husband throw wet , sweaty, underwear on me after he comes from tennis are excerciseing?

Question

my husband works out at gym every day are go for tennis ever day he comes home he removes his clothing and throw his wet sweaty under wear on my face i justa bout fed up now he say he playin but i dont like it is filty and nasty so i have decided next time he do that i will slap the crap outta him i feel thats just cause anyone agree are disagree lemme hear from yah..

Answer 1

Next time it's 'THAT time', chuck a tampon or pad at him.I guarantee he'll stop right quick.Nasty, yes, but none the less effective.

Answer 2

I have got to say, before even scrolling down I was thinking of saying it sounds like someone needs to be treated to a round of "pad tag". Then I saw Ophelia's answer and I thought "Amen!"

Oh the many ways I can think of to exact revenge. However, while it may make you feel better and more empowered to fantasize about revenge (I do understand this, really), I feel very strongly that you should also think about a solution to the problem, and the problem is more than his laundry habits.

There is something seriously wrong with this man. I suppose it is possible he is simply unable to comprehend that this is not appropriate behavior (if he is retarded or had a serious head injury). Maybe he takes some kind of pleasure in knowing he is doing something this disagreeable to someone he is intimate with (which would make him a sadist, I believe). Possibly he is acting out some kind of aggression, anger, or bitterness that he cannot verbalize and/or won't allow himself to explore and understand.

Whatever the reason, my take is that it sounds like he has some awareness that his behavior is inappropriate or he wouldn't be saying he's "just playing". I say this because "Just playing" is a cop out. It often ends up meaning "you can't be mad at me/think ill of me/respond with reasonable outrage because it is a joke". I recall from my adolescence that youngsters sometimes say it - "I'm just kidding" or "It was just a joke" - to save face after they've done or said something they believe people will see them poorly for.

While it would seem most adults should know this, I guess it needs to be made clear to him that saying "just playing" is not a grown up response and doesn't give him license to continue. Also, consider that if you choose to respond to his poor behavior in kind, it could end up validating and perpetuating (if not escalating) his behavior. You are both grown ups, and even if he can't act like one, that's no reason why *you* need to play the game.

If you think he's worth the effort, I guess I'd attempt to address it before he does it again. If there is a neutral time and place to do it, that would be best (neutral as in not in the middle of a fight about something, not when it's a situation when you or he could be seen as having the upper hand). Be very clear and very firm about the fact that this behavior needs to stop immediately.

Like I said, I really think there are some other issues here and even if he does stop the undie tossing, those issues are still going to be there. It's your choice how much work you want to do trying to get him to address whatever those issues are like a grown up human being instead of like a retarded adolescent chimp (his current behavior is just one very small step above throwing poo).

If he continues the behavior after you have spoken to him about it during a neutral time, or if he adopts a new tormenting behavior, I think you need to consider whether you really want to be with a man who treats you so disrespectfully.

Answer 3

Slapping the crap out of him isn't going to do anything except incite him to return the slap. And that isn't much fun for anyone.
Next time he does it, leave them where they drop. If they sit on the floor for a week, that's his choice, but you can point out that the laundry hamper is where they belong. You might also generously apply lipstick before he comes home, so they will be well marked if he throws them at you. If he's embarassed by wearing underwear with lipstick stains all over it, well, too bad!

Answer 4

I think tarot has the right idea. Lay a pair of the nasties right on top of his dinner and tell him that is the same way you feel when he throws them on your face. Make sure you make him a spare plate, so he can still eat, but I think that would open the door for talking about it.

Answer 5

Just throw them in the trash can and wash your face. He will eventually have no gym clothes to wear .. that should give the rude b*****d a clue!

Answer 6

A really nasty game. I can only suggest putting his used undies in his clean pile, clean ones on top. He should get an equally unpleasant shock soon enough.
My sympathy, Rose.

Answer 7

get a pitcher of toilet water, and soak your underwear and socks in there for a day or 2. then make him some juice or kool-aid for when he comes home...if he throws the underwear on your face then serve him up a drink

Answer 8

Well, that is called "lack of respect". Tomorrow, go jogging while he is watching Baseball. Then throw your dirty panty on his face and see if he likes it. (Be careful he might...) You don't need that man - one more worthless son of a rotten egg to give us the good guys a bad name..... come say hello on yahoo messenger... frescavena2004. Ciao

Answer 9

Throw some water on him.
Better yet--this sounds disgusting --but I would, if I were you, through your used maxi pads --the whole trashcan full of the bathroom trash--over his head when he least expects it and get his reaction. I bet he will stop being so playful after that. :)

Answer 10

Ok, if he does it one more time...flexall 454 on his clean undershorts..make sure its dry after appling a good dose to all his undies, next time when he gets all sweaty it will activate the flexall 454 and burn his nuts....just tell him you tried a new laundry soap..

Answer 11

Stick a pad over the numbers on his license plate in hopes he gets pulled over to explain.