there are two extremly great guys i know. both of them could be considered best friends of mine. they are both there for me when i need them. both of them like me as well. boy 1 i actually dated before for only a few days and dumped him because i wasnt over my ex. he has started hanging with new friends though and has changed a bit. and the bad thing is whenever we hang out just the two of us we end up kissing. i know he wants me to date him but thats where boy 2 comes into the story. boy 2 is great. i have known him longer and he has always helped me with my guy issues. but recently we both adimitted feelings for each other. both of the guys are good friends with each other too!! i dont know how to go about dating either of them because i am afraid someone will get hurt in the end. and i do NOT want that to happen. i love both boys - and they are even better friends. so i really need your help. any ideas?
2006-07-22 14:34:21 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's very common for girls to have to choose between two or more really good guys (too bad guys don't have the same problem), and the answer usually is to be only platonic friends with both guys until you're ready to choose one to date. Be honest with both guys about what is going on. They deserve to know there are two roosters in your hen house.
2006-07-22 14:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough decision. Just how tight are these two? Nothing will break up a friendship faster than fighting over a girl.
Either keep them both as friends, and keep it only as friends (this is the safe way out, no one gets hurt and you get to secretly long for them, and them for you)
OR, brace yourself. Sit down with both of them seperately and see how they feel about you dating both of them. Sometimes that can work out, if the guys are really close friends, and can handle it. (This is the dangerous end of things, if it works great, if it doesn't work then everything goes BOOM in a horrid way.)
If you pick one over the other, then the other is going to get hurt, so tread carefully, and good luck.
2006-07-22 14:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen before with a couple of my friends. I told them that it would be better off just being friends so it doesn't hurt anything with the friendship. Usually when something like this happens it'll change the friendship forever and usually for the worse. At least it was like that in all my cases of helping people. If you decide to go out with one, it might or will cause problems with the other. If the other one is a true friend, he'll understand... I was one of the guys in a simular situation and I was the one rejected.... We haven't talked since she ignores my calls.
2006-07-22 14:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not date both??? you are not committed to either of them and if they ask you and ur not ready tell them that you need some time to think about it. You are single, don't get hooked into the idea that you have to be with ONE guy. You need to date many different guys to see who is your match. Notice I didn't say perfect because being married 7 years, I can say there is no perfect one out there. Good luck. BTW dont take advice about just keeping them friends, my opinion is that you should marry your best friend. Someone who knows you and will stick by you through thick and thin.
2006-07-22 14:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by AngiB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are not cases like those once you such as you need to mixture 2 adult adult males at the same time to get your suitable guy? i think like that plenty! :) anyhow-neither look all that great. variety a million seems to have thoroughly ditched you, and does not care sufficient to even commence a communique with you. variety 2 needs to speak to you, yet you mentioned he could nicely be rude? the only element I see "incorrect" with variety 2 is that he's shorter than you. in basic terms with the aid of fact he's in line with an athletic scholarship does no longer advise he's not the brightest-he's in basic terms incredibly sturdy at activities. If something, choose for variety 2.
2016-10-08 05:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you love both and that they are even better friends. why not just keep them both as friends? You sound too young to be with one guy anyway. Have fun friendships now. you have the rest of your life to settle down with that special someone.
2006-07-22 14:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go with both of them, stay single until one guy's feelings for u wears off, but that might take a really really really long time...hmmm
2006-07-22 14:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Janeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try both of them and the one who gives you the best feeling afterwards is the one for you
2006-07-22 14:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by nickless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋