Should I? i Love him...
2006-07-22 14:27:40 · 19 answers · asked by bRi_aNNe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am married and i still keep my money separate, you dont know him well enough.
2006-07-22 14:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say for sure but what I'd do is each keep your original accounts, then open one together. Don't just pile all your stuff into one. No one is taught how to handle finances... there are no classes in high school or college that actually teach you how to be responsible... you learn from mistakes. Don't let this be a costly "live and learn" ordeal... just open one account together and take it slow. Maybe use it for now as a way to save for a vacation together. After eight months, you shouldn't have "bills" together like us married folk... joint credit cards, both names on the mortgage, both names on the car... you know what I mean? Good luck to you both but don't be afraid to take it slow! Once you're married, the dating part is over. They're both fun times but once you're married, you can't go back. Enjoy it. =)
2006-07-22 21:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cherstin and Adam F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't this is the wrong move, not to be negative but if something goes wrong with the relationship he can easily take all the money and run...be independent it has only been 8 months that is not a long time to be with someone-well long enough to open an account with him-it hasn't been long enough to know everything about him, so i suggest you wait, many women have ended up bankrupt or completely dependent on their boyfriends and are left alone to fend for herself in the end- u r responsible for yourself so if u end up in this predicament u will have to find a way to get yourself back on track alone-you'll be seen as the fool-remember just because you don't get a joint account with him doesn't mean u don't love him, you two are joint in other ways, best of luck but be smart
2006-07-22 21:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. I don't even recommend that even after you get married.
If you aren't married, there is absolutely NO good result of having a joint account. In fact, it could be your financial ruin.
He could drain your bank account, charge tons of things to it, and you would have absolutely No way to do anything about it.
I hope I'm scaring this idea right out of your head.
Even if you are living together, just split the bills down the middle, that way if things do go south on you, then you can each get out of it without finding yourself filing bankruptcy.
Remember, the second that someone decides they are leaving, there is no telling what they might do as far as money is concerned. Famous last words, 'She/he would never do that.' 'Yes Yes they will.'
2006-07-22 21:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. This type of step should be reserved only if you have a bigger commitment such as marriage. Ask yourself why there is a need for you to have joint accounts when you are simply dating. Being in love is great but be smart!
2006-07-22 21:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you never open up a joint checking or a savings with anyone. that 's a good way to get burn and mess up your credit. really bad. i did that and the a hole. max everything out and took all my money.
2006-07-22 21:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't suggest it. Even after 8 mths, you don't know him that well. If you really feel you need to, perhaps start one together with small amounts deposited and only for joint bills or vacations, etc. I'd hate to see you lose your money. It's way too easy to fall prey to someone who only wants to use you.
2006-07-22 21:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Frustrated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Especially if you are just dating. Until you are married you are better off to keep it seperate. Things change when money gets involved, especially if there is a difference in who makes more. Money is the Number one reason a marriage/relationship is in trouble. You can show love and commitment without sharing money.
2006-07-22 21:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. big no. even if you were married you don't need a joint account. please don't do it. love can't account for a messed up credit report. 8 months is nothing. wait and maybe if you marry him then and only then will it be okay.don't let him pressure you about it either. so many people ruin their credit because of things like this.
2006-07-22 21:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by smart007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure but keep most of your money in your own account. What is the purpose for it anyway? Saving for a trip wedding ??? You didn't say, and if that is the case then it's a whole different story.
2006-07-22 21:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
After you have known him for a great amount of time then you might want to rethink it but you only started...
Ask yourself - What's the rush? if you can answer that logically and you still think you want to well then good luck :)
2006-07-22 21:31:51 · answer #11 · answered by T ¸¸.â?¢*´¸¸.â?¢*´¨L ¨`*â?¢.¸¸¨`*â?¢.¸¸ T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋