"True Love Waits" Is it true anymore?

Question

I held on to this ring for a long time... and my morals are still inside my heart eventhough I haven't gone to church. "true love waits" Its a white gold ring given to a teen. And kept until you fine the right person. Many years later I find myself still wearing this ring... and part of me thinks it really kepts guys away. I'm not waiting until I'm married. I want to tell them that... I'm just waiting for my true love. Is that alright? Can people still wait... and know for sure the other loves them back?... or is it more of a game now and love happens not to be part of it. "True love waits" ....its been 7 years since I was given this ring in church.. others in the group who got the ring are gone now. or...just stopped wearing it. But... part of me still needs it on. Tell me...does true love really wait anymore?

Answer 1

True love does wait. That ring is the circle of protection God has placed in your life until you are ready to be joined in that circle by your true love.

If you wait for your future husband to have sex, you are actually loving him before you meet him.

Saving yourself for him is very honorable.

Commit your life to Jesus Christ and look for your true love. He's the really hot guy who is sitting behind you in church and has committed his life to Jesus also.

He is also waiting for his true love.

Stay pure.

Answer 2

ok I just typed up a whole answer and then it dissappeared,so here it is summed up.. Your problem isnt your standards you set on guys because wearing that ring for 7 years has proved to yourself that thats what you truly want, the problem is patience. It might take a while, but It will be better to have no guy at all than to have one thats not "the one". while your waiting you need to be doing whatever you can to make yourself more attractive, not just physically,I mean make yourself better. noones perfect, but the bible says that when perfection comes the imperfect dissappears. You can save money to have an easier lifestyle for when u do meet him, and then money wont cause so many issues when u get married, which is a big factor in marriages, and you could learn to do new things, like some kind of craft like sewing or cooking, I dont mean to make u into a housewife, but the sewing will impress his mom and everyone knows that the way to a mans heart is through his stomach, you dont have to be all housewify, maybe take some culinary classes and look at it as obtaining a new skill. or, u could learn a new language, also something u could use if your future guy is into missionary work, or just if u are, or might be in the future, see all of these things will make your life better even without the guy yet, but as encouragement, u can learn to do all of these things so that u can feel better about yourself and like you will be able to wait for a really great guy instead of just settling.I'm only 17, but I always am looking for ways to improve myself. I can do alot of things most girls my age cant, I do embroidery, and quilting, and right now I'm working on my first crocheting project,which is actually really fun and easy, and I play the piano, (another thing u could do to impress any guy), and I'm now going to college to improve my intellectuality. because I know the kinda guy I want is going to be smart, and I'm gonna want to be smart right there with him, I know this is getting really long, so I'll cut it off soon, ok, and I'm looking forward to taking conversational spanish to do mission work in mexico, . the other thing that was in my other letter was that I know of alot of awesome guys like the ones that u and I are looking for, so dont give up for lack of guys because there really are good ones out there, and u will find one, just set your goals high and never settle for less.~K
ps, I have a 20 yr old brother, he doesnt have the ring, but the same morals, I dont know how old u r , but guys r waiting too.

Answer 3

People marry and divorce quickly now, and the statistics show that the trend is likely to increase for the foreseeable future. There are a number of reasons why people divorce. Chief among them are that they have gotten into it too quickly, living in the modern, fast paced world has more or less given alot of people an "instant-noodle" mindset. They want something fast, and they want it easy. Marriage is arguably one of the most important decisions a person can make in his or her life. And most don't properly consider the dynamics of the relationship properly before jumping into it. Once they are married, and they find that things aren't working out, rather then make the effort of salvaging the relationship, they choose to end it out of convinience. While some might argue that yes, they do make the effort, often times it isn't sufficient. The effort they put it stops short of real sacrifices, most choosing a rather selfish focus. Additionally, people have the overly romantic concept of perfection, that there's someone out there, who's just right for him/her. This thinking is fundamentally flawed, the complexity of human nature is indicative enough that having someone who can complement you perfectly is going to be very remote. Even more so, is whether you'll ever meet such a person. Further more, even if someone like that is found, people do change with time and experiences. Once again, when they find that they're not longer perfect for each other, rather then make themselves perfect for the other, they choose a divorce, the easy way out. The most lasting relationships i've seen are those founded on acceptance and an unconditional love. This is interesting because of the unusual dynamics of the relationship, each person places the other first, paying minimal attention to their own needs, but because its reciprocated, the relationship is quite healthy. Further more they're constantly changing themselves to suit the other person, so they grow together as individuals as time goes by, nurturing each other, further cementing the bonds. While yes, they do get into fights, that they place the other first usually results in the cause of the fight getting resolved quickly, and the wound quickly mend. Lastly, while i do agree that a person is capable of being independant, good relationships are nurturing, giving a person a set of tools and a framework of support that he or she might not have on her own. Thereby allowing a person to live a more fruitful life.

Answer 4

For your own sake WAIT. At any point in time, you can become like everyone who has chosen not to wait. Never can you go back once you have made that decision.
Don't even entertain the thought of giving in to someone who may say "I love you." Find someone else who has waited. Baring any other circumstances like: God has chosen you to be set apart forever... Not likely but it could happen. That person you find who has also waited and is a gentleman and honorable will undobtedly cross your path. There are plenty out there, hold on.

Answer 5

Continue to be patient. Joseph was in jail for 13 yrs. God knows what you need. Put God first not your deisires. Seek the Kingdom of God and all things will be added unto you. Youre doing great. God bless you for being patient. While you are waiting, do good work for the Lord and help support your family and be ready for anything and always look your best in modesty. You never know when a good Christian man who is equally waiting will see you.

Answer 6

Yes. :-)

I have a ring, too, but I bought mine myself from James Avery.
I have always intended to wait; I didn't need a ring to remind me of that, but I like my ring. It may keep some guys away, but it they are staying away BECAUSE I plan to save myself for marriage, then I'm happy! It might save me some trouble, too :)

I plan to do something with my ring later in life. When I become engaged, I'm going to put it on a chain or a string or something & make it into a necklace for my fiancee to wear.

Peace!

Answer 7

YES-PLEASE wait. I wish I had waited for my husband. I ended up getting pregnant @ 19 and my mom stopped talking to me. I ended up moving in with the dad and his parents. We ended up breaking up b/c he married the town slut and I still lived with his parents. I haven't been able to see my child in 2 years b/c the dad's parents have a mental problem and they honestly think that my child is there's and since I lived there rent free for a few years they think that I owe them my child. I could have saved my self some heartache if I had waited.

Answer 8

true love waits is about waiting until you're married. if that right person truly loves you then they'll wait until you're married. if not, then they're not the right one. keep wearing the ring. it's not only a way to remind yourself to wait, it's also a sign to others that you're not willing to give yourself to anyone until they replace that ring with a wedding ring.

Answer 9

Definitely.

Answer 10

Absolutely it does. Wait for God to lead you into that right relationship!