Think Im Im going to stop my therapy..it isnt working...?

Question

Ive been going for rape therapy...I think Im going to drop it...it isnt doing any good....I havent felt any progress....anyone have any advise ?

when I see other people I get jealous if they are happy...I cant take this anymore...

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but i have the feeling that it IS working!

When i compare the questions you asked 2 months ago with the ones you asked 2 weeks ago, i at least can see the growing strength in your words. You have the power to almost shout your pain on this forum, it takes a strong person to do that.

You are stronger than you fear you are.

You also realise that you're jealous of happy people. It takes a strong person to admit that to yourself. 99% of the world is jealous of happier people, almost nobody has the strength to admit it. You do have that strength.

Of course therapy helps. And of course it will always help slower than you want. Time heals all wounds, but time goes slow. I'm sorry to say that, but it goes slow.
If you have the feeling that you made no progress, it means you're in a hurry to recover, which makes sense. It also means you are on your way to recovery.

Try to compare it with a little wound on your arm. When it's healing it starts to itch, and you wanna make it heal faster, because the itch is irritating. The healing always goes slower than you want...

Good luck!

Answer 2

Not all therapy is created or done equally. Therapists are as varied as any other group of people; if you feel that your particular therapist isn't helping (but is eatting up your time and money), it may be best to ask them about alternative forms of therapy. There's no "one right way" to recover, but a good doctor should be able to offer paths or insights that can help. That being said, as I understand it there are rape victim support forums online. You might consider asking on these forums about other rape victims and how their therapy is done; if they are undergoing a process that you think might be more effective, you might want to investigate.

Either way, it's important to realize that any therapy's effectiveness is directly related to how effecient you think it is. That may seem like a rediculous statement (you'd think it's the other way around) but with most conscious and subconscious mental manipulation, your perceptions of the therapy guide what is and isn't possible. If you want to continue your current therapy, I highly sugguest trying to convince yourself that it is in fact working (which it may or may not be, but if it isn't it may be because your mind thinks it's not working. Even if it isn't truly working, you're better off thinking it is as long as you're continuing the therapy). If you're convinced that the therapy is not working, then it either isn't working or more than likely will cease working because those are your conscious expectations. My sugguestion is to find something that you find inspiring and to reach for it.

Answer 3

Clinical therapy is good but only to a certain extent. The reason why it is not working for you is because you don't need to talk about it anymore. You need to move on with your life.

Here's a little secret...

When you serve others, you align yourself with those forces in heaven that strive to help people THROUGH YOU.

When you serve another, you become the difference that God makes.

Become a volunteer in a Christian hospice.

Nurture and support those who are sick and dying.

Become a volunteer at a rape counseling center.

Nurture and support rape victims like yourself.

Then you will have the HEALING ENERGY from above work through you - triggered from your own SELFLESSNESS - which will in turn HEAL YOUR OWN WOUNDS.

I kid you not.

There is no better therapy than serving others.

Answer 4

It's too soon to give up. Of course you feel jealous of others who are happy. For the first time in forever you are starting to want that for yourself.

Have you ever seen a baby that is really good at crawling, but is learning to take her first steps? They're clumsy and awkward and she falls and gets hurt. Some babies actually revert back to crawling for a while.

Do you know why?

It's faster. It's easier. It's what they know. It's safer.

Of course, that's just in the short term. Sometimes you have to walk slower than you can crawl so that you can become proficient at walking.

I think you've hit the point where therapy is making things harder more than it's making things easier. But it's important that you keep going. You can't go back to crawling. You have to keep walking even though it's slow and confining.

Bless your heart you see everyone else going by so fast, and you think that you could go faster if you did things the old way. But the old way wasn't really working for you. It was holding you back.

I know it's hard. I know it's frustrating. But give it time.

You're worth it.

I want you to be able to run in life, unhindered by this pain. The only way to do that is to do the work necessary to free yourself now. Otherwise you'll just drag it around until it gets too heavy again, and you'll have to interrupt your life again later to do what you leave undone now.

Let your doctors worry about how quickly you're progressing. Just keep doing what they tell you to do.

Hang in there. You are in my daily thoughts and prayers.

Answer 5

Honestly your right, stop therapy. You are not ready!! Just know that everyone has problems your not alone. Seems to me you need mini goals and bigger goals. Did you know you can change some body's day or even their life? Complement someone today, what if they are feeling down and maybe contemplating suicide. People smile and can be really low. What a great boost for you to make them feel that way. Honestly can you educate someone else on rape? What could you have done differently let them know. You could have just saved someone else from that experience. Be there to listen. You have so much power and purpose in your hands. You see everyone gets done it what you do to get back up that makes you different. You can do so much just remember you are really worth it!!! Remember to change your negative into others positive!! Only you can make you happy and you are worth it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 6

My sister, I have great sympathy for you. The best advice I can give you is not to give up on therapy entirely. If this one therapist/method isn't producing any results, I would urge you to seek out another. For you to live the rest of your life as a complete outsider would be horribly tragic. Know this: that the crimes and injustices inflicted upon you were wrong and tragic, but if you lose hope then they have taken your entire soul. Do not give up. Contact women's shelters and rape crisis hotlines, and they may be able to guide you to a better therapist.

Answer 7

Find a therapist that does EMDR. It is brilliant for survivors of trauma like rape.
Don't give up altogether, find a new therapist if needs be. I didn't have therapy after beiing raped, I avoided it like the plague and 20 years on I had a nervous breakdown, don't let it happen to you hon.
My thoughts are with you .

Answer 8

You've been through something traumatic, it could take a long time to feel better again. If you really think your therapist isn't helping, find another therapist or counsellor. You need to have a personal connection. Don't give up. Pray to God for help, but seek help from people too. It won't happen over night, but you will get stronger. You will be happy again.

Answer 9

No, please stick with it. You know how when people are talking about dieting, they mention "plateaus" - times when they haven't changed anything, but when they stop losing weight for a while, and they usually get discouraged... this is the same kind of thing. You cannot expect a breakthrough every week, or even every month. It takes time... time for your mind to work on things subconciously, time for your therapist to really get to know you, time for you to be able to change your habits, behavior, and thoughts.

Stick with it. First, talk to your therapist and tell them that you are not getting anything out of it and see what they have to say. Keep talking, keep being honest.

If after a few months, you don't feel that you are being helped, then find another therapist, but DO NOT stop going to therapy.

And please write me and let me know how you are doing.

Answer 10

Try seeing a different therapist,like a cognitive therapist, and I'd suggest taking some form of martial arts.Aikedo or tai chi are great. If you take tai chi far enough, they let you play with swords!Or if you like to break things, tae kwon do is a good one.I can break a board at the height of 6 feet with one kick.It does wonders for the self confidence.