i've been close friend with this girl for a long time (6 years, i suppose) and now i'm feeling like i fell in love with her. but how could i know if she has the same feeling to me. if she doesnt, our friendship could be lost 4ever, and i really dont want it to happen.
what should i do? should i tell her the truth, or just keep my feeling to myself? help please
2006-07-22 14:38:57 · 22 answers · asked by tuananh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this friday will be her birthday. i havent said anything to her yet. i'm trying to find her a bday present that'll speak for me. hmm i hope this's gonna be ok
2006-07-23 17:24:25 · update #1
I can 100% relate to your situation right now. A friend I've known for over 10 years and have kept in touch told me from the very beginning they loved me. When the person told me this, it didn't break our friendship at all, but I did date other people. We stayed friends. 10 years later, many things have changed in our indiv. lives, but the person still has the same feelings for me. IMO, I would tell her HONESTLY how you feel. If you don't, it will eat you up inside and that alone could ruin a good friendship. If your "girl" (friend) is truly a friend, she will still respect you and hang out with you. Good luck! Just be yourself when you tell her. Don't leave anything out. You may be surprised at what she says.
2006-07-22 14:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by turkoize1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone who you call friend, someone that you trust, someone that you feel dearly about, that you feel more for that person can be risky -
Perhaps you should test the waters by talking about the subject with that friend - but do not imply that you feel this way just yet... wait until you are in a place of mutual joy and a place where you are both feeling close.. we often feel the same things as those we are such close friends with. Bring the subject to the table and investigate (learn more about your friend). You have been friends for a long time but at what level has your friendship been at? Are you able to be yourself? Are you unafraid of showing the real you? This may be a good sign... be be careful KNOW for sure before venturing out over "thin ice" so that you dont sacrifice a friendship.
2006-07-22 21:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by T ¸¸.â?¢*´¸¸.â?¢*´¨L ¨`*â?¢.¸¸¨`*â?¢.¸¸ T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you first be straight up with her cuz honesty always is the best in particularly with this situation if ur not honest and don't sit down and ask her u will live the rest of ur life wondering what could have been.tell her how u feel and let her know that u don't want to lose her friendship in the event she doesn't feel the same way.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-07-22 21:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by lu-lu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should skip the inevitable hurt that will come with losing a girl friend and a good friend. If you have been friends for 6 years just keep it that way. Why ruin a good thing and have to deal with the hurt of a lost relationship.
2006-07-22 21:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by thenuge426 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't u keep ur feeling with u. tell her what u are feeling at this moment. Maybe she is just feeling the same as u.. and she is thinking the same as u about she doesn't want to loose ur friendship. Go ahead, and what is ment to be, will be. Good luck my dear .. tell her How much u love her .. and after so, u tell us about the result, we will be with u ok.
2006-07-22 22:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by NA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would suggest just doing things together as friends like movies or even going out to eat with some other friends (so it wouldn't technically be a 'date'), or playing video games or skating...whatever! Just spend some time together and if things progress, then they progress. If they don't, then you guys should just be friends. You can't MAKE someone feel something. If it happens, it happens. Don't try to get ahead of yourself and just blab out that you like her and does she like you? That could definately ruin a friendship or at least just make it awkward. But by spending more time together, there's not much of a risk of making things awkward. Just try it and see how it pans out.
2006-07-22 21:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her how you feel.....then, allow for her to put your actions into perspective. If you jazz up the already friendly relationship with some flowers and subtle flirtation she'll get the hint and if she doesn't act on it...then..you'll know that a friendship is all that she wants from you. Good luck !
2006-07-22 21:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Hidden*Halo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXXX sometimes when you tell a best friend you have fallen for them it sets the relationship back a notch as they are only interested in friendship. And on the other hand there have been cases where best friends fall in love with eachother and life happily ever after. I hope the latter is in your favor. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-22 21:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the inevitable - feelings for a friend. happens to pretty much everyone. you need to try and find out how she feels about you before you drop the "love" bomb. but if you have known her that long - chances are she will understand you. if you are friends.. talking to her one on one about it may make you feel better. and you wont lose a 6 year friendship over this.
2006-07-22 21:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is talk to her. Don't make a move on her or kiss her or anything. Just talk to her one on one one day and tell her that you have new feelings for her. Wait for her reaction and see what she says. This way if she just wants to be friends then you can continue to be friends.
2006-07-22 21:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by tweety_lover_757 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋