It is not a competition!
2006-07-22 12:21:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You tell your fiancee to do this.
You absolutely MUST keep being polite and respectful to future inlaws and dont respond to their disrespect.
But you must also think about this.....
If you fiancee doesnt protect you and tell your inlaws to lay off, then you better realize that this might be a problem forever, and you will either have to learn to ignore it, or not marry the wimp, because there is a great likelyhood that either they will continue their disrespect or they will realize you're ok. But you wont be able to complain about the former, cause you knew the possibility going in.
2006-07-22 12:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Yourname Here 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
there is no guarantee on that one. you just have to prove to them that you are different from the ex-. show your own ability, talent, characters, kindness, sweetness and they will see it for themselves. try your best not to think bad about what they are doing as long as your husband loves you for you. there's an intimidation process that you need to pass before you get their approval. just be honest and show how much you love your husband cause he is the one you lived with and married. don't worry about his folks thoughts cause you cannot erase the fact that they do have the bonding ahead of you. you just have to outshine her on your own capability. ask your husband what his ex usually do for her to be adored by your in law, but don't copy her style, find out what your in law disapprove of her, then fill the positive way to work on it. if she is not good in cooking, try to learn to cook and impress your in law, invite them to your place and show them how hospitable and kind you are, find out what's your mother in law favorite past time and surprise her, like get her favorite books, plants, flower or take her outing for sight seeing.
you need to show that you are who you are and willing to compromise for your future being their new daughter.
i wish you all the luck to win them over..
2006-07-22 12:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by salome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell them nothing. You go to your financee, tell him how his parents are making you feel, and ask him to talk to his family. Trust me on this one. I spent years trying to deal with in law issues myself, and only wound up getting myself into hot water. No one wants to hear anything negative about themselves from someone who is not a blood relative. Let your financee deal with it. Good luck.
2006-07-22 12:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God was very busy so he created a Mother to help and spread his goodness to earth.
Satan got very worried and decided to retaliate...so he created a Mother-in-Law!!!
2006-07-22 12:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by zaazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and chat with them. bring out the qualities of other daugher-in-law and bring out your own. state your case! that you and so and so are not the same person, have diferent views and opinions, dislikes and likes, and that you are tolerant and accepting of her qualities and would like the same respect with who you are.
2006-07-22 12:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by georgie g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them, i mean it, try tellign them how you feel about it, peopel do things they arent aware they are doign, maybe if you bring it to their attention tell them it pisses you off and your being as good a person as you can be, than maybe they will back off
2006-07-22 12:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by woundshurtless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just said it. There's nothing wrong with being direct.
2006-07-22 12:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by RubySoho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance should talk to them! After all, you'll soon be his wife. Talk to him!!
2006-07-22 12:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "I'm not ___. I'm my own person and I hope you can respect that."
2006-07-22 12:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋