we argue about our kids and she said that i'm spoiling them , i just want to be a Good dad to my kids but i find my wife a little strict with them they are still so small they need to feel as much love as we can give but coz of that i fought with my wife now she is leaving me , i dont want her to leave coz i love here very much , its just a misunderstanding , out of anger i told her some bad things now she is packing her things , she will bring our kids she told me , i told her i'm really sorry but she said anyway she will leave me , what can i do ? help me pls.
2006-07-22 12:31:25 · 13 answers · asked by girly girl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I don't know if you believe in praying but that's what I suggest. If you have done other things to her in the past, she might keep walking. If you haven't...then she may come back. Once she get out there with the kids, or by herself, she'll see if she likes it and come back. I sure wouldn't want to raise kids alone. Try to compromise with her. Do something for/to her that you never done before. You guys have t o work together. Mothers are always striker than the fathers, because they usually spend more time with the kids. If the mother says no, you should say no too. I hate to tell you, but women always win. Don't know why but they do! DO what ever comes to mind to keep your wife, whatever you do, remember to pray. I know that's a hard concept to grasp, but it always works for me. My boyfriend is crazy, but I never want to loose him. Tell her you will go to counseling or something like it. Spend more time with her. Sometimes, women get fed up because the lack of attention, or she may feel that you take up for the kids too much. Children can make parents fight, even though they are innocent to the problem. It's a mind set. Like I said, above all pray. God gave you your wife, now ask Him to help you keep her. You really are determined to save what you have, but only he who gave is the one who can help. He hears those with a sincere heart, and you really have one on this situation
2006-07-22 14:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by lil_l2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. Lots of couple have fights over discipline with their children. You need to consider the fact that no two people can parent quite the same. The key to it is, don't let the children know what you are fighting about...do it behind closed doors and do not undermined each other in front of the kids. Just try to get her to sit down and talk about it. Maybe you both need to give in to each other's ideas a little bit to agree on things about discipline. Good luck!
2006-07-22 19:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened. Just give your wife a little time to cool down and in about 3 to 4 days, talk to her and tell her that you still love her a lot and you don't want her to leave you. Also, do not talk about this in front of your children. Good Luck!!
2006-07-22 19:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be a good dad, try communicating instead of fighting. She probably feels like the bad guy all of the time because you spoil the kids. Meet each other half way, good luck!
2006-07-22 21:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well actuly if shes not even trying to comprmise with u i bet theres not much u can do i watched my mom do the same thing kinda like u situation a few times. i lost my father cause of my mom. my dad and 2 step dads all said my mom spoiled my brothers but she completly hated me and thay had a bunch of fights and stuff i have 2 brothers 1 of my step dads is my brothers father. my mom never actuly married my father. but all u can do is try to talk to her and try and compramize with her try going to a marrage consiler or something. if she says no u can have the courts to make her go to see if ur marrage can be fixed.
im not that old but i am married and have seen alot of things marrage devorce sepreation and more if u would like to talk about anything feel freee to email me jessicasquires85@yahoo.cm
maybe god will help u out. i hope everything gets better for u and ur wife. May GOD Bless You
2006-07-22 19:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the perfect guy!
I love to spoil my kid but by bf cant stand it, although he will spend 300 a month on cigarettes!
2006-07-22 23:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be more reasons than that for her to leave you, especially when you have children together. really examine your relationship and see if there could be any other reason. i doubt shes leaving you because you love and spoil your kids too much. get counseling.
2006-07-22 19:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by lizette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that sucks, your kids need consistency in their lives and they also need discipline or they will turn into brats. It seems a little extreme that she is leaving over this. Matbe she feels like you don't support her.
2006-07-22 19:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time to cool down, and for you to get your thoughts in order. Let her go for now untill you know the best possible way to act.
2006-07-22 19:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by yello_flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you are strick with your children doesn't mean you don't show your love to them, you can still put your arms around them teach them early in this day and age you need to discipline and still keep the focus to love them always,
2006-07-26 19:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋