2006-07-22 12:02:59 · 21 answers · asked by loviebunnie2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my guy for 2 years and believe he is cheating but lying about it. He has a match.com profile that he said is old even though it has current info. He is manipulative. If something is wrong it's blamed on me. If he throws stuff at me its becuase I made him so mad. He is secretive and evil and I am going to leave him.
2006-07-22 12:09:21 · update #1
because more then likely your the "doormat" type of personality u are so nice that u let people walk all over u , and when they learn this, they start taking it a step further seeing how far they can get, they lose respect for u because u dont stand up for yourself.. and they start figuring out they can treat u like dirt and big deal u'll just take it.. till they get bored with u then they cast u aside like ur nothing..
2006-07-22 12:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little Red Riding Hood! I mean Love Bunnie--
Put down that picnic basket for a minute and listen to me. You've been taught games that change the way you walk through the woods. The games you play are a magnet for wolves.
Read "Games People Play" by Eric Berne. There are two or three games in there that will really make you laugh -- because -- those are the very ones you play yourself! You've got to work on identifying them, then stop playing them, then blow off some steam by playing the "good" games that are described in that book.
AFTER you finish "Games People Play," you may be nervous and want to think this doesn't apply to you. So when that mood comes along, pick up "What Do You Say After You Say Hello" and check out the analysis of two "scripts" -- the one for Little Red Riding Hood and the one for Little Pink Riding Hood.
You were raised to play these games and get into these troubles. It isn't easy to get out -- the first answerer was himself on the right track!
2006-07-22 12:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the first step of recovery.....you know the problem, Now you can work on it
Ask yourself what happened in your growing up years that make it ok for you to fall for guys like that?
(I tend to fall for guys who need to be taken care of).
It could be that you need a certian amount of attention and at first their manipulation feels like love (my X) eventually that attention you realize is control that benifites only the guy.
Make a list of what you want in a guy. And then make a list of the non negotionables. (things you won't put up with) Then when you start going out with a guy that has a non negoitable things, you just stop, don't continue to see him, it just makes it harder to quit him later.
Give guys a chance who you might never give a second glance.
For some reason you must send off vibs to men who think you are the perfect target for them. Figure out what you do that attracts them to you and then make sure you change whatever behavior that behavior or clue you give off.
2006-07-22 12:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should Truly get to know your friends before you open your heart totally to them. Ask a lot of questions and be frank about your true feelings as they occur during the relationship. Get to know there parents and close friends this should give you outstanding clues about your friend. Be patient with your love until your inner spirit is at peace about this person. Pray for guidance in the affairs of life and Be wise as a fox and cute as an Angel. God Bless you!!!
2006-07-22 12:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chilly Willy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been studying what attracts woman to men and apparently woman like men to show they are in charge and evil men do this but unfortunately they have other baggage. There is a man who sends out a daily letter about this in Austin Texas named John Alanis.
I was disappointed because it means that to attract woman you like you cannot be yourself but from all the research I have done it is for real
2006-07-22 12:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by bill.lewis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you like to punish yourself? You think you don't deserve someone better? How do you feel about yourself?
The more respect, you have for yourself, the more you will want a kind, real man, called a GENTLEman!! Build yourself up, than you will have a better outlook on who you choose.
Though there is that saying"When you're bad, you"re good"
2006-07-22 12:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u lookin in the rite places if u r under 16 yrs life is not ready 4 true love find a good lookin guy and be picky about it dont jump 4 the first *** that comes aroud make them work to get u
2006-07-22 12:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because evil manipulative men are much better at seeming cool and suave. Normal nice guys are often shy and clumsy around women.
2006-07-22 12:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by ubathby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are you are getting beat at your own game.
Let me explain. I used to be evil and manipulative, but I only did that to girls who attempted to decieve me first. I know revenge is so petty, but what can I say? I was young.
Guys you mess with probably think you are fake. So they use you.
Im not saying you are fake, but you may be seen that way.
2006-07-22 12:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being mistreated and manipulated is what you are used to. Learn to love yourself and find out what you like so you know what to ask of someone else.
2006-07-22 12:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋