is my girlfriend cheating on me?

Question

my girlfriend and i have been dating for 6 months. the first 5 were great but this last one she has changed . mostly all the little things. she used to tell me nightly that she was so in love with me and we openly talked of engagement rings and marriage. she wanted sex every other day. all of a sudden we go about a week without having sex, she only says she loves me when i say it first, she is bitching at me for nearly everything that comes out of my mouth, she doesnt want to talk much about marriage all of a sudden, wont cuddle anymore in bed, and bitches at me for saying i love you too much when in the past she loved to hear it. when we do have sex though she always says how much she loves me when we are done but then go another week without it. she just left today for a week in virginia beach with her family. can i trust her at the beach, 3 months ago i would have trusted her 110 percent but now i'm unsure. shes a big drinker and that makes me nervous especially at the beach

Answer 1

my girlfriend did the same thing to me. but she didnt cheat on me. but i wouldnt say that she is cheating on you, but that she's not happy about something. it could really be anything, even small flaws in the relationship or some problem you have talked about before that one of you is trying to fix. that isnt getting fixed, or atleast not in her mind. it could be a number of things. in my experience things usually tend to slow down after about 5-7 months anyway. i dont know. good luck.

Answer 2

ok yes the signs point that way she lashing out at you because of her guilt. And knowing how much you love her makes it harder to deal with or she could just being having problems. But the big thing is a relationship does need trust and if you can't trust her maybe it is time to break it off, if not expect her to start accusing you of being a control freak. If she accuses you of cheating that's the last piece in the puzzle.
However the chips fall she is obviously holding something back from you whether it is her cheating or not and that's what is causing her to distance herself.
Don't mention the cheating but bring up the fact that you feel like you are being pushed away and explain what is happening that makes you feel that way.Who knows maybe she doesn't realize she is pulling away.

Answer 3

I can't tell for sure from just reading your question. However, it seems like things have certainly cooled down a bit. Maybe she just needs a little space? If you hold too tight, that can drive some people away. Make her be the one to say I love you and see how long it takes her.

Also, just sit down and talk with her and have a heart to heart about how you feel. Look her in the eye. If something is up, she may not be able to look back into yours...

At any rate, unless you are a big drinker yourself, do you really want to settle down with someone who is?

Answer 4

No.. this doesnt mean she is cheating.. Maybe she has something on her mind (not related to you or the relationship) maybe she needs some space to breath, and maybe the "new" of the relationship has worn off. Lots of maybes. Best thing to do is just simply ask her whats going on. If it were me.. I would simply trust her until you have a reason not to. Its silly and a waste of time to let your mind wonder on the subject "is she cheating or not" since there is really nothing you can do about it. Once she gets back.. just sit her down and simply ask her if she still feels the same way about you as she once did. If she has inclination of breaking up with you she will do so when this door is opened. Good luck.

Answer 5

Not sure if she is cheating, but she may have met someone and could be thinking about it! Sounds like she is being argumentative so that if she calls off the relationship, she won't feel guilty! If she is not mature enough to communicate with you her true feelings, then brace yourself, because your instincts are warning you that she is about to "lower the boom" on you. You can either beat her to the punch and dump her( but you are not 100% sure if something is up), or you can just let it play out, but stay ready for anything. If she wants to go her way, give her a wide path, and move on. That may surprise her, but don't let her play with your head. Moving on is the only way to recover from the hurt, not staying around for her insecurities.

Answer 6

Well, now that she's gone, you're just going to HAVE to trust her, huh?

Tell you what: when she gets back, provided she's still acting all weird on you and hasn't come right out and said she's dumping you, why don't you tell her the same things you're telling us and get it all off your chest. Maybe she doesn't realize that she's pulled away. Or maybe there's something going on you are unaware of.

Either way, people aren't mind readers; if there's something going on that's making you uncomfortable, open your mouth and SAY something, rather than letting doubt and resentment build! If anything, THAT is a bigger relationship destroyer than odd behavior.

Answer 7

When they start with the bitchy attitude you might as well stay away as far as possible from that. Count your blessings that she is not pregnant. I would never allow any girl, woman to talk to me that way. Loss of respect for one another is diasterous, to say the least. I know girs like that, and they get worse if they don't get their way. She drinks too, whew, too much for me. Find you another one, quick, before she comes back. If she does come crawling back, tell her to drop the bitchy attitude or let her hit the road. Cheating? Wake up man, she is walking all over you cause she knows you will take all of her abuse, and cheating.

Answer 8

I don't know if she's cheating, but it sounds like she's having second thoughts about marriage. You've only been together for a short time, so just take it slow. If I were in your situation, I would hesitate to commit to someone with a drinking problem, not to mention the inconsistent behaviour.

Answer 9

1 of 2 things is happening her

1. shes falling out of love with u.. sorry but truth..

or

2. Most people 99.9% change after they are dating for 6 months, after 6 months the "TRUE" them comes out they get comfortable and start feeling they dont have to try as hard anymore and they start showing their inner self.. basically the giddiness of the relationship has worn off at this point ..

Answer 10

I dont think she has I think that she is thinking about it. If you have to worry about her like that leave her alone cause it sounds like she is loose and you give her the frredom to do what she wants. If you are not trying to leave her be a man and take a little more control of the relationship before she does cheat on you.