My cute and lovable boyfriend of 2 months is a pothead and at first it was funny and gave me sumtin to talk about wit my friends and now its just annoying... having him call me high, or losing touch wit him for hours at a time while hes "talkin to friends" what to do,...........
2006-07-22 14:38:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you have to realize he has a problem. He has no control over his addiction. If you love him, then you can help him get some sort of help for his problem. You can suggest NA~Narcotics Anonymous. They have meetings you can attend, to listen to others with the same problem.You can alos pick up insight on what helps keep them Drug-Free.
They also have on-line meetings. You can look into it even if he doesn't want to. You can get help dealing with your emotions about his addiction.
But For him to get clean he has to want to get clean. No one or anything can do it for him. Speak to him about your concerns over his smoking. It will not make him stop smoking overnite, but it will plant the seed in his mind that maybe there is life after POT!
If you really care about him stand by him, he is not trying to hurt you on purpose. He just has no control over his addiction. This you must understand.
Also Pray For God To Take The Taste For It Out Of His Mouth!! Pray Hard.
2006-07-22 14:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by XXSEXY66XX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a pothead is pretty pointless. Maybe if it's like a few times a month or MAYBE once a week, but any more than that is ridiculous. You're wasting your life, and your brain is wasting away. You have no motivation and get nothing done. What a great boyfriend. Very few people can have a relatively normal life while smoking a couple of times a day.
2006-07-22 14:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start by very honestly telling him that you hope that what you're going to say comes out nicely, because you feel bad that he often feels like you don't bring things up in a nice way, but that it's just been eating at you that he brought his phone to the bathroom with him the other day. Try to avoid negative words or things that attack him (for instance, instead of saying, "I hated it when you brought your phone into the bathroom" and "Why didn't you leave it on the table?" try "It's really been eating at me that you took your phone into the bathroom" and "Maybe you had a good reason to that I wasn't aware of, but I just was concerned because_______." To be honest, I can see why this is an awkward topic for discussion. I have to say, if my significant other asked me to never bring my phone to the bathroom, I'd probably slip up sometimes too, and for perfectly innocent reasons. I'm also tempted to say that if you don't trust him enough that you get upset when he brings his phone into the bathroom, you might want to consider what's going on in this relationship. Yes, maybe he was dishonest about watching porn, but unfortunately a lot of guys do that (and lie about it to their girlfriends). Are there other reasons you don't trust him that maybe aren't as solid, but they still build up and get to you? If you feel uncomfortable with something as small as him bringing his phone into the bathroom, I guess I just feel like you're probably going to be hurt and upset about a lot of other things that will happen down the line (because every relationship has issues that affect trust, communication, etc), and maybe you need to think about whether or not this is a relationship that's put you in a place where you're stressed and a bit on edge. I know that I veered off of answering your question...just putting my two cents in. Whatever the case, I wish you the best, and encourage you not to get too hung up on this. Good luck! :)
2016-03-27 03:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been w/ a guy for 4yrs. who is a pothead and I'm a dummy for hanging around. Believe me it never stops it gets worse. He got lucky he bought ahome right beside a dealer so every thursday is POTDAY....thats wgat he calls it. I can't stand the smell and I hate to see him high...eyes red, slow and GOD forbid ride w/ him. GET OUT BEFORE YOU GO CRAZY.LOL
2006-07-22 14:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by rogerlovepam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
If he's a pothead, then your relationship is not going to be going anywhere.
Whatever you do, dont go smoking pot WITH him.
It'll just encourage him and he'll do it more and more.
And spend less and less time with you.
Let him choose.
Illegal drugs, or you.
2006-07-22 14:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by lady lancelot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it bothers you - you shouldn't date him. i know what its like to try having a conversation with a high person - and they normally make you feel weird. if you care about him enough - just see what happens. tell him how you feel about his choices and see if it can work. but just remember - 2 months isn't a lifetime. you can and will always have another boyfriend.
2006-07-22 14:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Share his joy
2006-07-22 14:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by iknowtruthismine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got three choices get over it, go join him, or dump him....
2006-07-22 14:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it bothers you then dump him cuz he prolly always will smoke.....
2006-07-22 14:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋