I am the proud parent to a 9 month old baby girl and I want atleast 1 or two more children. My husband thinks that if we have only 1 child we can give her more in the long run. I think that it is not right to have an "only" child because I came from a family of 3 and I don't know what I would do without my sisters. Any suggestions of getting him to want more children?
2006-07-22 12:45:08 · 13 answers · asked by Tara 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Both of you can think of this: when her parents both pass away, your daughter will be on her own. When our Dad passed unexpectedly, my siblings and I drew great comfort from each other, more than our partners could have given us. I feel for only children as they dont have that support network that only blood ties can bring.
2006-07-22 12:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
As a woman you have influence over your man. Talk about how happy it will make you to have more children. How about talking that you plan to contribute financially in order to give all of your children what they need in the financial area. Tell your husband how capable you are of handling the financial burden along with him. It sounds like he is greatly concern with money matters.
2006-07-22 12:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are supposed to the fruit of the love between husband and wife. If that is true, then it's easy to see why people are having so few children.
"Where is the love?"
2006-07-22 12:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love the child you have,occasionally bring up the subject and trust that your husband will come to his senses.No need to argue,that will only put up a wall whenever anyone even brings up the subject.No rush, you have time.
2006-07-22 12:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would discuss your relationships with your sisters and what it means to you and get his perspective on his siblings if any, the older the children get i think it matters more especially as an adult you have someone who can relate to how you were raised and someone in your corner but maybe he wants to wait till your baby gets older we waited 5 years to have another one but we now have three and he recently brought up the subject of # 4,as you see your children grow , so does your love for them,be patient.good luck
2006-07-22 13:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by evian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now my 9 year old daughter is an only child. most of the time it isn't too bad. however, I know she gets really lonely sometimes. it's really hard on me when she's down because she can't play with anyone and I'm just not cutting it for her anymore.
2006-07-22 14:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jbeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try explaning to him ur point of view. i am 1 of 3 kids also. but i am also a mother of 2 kids i would not want to have only one kid. cause with more than one ur kid has someone to play with so shes not alone and she can have a friend all the time. i want more than 2 kids also. i would like to have about 20 kids weather thay are all mine or if thay are also adopted.
2006-07-22 12:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your baby is jsut 9 months old, give it some time, and he might come around. don't try to force him, and don't get pregnant on purpose with out him knowing it, that might just cause him to not like the 2nd baby. talk to him and tell him your feelings, give him time to absorbe them. After the baby is a little older, he might change his mind and start missing havign a baby around.
2006-07-22 13:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some literature that backs your point of view and discuss it with him. Also, talk to him about if he is having fears such as financial fears, about having another baby.
2006-07-22 12:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you do nicely, I'm an only child and I loved it. Never missed siblings, guess you don't miss what you don't have.
2006-07-22 12:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋