after a bad relationship in the past.. i am finding it hard to ever trust again...i sometimes don't even want to trust again! how can i sort out these feelings so i can love again with all my heart and have no doubts?
2006-07-22 13:05:30 · 18 answers · asked by Dreamy Lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, it will be hard! i have some of those same issues...but i have luckily found a man who helps me work out stuff! he has been there for me and i am so thankful for that!
2006-07-22 18:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not so hard to do, hun. You just need time. Sometimes when we get hurt we feel like it's forever and nothing will ever be the same again, but that's not so. Wounds only continue to hurt if you don't allow them to heal.
My advice: Continue to take time to yourself. Don't worry about relationships right now. The more you worry about relationships the more you worry about trust. Just use this time to reflect on the relationship that went south. What did he do? How can you avoid mistakes that where made? What are some of the signs that I need to watch for in the future? These are some of the questions you need to ask yourself. And when the time comes for another relationship you have to remember that not all guys are the same. You can't make your present love pay for the mistakes of the last. It's not fair to them. No one wants baggage, but we pick up a little along the way in this life. But you have to remember to take every chance you can to unpack that baggage and sort through it. Don't let it continue to pile up. That way when you begin a new relationship you'll be fresh. You will be able to love again. But you have to allow yourself to. Doubts will always be in the back of your mind, but it's up to you to let them rule or rot. If you let them rule you, you'll never make progress. But if you let them rot and die, you can move on and grow. Always be cautious and guard your heart, but don't ever be afraid to love again! It's not how many times we get hurt, it's how many times we allow ourselves to be healed!
Best Wishes!
2006-07-22 13:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that must be earned. When someone takes your trust and flushes it like they would a piece of toilet paper, it is very hard to allow anyone to earn your trust. All you can do is to wait, allow time to heal your wounds, and slowly rebuild your trust in people It will take time, but eventually you will be able to love again with all of your heart with no doubts, because the right guy will help you to rebuild such trust, both in yourself and in him.
2006-07-22 13:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take some time for you to build that trust again, if you ever in men and or anybody. My husband did something that just crushed me. And the sad thing is that he did it behind my back.
That was soo sad, that was 2 years ago and I still do not trust him. We have tried talking about it but he gets soo frusrated and stressed that we just "brush it" under the rug and that is NOT healthy to do. I ask myself that question everyday when am I going to trust him again? And can I? Just take some time and good luck.
2006-07-22 13:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by colinsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all a matter of time, you have learned a sad but valuable lesson.
You will meet the one, guy, and you will know you can trust him. If on the other hand, your gut, tells you something, trust that, it's probably, all those little clues adding up to a message for you.
So just keep dating, when he comes along, it will all fall into place for you.
2006-07-22 13:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure, I'm going through that too
I'm sure we all go through this at sometime
Give it some time, you don't need to rush into anything
The pain might not go away but it will lessen. Eventually you will be able to function again, go out with friends, live your life and when you are ready to love again you will find the right man
2006-07-22 13:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
broken trust is like a favorite cup, once it is broken it can not be replaced without thinking the next one can break too, so just find another to trust and see if you can trust again!
2006-07-22 13:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked myself that same question. My advice is to see the guy as a friend first then think about him romantically when you can trust him.
2006-07-22 13:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by anleeV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in alot of bad relationships,and i don't trust any guy.but i know i am going to have to let someone in someday if not i am going to be alone,its hard to trust after someone does you wrong and the next guy that comes in my life is going to have be understanding and give me time to trust him even though he did not do anything to me ...........
2006-07-22 13:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by dede2772 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 05:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when you find the right guy you will know and then you will beable to trust again.
2006-07-22 13:06:57 · answer #11 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋