we are together for 6 mounth..and we love each other and we wanna have sex...really I am scard but I wanna pass it..because of this love!
2006-07-22 11:09:09 · 23 answers · asked by sweet_angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 16 years old
2006-07-22 11:21:51 · update #1
How old are you, and more importantly ... how mature are you? Those are the real questions here. Most teenagers below about 16-17 don't have sufficient maturity to handle sex. You MAY be an exception, but the odds are against you. If this guy truly has your best interests at heart, he will wait until you're ready.
2006-07-22 11:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
What i can say is that you be careful about wanting to have sex with your six month old relationship with your boyfriend. How old are you is some thing you need to take into account.
If you get pregnant will he be a good father and want to stay with you. There is Aids and all forms of sickness out there that you have to take into account.
You mention being scared so it seems there is some reservation about having sex with him. You mention Love and my question is what is your definition of love to put your self at risk with some one you only know for six months, compared to your mum who i assume have taken care of you besides some love interest.
Don't do any thing you may regret with this guy and slow things down. The decision is yours in the end if you want to go a head with him and have sex.
I just hope you don't regret this decision and then it is your same mum that will have to be there for you in the end. A lot of guys once they have sex with you once or a few times move on to some one else.
I'm not saying that the one you have is like that, you just have to be prudent and safe.
2006-07-22 18:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared and you need your mom's "blessing", and worse, you don't have it... DON'T DO IT! If it's love that you have now, after 6 months; then your love will only grow stronger after 6 more. You're not going to get your mom to understand because I'm not even sure you do... Sex isn't something you have to do because you're in love, either. Nor being pressured by some pubescent sex obsessed boyfriend. Make sure you have more in common then just wanting to have sex. Once you give it this guy, you can't ever get it back if you turn out to be wrong. good luck... sweet little angel, indeed.
2006-07-22 18:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Drose119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to let her know, but if she finds out, try to let her know you are responible enough to do this. If you're 16+ its pretty much ok, you're not any older than what some peoples' parents were when they had sex. Its not a good idea to do it if you're 10-15, like myself. I will admit I have done it a few times, but I ALWAYS make sure both me and my girlfriend have some sort of protection. I know its a bad idea for me to do it, but young people like me are crazy these days.
But just let your emotions and instincts take control, if your parents find out, either get them to understand, or just forget them, lol. DON'T do it if you don't have protection, because of the risk of pregnancy. And make sure no one talks about it, because parents can found out ANYTHING, seriously, they got connections, lol.
Good Luck, I hope you find a good solution to this problem.
2006-07-22 18:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Michael Hooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cultures, as the one my finacee is from, have very strong ties within the family unit. In every country I have visited where the Catholic Faith is prominent the parents are as involved in relationships and marriage as the actual child.
There is no correct answer to this question. No ask no tell is as distructive as unprotective sex can be.
2006-07-22 18:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Answers4all 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, but if you feel you are mature enough to make this decision then that is what you have to make your mom understand. Maturity is shown in many ways..you have to take a good look at your behavior and ask the question, "Does my behavior in general show my mother than I am mature?" If it does, then tell your mother that you feel you can make this decision for yourself and you are prepared to deal with any consequences.
2006-07-22 18:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mandana W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question or two. Do you think your mother has more interest in keeping you safe or you boyfriend? Do you think your mother has more experience and knows more about what pitfalls you might face or you boyfriend. Do you realize that having sex with a minor person is a crime and the fella can go to jail?
2006-07-22 18:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old your are. In my opinion this is the rule....you only have sex when if the condom breaks and you get pregnant you can live and take care of a child on your own without any help from your parents. If this is the case....go for it.
2006-07-22 18:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how old r u? if u are 16 or 17 that is the perfect age to have sex tell her to go screw a monkey or go f**** her self my name is sid butwhat intill u are 7 monts are somthing just do it somwhere but have safe sex that is all that counts
2006-07-22 18:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why u want your mom to understand it r u gonna married or what????
if no then i would think that do go for it cause u have to bit sure that to whom u choose gonna love you and take care for you forever for your whole life
man can make only mistakes he never has the right thing cause whatever human does gonna truble somebody
2006-07-22 18:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋