I have been dating him since April 12th, 06... my mom says I cant love anyone at my age..but I think I can.I know he feels the same way about me. He tells me all the time.I love him..but Im afraid to get to close bkuz people tell me..that you have more than one love in your life. Like you will have more than one major boyfriend..and feelings change for certain people...But I love him to mich for that to change. Billy & I have talked about it and he agrees... If I really do love him..then it wont.. but Im not sure I really love him.. bkuz Im not sure I can...
2006-07-22 12:02:57 · 31 answers · asked by Tayy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you gotta stop thinking of love like some kind of disease! It's not the kind of thing that someone else can say you do or don't have.
Love is what YOU think it is. If you think you love him, then you do. It doesn't mean anything more than that.
When your mom says you can't love anyone at your age, she's talking about what SHE thinks love is. Love, to her, is probably not just a feeling of affection towards someone, but a deeper sense of commitment that only comes with years of experience.
So, you say you love him. You're right.
Mom says you can't love him. She's right, too.
Love is different for everyone. All you can do is accept the way you feel and enjoy it! You don't have to do anything that OTHER PEOPLE say you should do when you're in love.
If your mom thinks love means marrying someone, that doesn't mean that YOU have to get married because you love your boyfriend. If your boyfriend says you should have sex with someone that you love, that doesn't mean that YOU have to have sex because you're in love.
Being young and discovering what love means to you is a beautiful, beautiful thing. Don't rush into anything and _definitely_ don't let anyone talk you into feeling one way or another.
ENJOY yourself! ^_^
2006-07-22 15:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Narplex 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
ok. this is kind of tricky. right now you think your in love. In a sense you are. But not like "real, true, exploding love" Your mother is right, i know it sucks hearing that but its true. You are only 12 and still have a lot of growing and maturing to do. ((even I at 22 still do)). Live, love, and learn. This will happen throughout your life. You will fall in love, you will fall out of love, and you will learn from it in order not to make the same mistakes again. Right now instead of worrying about whether it is love or not, just enjoy being twelve and being good friends with Billy. If it isnt love think about it, you can be best friends and a good friend is a lot better to have than a boyfriend anyhow!!!!!
Live life to the fullest!
2006-07-22 19:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by coco_k22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him all you want, but don't get pregnant, engaged or married. You will not believe how much you will change between junior high and college- and yes, you should definitely go to college and learn how to be an independent woman before you commit to a man. Don't go straight from living w your parents to living w him- you will most likely regret it. Most teenage girls think they love their first boyfriend, but rarely does it last and turn in to a marriage.
Just have fun being a teenage girl, and be happy that you have a nice boy to hang out with. Don't be so serious about it.
Hope that helps a little, have FUN!
PS- if I married the first boy I thought I loved when I was 14, I would now be married to (actually, probably divorced from) a raging alcoholic who has never held a steady job in his life!!!!! He is a huge LOSER now. It's very sad. But I'm happy I didn't stick w him.
2006-07-22 19:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm touched by your confidence to proclaim your ambition.
you are just 12, it is not unusual for anyone your age to feel that way.
let me tell you, do not be afraid, be free instead, becos this is not the kind of love you think you might have for Billy. this is a lasting kind of friendship, it may go on and on and on, being ridiculously uncomfortable, not knowing what it is that is happening but you can be sure that you and Billy will always forever remain friends no matter what happens in the future.
have more conversation with Billy and you will find out that something very different to what you are currently experincing.
2006-07-22 19:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Bif 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweety, it is a form of love, yes.. but not 100% true, marriage, want to be with you forever type of love. I know that you think it might be, but its not. Enjoy spending time with your little man, cherish your memorys that you are making right now. If it does not work out, then you will have some memorys to look back on, if you and him last for a very long time, great!! Just don't worry about a real committed relationship right now girl, you are still young. Enjoy being young, it does not last for ever.
2006-07-22 19:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by saturnmaiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea! I've had a crush on a lot of boys . In this generation kids are dating so young . All I can say is take it slow , don't let him pressure you , wait to have sex until your older and have access to birth control.
In my opinion , keep it simple ; Take him to the movies , take him out for a soda , do anything that seems harmless and won't hurt you or get you pregnant.
If you need to talk e-mail me at jesse86n@yahoo.com
Blanche
2006-07-22 19:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called puppy love. wait a few years, don't rush into anything.
If he really loves you like ,he said he does. Then he'll wait for
sex until your old enough. Go have fun like any normal kid
would do, stay active. Go watch a good movie. Take a walk
in the park. But make sure you both understand one another.
Don't do anything just because someone else is having sex.
Keep your VIRGINITY as long as you can. Thats how you can tell he really loves you and not just your body.
2006-07-22 19:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have some strong feelings about him, and only you will know because you are the only one that knows your feelings and every one has a different idea of love.
Many people say that young people are not ready for love, maybe they're right, maybe wrong. They are probably saying that at your age, they weren't ready, but who's to say your not?
2006-07-22 20:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by syelark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not sure you can what????????????
You got me hun???????
you may only be 12 but you do have feelings as we all have... you may think that you are madly in love with him so enjoy it while you are young, you see you will get older and meet other people and when you are older and truly find the meaning of love you will look back a laugh at how you are feeling now, I now you will not believe me but I have been there and done it and look back at my first love and can truly say that I was head over heals in love with him and at the time would have done anything but look at what I have now and see that it was simply all part of growing up.
you go girl,,,, just remember your mum has once been your age and will try her hardest to protect you.....
2006-07-22 19:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by ooooh look @ me, lol 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you love him? yes Is it mature love? no Both of you will change over the next few years big time. Your ideas about love will change, so will his. This is nothing to worry about now as long as the two of you behave yourselves and don't get into any heavy physical relationship. Just enjoy each other right now.
2006-07-22 19:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋