Does a person really forgive a bf/gf spose etc for cheating ? Even with counceling and such, is it possible to ever forgive them and trust them again ?
2006-07-22 12:18:30 · 16 answers · asked by nknicolek 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't know of sucessful fixes, but they may be out there! I had forgiven my wife, we did well for a few months and then she strayed again. Then she earned the title Ex-Wife!
But again, there had to be some sucess stories. Readers Digest ran a few articles like http://www.rd.com/content/openContent.do?contentId=15362
2006-07-22 12:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by AFBuckeye 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i can tell u by experience that it is very hard to forgive a cheater. my bf was with me for almost a year and he broke up with me b4 our anniversary [personal reasons]...and after a week he was with a friend of mine. i was very heartbroken and from that moment i felt like i couldnt trust him anymore. even though now he wants to be close with me again, and he's still with her. i still love him but i dont trust him & haven't forgiven him bcoz he may cheat again. it is up to you if you want to forgive that person. no one can force you into it. and it depends on how he/she cheated. giving forgiveness takes time! some people do forgive & some never do...................for me...i'll give it 10 years =) let 'em suffer!
2006-07-22 12:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by [maclover] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did once with an ex-boyfriend. We got back together, went to counseling together & seperate. Things went fine for about 14 months. Then I kept wondering if he'd cheat again. He worried that I'd leave because he had once. We broke up & have remained friends for a few years. I was cheated on again by another boyfriend & he begged for me back. Instead of wasting time, I told him no & began the long process of moving on. My biggest issue with cheaters is wondering: he cheated on me once & fooled me. Why can't he do it again? For me, it's better to break up the relationship & move on. If I was married, same thing.
2006-07-22 12:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Belle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It definitely depends on the person because some people have issues that do not allow them to be extremely trustful.
2006-07-22 12:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by rkofan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are so diffrent in our society that I would think some may actually be able to completly forgive, but I dont see how.
2006-07-22 12:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by wubba1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you cheat you break a trust and have obviously lied to stop being caught ....so forgiveing is probably easy ..forgetting and building up trust again takes time
2006-07-22 12:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend whose spouse cheated. They are still together but I still have to listen about the "cheating."
I don't believe that they ever forget but it will take time to forgive.
2006-07-22 12:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think the relationship will ever be the same
it is possible to forgive but never forget the trust issue will always be there
2006-07-22 12:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by janet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on personality some do some not depending also on what did the partener cheat in
me i will never forgive what ever the reason
2006-07-22 12:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by K.D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, they do forgive. But, they never forget.
2006-07-22 12:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by private_footballfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋