how do you get a man to stop being so suspious and accsing you all the time for things you don't do?

Answer 1

XXXXXXXXXXX Jealousy runs deep hun. It has a lot to do with past relationships and self images. The only thing you can do is be honest and teach him to love you without conditions. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Answer 2

This is a trust issue in your relationship. Check yourself first; is your behavior in the past made him not trust you? If no, then look at your man. Has he been hurt really bad that would cause him to act out this way? If so, reassure him through your actions and words that you are trustworthy. If he continues to be this way, he made need some help or you may even have to have some space while rebuilding the relationship.

Answer 3

You can't change another person. If he is the suspicious type, nothing you do or do not do will change that. Sorry! Insecurity is usually the root of this since you have done nothing to make him distrust you. I couldn't stay with a man like this; major insecurity is a big turn off for most women. Find someone who feels good about you and themselves!!

Answer 4

You might have to find another bf. He might be so insecure that he will always be like this. Can you live that way for very long?
At first it comes across as love and careing.......eventually it will dirve you nuts.

Are you doing anthing that might lead him to feel the way he does. Do you go out drinking with your gf's? If so maybe it is time to choose other activities.

What about a suspiecous and jealous relationship is attractive to you?

Answer 5

BE CAREFUL HERE! This sounds like the start (or the middle) of a controlling and abusive relationship. What does he DO about his accusations if your explanations don't please him? Is he your father or your man? We should be considerate of our partners, but they should respect the boundaries of individuality and know that we defer to their wishes out of love and respect, NOT out of fear or aggression. Where is your relationship right now? Love and respect or fear and aggression?
Ususally suspicious minds are guilty of something themselves! In any case, please visit the salvation army or a battered women's shelter to sign up for a class or at least get something to read about about battering and abuse. This question smacks of that. If he isn't already hitting you, keep feeling obligated to explain yourself to him "ALL THE TIME" and he will soon. The mental conditioning for that is evident in your question. You are headed for trouble because you seem to think you have to answer to this man.

Answer 6

It is interesting that I read this ?. Because I, myself just got out of a predicament like this. I have a friend, who is very close, and we all went out one day, and whenever I left to do something, they would always start laughing and talking, which my girlfriend really didnt do around me. So, naturally i got suspicious and, yes, I did become afraid that something would happen between the two of them. So, I confronted her about it, and she got mad at me because she thought that I accused her of cheating on me, which i did not do. So, i asked her why she did that, and she told me that she would never cheat on me or do anything to hurt me. And so, we forgave each other, and now, we are closer than ever. So, the question really is, have you been acting like you have something to hide? Because, if you do, you need to come clean with him. If not, then confront him and tell him that you dont like it when he suspects you of doing something when, in truth, you havent.

Answer 7

it's really up to him. you can state to him that what he is accusing you of is not the case. you can only do that so many times. i was in a similar situation until he couldn't take it any more because supposedly i was doing all these things, and he broke it up. i stopped proving it to him. i told him that if the relationship were to break down it would be because of his trust issues, and he agreed. wheeew, it was actually a relief. have patience and hopefully he'll come around. if not, the situation could get ugly.

Answer 8

YOU CANNOT STOP HIM FROM BEING THIS WAY. You are supposed to use dating to determine if you like how someone is, not to see the ways you can change him.

YOU CANNOT STOP HIM FROM BEING THIS WAY. He has serious problems. He has serious problems. He has serious problems. And so do you, being with him. If you are not married and have no kids with him, consider ending it now. If you have kids, insist on therapy and start, even without him.

YOU CANNOT STOP HIM FROM BEING THIS WAY. Do not jump through his hoops to try to please him and reassure him. If you are a nice, loving, decent girl and you get treated like this, then you CANNOT STOP HIM FROM BEING THIS WAY. Don't put up with it. Dont play the game. Get a more satisfying life.

Answer 9

he could be accusing you because he's insecure. as long as he has an inkling of an idea that you're doing something, you will continue to fight an uphill battle. he is emotionally high maintenance, and you need to leave him to maintain himself.

you will never be able to defend yourself because even an innocent hello to a person of the opposite sex (or possibly any person) will make you a cheater in his mind. you don't need the aggravation, and you do need to maintain your sanity. distance yourself from this finger pointer like yesterday!

Answer 10

well hon you really can't, and not to be the bearer of bad news but people who ar always accusing people of things usually are doing those same things, i thinks you need to sit him down and as plainly as possible tell him how you feel and if things don't change kick his butt to the proverbial curb, you are too precious to be stressed out like that girl get your act together, if you don't look after you no one else will. anyhow all the best.

Answer 11

You get rid of him!!!! Men like this are insecure and will make your life miserable. Who needs this type of problem in their life. These guys seldom if ever change, no amount of reassurance is enough for them and the more you do to try to assuage their fears , the more crap they will come up with!