligated, but for me equality is the key and most attractive thing in a relationship. If I am out with a girly girl, it's not going to work.
2006-07-23 00:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont like 'paying for ever'. I dont say 'I dont like paying'. I repeat I dont like 'paying for ever'. Sometimes guys and sometimes girls should pay. There should not be any mental calculation of bills in eithers mind. Dont spoil and dont get spoiled. Love and be loved. Live and let live.
Respectfully
2006-07-23 01:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by K N Swamy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When guys pay it makes it seem as if you're a kept woman. And plus, most of the time when they offer to pay they seem reluctant. Or they act like they have no money. Whatever. I make my own money and I can pay for myself. And yez, I like to spoil too...when I have spoiling money.
2006-07-23 00:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not always like to be paid for. It makes me uncomfortable sometimes. If the guy insists i usually will give in. but most of the time I offer to pay half.
2006-07-23 00:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by labella129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it when a guy I'm in a relationship with pays. I always offer to pay, though, and if I see any reluctance on his part to pay for me, I DO pay. It just gives me a special thrill when he pays...
It's confusing as all get-out when a guy I'm *not* in a relationship with pays, though. It always makes me wonder if he's reading something into our socialization that I'm not.
2006-07-23 00:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by MOI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel uncomfortable when a guy opens the door for me and I don't like guys paying for everything either. I worry like I never know if he'll want me to pay or not.
2006-07-23 00:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by flour 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋