Her sons dad has been out of his life for 7 years. She knows how much I dislike the man but did it anyway. Do I leave her or stick around?
2006-07-22 13:48:22 · 18 answers · asked by JAKESTER420 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's quite a difficult situation you got there. If you love her enough to trust her then be it, give it all without any doubt. If she said it's for her child then respect it. There's no way you can argue on how she decide for her child. The awful truth is don't even let her make a choice between you and her child. You would know the answer to that.
As for her having this vacation, don't worry much about it. She'll be faithful to you. She will not just jump to his ex after all these years. Remember, there's a reason why they are seperated now. I know for sure she don't want that again.
She knows you don't approve of this vacation, it's only normal for you to feel this way. But as I said, don't make her choose between you and her child. It wouldn't be easy for her too. She's hoping for you to understand her. In the first place, you know that the child has a father so sooner or later, situation like this will arise no matter how much you hate it.
When things get better don't hesitate to come along next time. It will do you good.
So stop nurturing those negative thoughts. To love is to trust - fully. It's your choice.
2006-07-22 14:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 11⤊ 3⤋
I personally wouldn't like te vacation thing.
But, I do know that your fiane is thrilled for her son to get to know his birth dad.
This isn't all about YOU, this is about the kid, strange as it might be.
You will need to establilsh that in the future you are very uncomfortable with the joint vacation idea. And then if you two are truely a couple you will find a way to avoid this again.
She might fear that her X will kidnap her son. It will take time for her to trust him with her son.
You can make this a big deal or you can choose to make this a learning experience.
Hey, the woman has chosen you are engaged to her. If you are this worried over this, do you feel the two of you are ready for a trusting relationship?????????
If this is a deal breaker then you need to make sure it never happens again, And she must agree. Put it in writting so that in the future the two of you can be clear of what the agreement was.
Take this as a learning experience
2006-07-22 13:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave her. If it is for the son, the dad could have taken him on vacation. It is wrong to make it appear as a 'family' vacation for the sake of the son. If he has been out of the kids life for 7 years this will realy mess his mind up, he' going to think 'daddy's coming home". I am divorced and have children and I go on plenty of vacation with out the need to include thier mom.
2006-07-22 13:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the vacation situation, was it for the boy or more a family situation? Camping with fishing? or Disney world for families? Either way she should have had you come along! Approach her and let her know how you feel. Ask her straight out what took place- being your fiance' you should be able to read her pretty well if she is lying! If she lies get out quick!
2006-07-22 13:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by answer me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first each and every newborn has heard of the human centipede such numerous say that they have got watched it even as they were given freaked by using the trailer. it isn't any longer proper for a baby of 10 it is an 18 for a reason. And it may impression your youngster's psychological health state and progression more effective than you may want to imagine. i does no longer recommend all and sundry watch it no longer to tutor a 10 twelve months old
2016-11-25 02:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmmmmmmm no
that's not cool.
Sincerely its alright for them to do things together for the sake of the child but not go on vacation together. they are not together anyone eventually their kid needs to know that mom and dad cant be together all the time anymore. They are just stalling the inevitable. Talk to her or Id say leave now this is a messy situation.
2006-07-22 13:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by coco_k22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave. She wouldn't want you to take an ex on vacation would she?! Sounds like she may want him back in her life instead of the son's!! Find someone that will treat you better sweetie!!
2006-07-22 13:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick it out!! that boy needs his father there! 7 years?? i know a guy who hasnt ever met his dad after 18 years and he hates that he doesnt know him. let the boy have his dad and just wait for them to come home and trust ur fiance. u have to trust her. if u cant trust her now, how do u plan on getting married?
2006-07-22 13:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick mudd bro. It is one thing for her to let him spend time with his son but it is really fu@#ed up to go on vacation with him instead of taking you along instead of him.After all they did have a son together and them two being alone on vacation just gives more of a chance for it to happen again.
2006-07-22 13:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her, you are 6 hours apart and it was a vacation...why didn't she take you? No way it would fly in my life.
2006-07-22 13:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋