My son is 2 years old (april3rd). And at times when he doesn't get his way he has tantrums....?

Question

He stiffens up his arms and cries alot. He also runs away I am wondering could this be a tantrum he's havin or just being a2 yr old or a boy? If anyone has any idea what this could be respond and if you have any suggestions help me. Hes really a good kid. Just that when he dont get his way competly he does this. And also he is a VERY VERY big whiner. I guess i should be happy that he isnt cussin and hitting like some kids i see huh,.THANKS IN ADAVNCE

Answer 1

That is a hard age for kids. Their world is opening up and there's so much that they want to say and do. But they are still learning how to interact with things and people (physically and through speech). It's really frustrating. Emotions are difficult too, because they are still trying to understand what they are, what causes them, how to control them, etc.

Be patient and consistent. He needs boundaries. It helps him to know what he can and can't do. Kids thrive on predictability and rules are part of that. As he learns to express himself more it should get better. My 3 1/2 year old still has tantrums, but mostly when he's tired. He's learned to talk to me instead. I always try to keep a calm voice and repeat "I can't understand you. Please calm down and talk to me so I can help." Sometimes he asks me to calm him down, which means he wants to be held.

Good luck.

Answer 2

welcome to the terrible twos's ;o)
They will do this to test you, its hard and frustrating but try to distract him to something else and DONT react to the tantrums which always intensifies them. When he sees it doesnt work, maybe he will stop.

I use to tell my kids "hey I love that song! sing it louder!" then they'd HUH? and stop and say "no" end of tantrum....

Other times I threw myself on the floor and acted like them. They were dumb founded.

Luckily I didnt have to endure it too often and I dont remember how old 2,3,or 4 when I did these things...

Just think, some day they grow up and you will miss those days! Good luck!

Answer 3

I think its partly of being two, but its also that he may see that by tantruming, he gets what he wants.

Yes, your lucky he isnt cussing or hitting other children, but I think and I dont know you, so I cant judge, you have say no and remain firm, even if he does tantrum. I've seen many parents give into their kids tantrums and grow up spoiled.

Answer 4

Theres bad attention and there is good attention. Tell him flat out that you dont do tantrums and ignore him but make it clear the more he does it the more he wont get what he wants then do the ignoring. Put him in his room on his bed and tell him to stay there till he has calmed down and wants to talk nicely to you. If you give to them now they will continue to do this for everything.

Answer 5

i wouldn't recommend throwing a fit because you are supposed to be teaching your son how to cope with stress. He is very young and overwhelmed by feeling. Just hug him and help him calm down, or if he runs away, make sure he's safe and let him calm down. time-outs, putting kids away, is no longer seen as good.

Just make sure he never ever not once gets his way for tantruming. I remember telling my son - i wanted to let you, but since you are acting like this, you know i can't.

talking to your kids will really help. never hit him. try not to yell. and don't send him to day care.

Answer 6

There are three main reasons for tantrums, I found if I could remember them and try to avoid or deal with them it made my day easier.
1) tired, make sure he gets enough sleep, go out during the time of day that he has the most energy.
2) hungry, keep meal and snack times, carry a snack with you everywhere for emergencies
3) unable to communicate what they feel or want. I found signing helped, or to just get down to their level and listen as best you can to what they are trying to say.

Answer 7

My son is going through the same motions, but a billion times worse. I wrote a similiar question and got some pretty interesting answers. Check this out if you get a chance:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20060716103841AAyUv4d

I found some very helpful answers (and some where incredibly stupid and totally male). Good luck with your little one.

Julie

Answer 8

It's called "the terrible twos" it is a phase just make sure you don't give in and spoil him and one thing that worked in my family was a spanking and if you cried without being spanked we were asked" Do I need to give you something to cry about?" usually stopped the crying. My parents were parents ....my friends lived next door.

Answer 9

Sounds like a normal two year old to me.

Talk to him about his emotions and give names to what he is feeling. "I see you are getting frustrated!" or "boy, you sure look mad!" or "I know you're sad that we have to leave" etc. etc. This will help him learn to communicate how he is feeling with words instead of by throwing a tantrum.

When he gets whiney, say, "I can't understand when you talk to me in that voice. Please use a nice voice." And then don't respond to what he wants until he can speak nicely.

Answer 10

Put him in his room and leave him there until he is 18 then kick him out. OR When he is acting in a way that you disapprove, remove him until he is back to "normal" or however it is that you want him to act like. Then when he calms back to where you want him go give to praises and let him know how much better you like it when he acts like an angel.... OR duct tape might work also :)