why are all the sweet, understanding guys either gay or taken??

Question

seems like all the guys i meet turn out to be pigs.

Answer 1

LOL!!! I'm always saying that. "All the good ones are either gay, taken, or don't want to date!" I'm sure it's not true, but it sure seems like it sometimes! I only get flirted with by ugly, no good guys. LOL The cute ones just glance at me and keep on going. I laugh about it though, because I don't really need to date now.

Answer 2

No, we are out here single and fat too. To be sweet and understanding you have to have been educated in some of the more serious life lessons. The trouble is the women that abuse us teach us and the men that abuse you teach you. You are probably looking at the wrong things.

Guys that are taken and/or gay are not on the "hunt". You notice that and are attracted to them. You take time to talk to them realize they are really nice and then discover the taken or gay thing.

There are a lot of us out here, but you must have the ability to look past some physical defects to find the guy you say you want or is your real question the old, "Why can't I change the dreamy stud muffin that I want?"

I have been both muffinly and fat and the difference in the way women treat me is incredible. At one time women would send me drinks in bars (so would the gay guys), now they don't even look at me as they walk by. I have to drive up in a Mercedes and hold the platinum card out of the car window to get a hooker.

I can lose weight, but a jerk that is pretty will always be a jerk until someone teaches them a lesson in humility. That usually takes a strong woman who knows what she wants in a relationship and will not compromise. Most people are nice one on one; it is the rare person that is also nice in a crowd. Start with some common interests and go from there.

It is not a panacea, but start at a local church. Of course not all people in a church are nice, but you have a higher chance of hitting a good one. If that is not your cup of tea, volunteer at something you do like and look for guys that want to save the sea otter too. If they are willing to volunteer it may be a decent start. When you find a good guy be a good girl. It takes two to make a relationship work. Good luck!

Answer 3

They're not all gay or taken. Gay guys are *stereotypically* more sensitive and effeminate (ie: sweet & understanding). Many girls are looking for sweet understanding guys, thus leading to many being taken. However, I know some good guys who are getting kind of hopeless about finding sweet and caring girls to date.

Answer 4

It depends on how hostile and belligerent u are, lots of women are very fragmented and want to feel accepted. I'm very sweet but at the same tI'me im honest so if u have any issues that might taint your rep then watch out. I dint hurt girls on purpose they end doing in themselves. Just some past experience.

Answer 5

The gay and taken guys are two-faced. They just show you their fake side.

Answer 6

If "you" have a consistent habit of picking lemons on the tree of love, then, is it the "MEN"???.....or "YOUR" bad choices.

REMEBER.....one definition of insanity, is doing the same thing over, and over,...expecting to get different results every time!!!

Answer 7

You want a sweet, straight guy? Good luck there.

Answer 8

I don't blame them. If my only option was AMERICAN WOMEN then I would probably turn gay as well.

Answer 9

Thats what we tell you so you stop gushing about how sweet and understanding we are...

Answer 10

They aren't,they just don't choose to hang out in obvious spots.