2006-07-22 12:28:39 · 14 answers · asked by Jade2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they share a child that is 7. The lies are being told to people in school, sports, and even in court. I get the most horrible looks from people I dont even know.
2006-07-22 14:41:38 · update #1
If approached by someone just tell them that her lying is the main reason shes an ex. Learn to ignore her because otherwise you are playing her little kids games on her level, and besides what do you care, you got her man!. But once she figures you arent playing,the funs gone and hopefully so is she. The biggest problem with spreading rumors is you have to find someone to believe them. By now most people should have figured her out and really dont care what she says. If it gets too bad, sue her for slander,thatll shut her up.
2006-07-22 12:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough thing to go through.
I basically moved to anther town/life to get away from the drama with my X and gossip.
My counselor told me to continue to be myself and not buy into the drama with the X and wife. It has been really hard to not get into it with them. It is paying off. People can eventually figure out who the good guys are and who is lying.
If you run around frantically trying to prove to everyone that the gossip isn't true, you might end up looking like the nut. And you don't want that. Just be true to yourself.
Your X's wife must be very insecure to act like she does. Just feel sorry for her. Hold your head up high and be the best you that you can be.
Make it your goal that if someone meets you they will say "wow you are nothing like your x and wife say you are. You are wonderful and you arn't even close to what she says about you"
When people figure this out you will be so glad that you didn't buy into the dysfunction. If people ask you about it, just stay calm and say something like. "I have heard this gossip, and I choose to not be part of it, I just don't have time for this foolishness' Say this with genuine conficdence.
This lady is verbally abusing you because she thinks she will get a response from you. If she finds out that you are confident, she will lose her power.
The best revenge is to be happy. That will drive her nuts.
2006-07-22 20:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deal with her at all. You know that she's talking a bunch of s***. Anyone who knows you, also knows she's talking a bunch of hooey. All the others who are not so familiar with you yet will eventually come to the same conclusion. There is no need for you to justify her gooble-dy-goop or for you to respond to any of her malarky. You just keep being the wonderful person that you are and ignore her. Eventually she's going to look like the "Doo-Doo Talking Liar" that she is and you have managed to avoid contributing to the "DRAMA" therefore... bringing less stress
(NOT THAT IT ISN'T STRESSFUL OR SO AGGRAVATING THAT YOU WANT TO GO OFF ON THE ...opps. Sorry, got caught up in the moment)
to you. Remember one thing; when people are talking about you or someone doesn't like you, instead it causing you hurt and sadness (or anger) in your life, ask yourself these questions. 1. What does this person mean to you? 2.Does it really matter what they think? 3.Who are they to you? I mean, why get caught up in all the drama when this person doesn't really mean a whole heck of alot to you? You dont have to be mean or rude, or stoop to their level. You just keep being you. As long as you are doing right by yourself and yours and you aren't doing anything wrong, in the end, it all takes care of itself.
2006-07-22 19:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Teri S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what she is saying? Least of all, you shouldn't give it a second thought. If people are stupid enough to make a judgement call by what she's spreading, you don't want them as friends or whatever anyways. Quit worrying about it and just be happy. As soon as she figures out that she can't get a reaction out of you for telling her lies, she find someone else to pick on!
2006-07-22 19:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by oklahoma_whistle_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the people who know you and matter in your life will know the truth. If they don't, then they aren't who you thought they were. The more you say the more it fuels the fire and the worse she will be. Try being nice to her. That should cause her to have a heart attack and die. Problem solved.
2006-07-22 19:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously still wnts im or she wunt b spredin tings wud she? dnt retaliate dats da worst ting u cud do coz it will jst carry on n nutin will get solved!! if ur husband trusts u e aint guna listen 2 nefin she spreds is she? so dnt worry she is jst a vile woman hu u need 2 ignore!! der is a reason why she is your husbands EX wife!! u may need 2 remnd her of dat from time 2 time.
2006-07-22 19:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lipzyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her look bad by being a better person and saying nice things about her to the people she spreads rumour to, and be syrupy nice and sweet to her, everyone will see how she is a liar when they realized that you are a good person
2006-07-22 19:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is she doing that I mean he should believe you not her and what kind of lies is she telling him
2006-07-22 21:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her, you are the better person, and you know it. But if she does not quit tell her ; it does not mather what she tells to whom ,but she better make sure she does not tell lies,otherwise you tell everybody about her sex life --- what stinks --- LOL
2006-07-22 19:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by diamantenkitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak UP! If she's in your house, throw her out! LOL Don't be shy, she's trying to trash on you to either a) wreck your marriage, or b) get 'her' man back, don't sit still for either one...get her dizzy*** out of your house...and if it's in public, don't be shy there, either...
2006-07-22 19:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋