yes..no? i personally think they are a MUST and i love them!
2006-07-22 16:48:01 · 31 answers · asked by oh baby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you have any? how many?
2006-07-22 16:51:47 · update #1
hell yeah you must have one or two to be happy
2006-07-22 16:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by trad_hunt 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
yes, if it is not a "must", it is with one friend & you are ok with potetial circumstances
no, if it is a "must" or it is with several friends, or if you are not emotionally strong to handle circumstacnes.
it depends on the type of person that you & your friend are & how many friends are we talking about here.
I would put the limit on one friend with benifits, if you have more than you may be looking to satisfing an deep rooted psycological need that may not be apparent on the surface.
now some of the catches:
if you or your friend becomes involved with another individual exclusively would you or your friend become resentful if you or your friend did not have full benifits anymore?
if it is a "must" then it there maybe something deeper. you are the only person guarentted to be with you the rest of your life & if you have a "must" (dependency on other people) then you may want to take steps so that you can be more independent. it should never be a "must" maybe "it's just really nice" but no "must".
i know this may not be what you are trying to hear but, you wanted an honest answer right?
hope this helps
ss
2006-07-23 06:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Starscream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely. It is the best way to go, but only if you are both on the same page. If the other person is in it for more than that, it can get ugly.
Just really know the person.
And I really disagree with Monica. Sex is an expression all on it's own. It is something to be enjoyed and experienced. Just because you don't "love" each other doesn't mean you can't be attracted on a physical level.
2006-07-22 16:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by rivertouch2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benifits......hmmmmz that is an interesting phrase there......let me break it down for you as to how I see and feel about it
To me a real friend understands you, is there for you when you need an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean or cry on, they are there to share the good times and bad times and to pray for you...those are the benifits of a true and real friendship.
If the benifit of the friendship you speak of is sex then I think you need to rethink what you are doing and ask yourself this " would you want someone being friends with you to have sex with you?" I dont think so....it would make you feel pretty used if you ask me.
sex isnt a game or something you just do like dancing or going to the movies......its a serious issue and one that can lead to things such as social diseases. did you stop to think you could get herpes, ghoneria, sphillis, or any number of diseases or maybe you would like to deal with the fact you could contract aids and ultimately end up dead.....there is a real benifit right?
Now lets talk about pregnancy.....yes it could happen to even you....with or without protection and to be honest with you there is no 100 percent way to have sex......no matter what you use whether it be condoms right down to the pill. Are you ready to be a mother and raise a baby......to give up your life for this child? To spend many a sleepless night with the baby? Are you ready for all that comes with having a baby......getting a job to provide food, clothing, dr. visits, medicines, and anything else the baby needs......you cant give a baby back once you have it. Babies are alot of work and responsibility. Are you ready to take that on and if you are thinking hey if im not ready i can get an abortion......it will weigh on your mind and there are many women who will tell you it hurt them emotionally...there is no easy out if you get pregnant.
The only way to prevent the things I just talked about is to abstain from sex until the night of your honeymoon.....when you will make love to the man you are going to be with for the rest of your life Your Husband. Wether you know it or not he will appreciate the fact you waited and you will have a great outlook about yourself as well.
I hope I didnt come off to harsh sounding but with me you get only the truth.
2006-07-22 17:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I find to be funny? A girl has her "friends with benefits", and sees that as being ok. But a girl calls a guy that has "friends with benefits", and he's a cheating dog. So who's the real dog? Gender isn't the deciding factor..... a slut is a slut, regardless of what you have, or don't have, between your legs. So having friends with benefits is fine... you have your's, and your b/f will have his.... there IS a balance.
2006-07-22 17:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by 1question-1answer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think they can work as long as you know its just sex and not a real long term relationship. That way the emotions stay out of it.
2006-07-22 16:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by rrh1210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay really, I mean as long as you can get to know eachother first but if you have a connection thats great. i personally think, from expierience that its a "yes"
2006-07-22 16:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by xxohh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used 2 have friends just for that but i have a boyfriend now or whateva...it was onnly jus 1 do..
2006-07-22 16:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am gonna say that is no, because that means they are getting what they want with no strings attached. And sex is just sex when you don't have a relationship. Sex is a symbol of love and passion. It has to mean something.
2006-07-22 16:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy i think it is wrong. Most will say it is okay. But i still sex has to mean something. More than just a good time.
2006-07-22 16:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are fun. I've had a few. Would like to have a few more when I redeploy back to the states.
2006-07-22 16:57:12 · answer #11 · answered by stampedefocus2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋