lazy mother?

Question

me and my mother are living in this tiny, squished apartment together. she refuses to clean, get a job, or do any of her "Mother priorities." its like we are living in a pig stye! it smells bad in there too.. none of my freinds are wanting to come over to my house.. plz help me

Answer 1

kick her out!

Answer 2

Well, I don't know how old you are, but you certainly write well; therefore, I think you are old enough. Why don't you get busy and clean up. You can buy a bottle of bleach and a little dish soap and use some old tee shirts for rags. Fill the kitchen sink about half way full of water, pour in 1/2 cup of bleach and a few drops of dish soap or laundry detergent and get to work. Wash the dishes first and rinse them with hot water and leave them to drain on a towel on the counter. Change water. Then start washing the counter and table. Take out the garbage. Sweep the floor. Change the water. Wash the floor and wipe out the garbage can. Change the water and scrub the sink. Go into the bathroom and fill the basin with water, bleach and soap and start scrubbing everything in there. Wash the clothes and bedding somehow. Vacuum if you have a vacuum. Dust stuff with another old T- shirt. Don't leave dirty dishes and food around. Once you get the place cleaned up, clean it at least once a week and pick up each night before bed. If it's a squished place it should be easy. I've been cleaning and cooking since I was 10.

Answer 3

If your mother really is as you say she is...not trying to get a job, not cleaning and just plain being lazy...then there's a reason for that. No one wants to be like that..seriously. If she doesn't have a job then does that mean you're paying the bills? If you're paying the bills while she's sitting there doing nothing then ask her when you're on your way out the door to go to work if she'll do the dishes for you. If she refuses to clean or help you in anyway, then MOVE OUT. If you can afford to pay for the both of you to live there, then you can afford to support yourself. If you're not the one paying the bills, then don't worry about it so much. Clean your stuff, don't clean hers and go elsewhere to hang out with your friends.
But it sounds like maybe your mom's just depressed. Some people lose the motivation to do anything when they get depressed. Talk to your mom about what might be bothering her and offer to help her in any way you can; even if it's helping her to look for a job. Be supportive and help motivate her and make her feel better. Some people just need a little push when they fall into depression.

Answer 4

Yes, your mother is lazy eith because that's a part of her nature or because of some other reason. However, your mother's laziness and it's reason are important but secondary to getting your place together. If it's like living in a pig stye and you seem to obviously not like it, you need to be the one to bring some immediate change to your place because it's certainly not going to be your mother. Clean the place up, because not only is your mother living in the home, so are you. You may be a bit young, but there are people out there who've done this at a young age. On the subject of work, i suggest you talk some sense into her. Actually try to talk some sense about maternal responsibilities into about everything--if she doesn't get her act together, get emancipated and move on.

Best of luck and fight on.

Answer 5

If you are grown up enough, move out of the Apartment or at least start looking for one and tell your mother so. If she still is lazy and do not want to work, then just move out. Also, please find out if anything wrong with her physically or not well, etc. In which case, you have to work double hard and keep the apartment clean all by yourself.

Answer 6

How old are you? There's a reason for everything. Is this a new problem? Have you discussed this with her yet? What did she say?
The way I see it is this; be part of the problem or part of the solution? You do have a choice. I don't think you should spend one more moment feeling resentful about this situation...tackle the problem asap.
I wish you luck.

Answer 7

Well maybe if you dont like the way the house looks and smells you should clean it for her, we all have two hands and two feet and if you are old enough to be complaining i am pretty sure you are old enough to do something about it.

Answer 8

Pick up slack for her... clean the messes up, use bleach on things that aren't easily cleanable, and (optional) tell your mother that she's a horrible excuse for a human being.

Answer 9

girl just move into another apartment you cant stay with your mom all the time!! then she will see how it is. but heres a quote that i learned she gave you wings to fly. so fly from home she doesnt always want you around yeah that may sound harsh but it is true. visit but you dont have to stay.

Answer 10

Has this always been an issue or did this just start well maybe she is depressed.You need to talk to her about it and then tell her you will help her clean and see if she will do that

Answer 11

I know shes your mother but tell her shes got to either do some chores or find her somewhere else to stay