My feiance has pictures of a girl he met online before he met me. She is a really pretty girl. He also has her address, phone number, email, and a few of the emails that she has sent him saved on his computer. I have asked him to delete them (he says he never talks to her anymore), he says he will but he just leaves them on there. Should I be concerned or am I just freaking out for nothing?
2006-07-22 10:47:49 · 22 answers · asked by Little Flower 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is no longer communicating with her, I wouldn't worry about it. He will remove them when he is ready. Forcing the issue will only make it worse.
2006-07-22 10:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned, if its done and he's all about you what is the point in keeping them. How would he feel if you kept things like that around. Just to make a point put a picture of an ex or you and an ex on the mantle or wherever you keep pictures and say well if you can keep whats her name around i can keep him around. Fair is fair. I think you'll see the 'memories' disappear real quick. When dealing with men remember that they learn best by getting a taste of their own medicine, nothing else seem to really pierce that guy stupidity about things like this. Plus he learns right now that you will give as good as you get, which reduces the amount of crap you get in the future by leaps and bounds.
2006-07-22 17:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are freaking out over nothing. Guys hold on to things just in case things don't work out with there current relationship. I would be concerned. I would tell him to delete them and sit with him until he does. How would he feel if you had and guys picture and all that stuff on your computer?? Try and give him that condition. If that doesn't work then I would be looking for a new man.
2006-07-22 17:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by ambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use reverse physcology on him. Tell him " Listen I am not going to force you to do something you don't want to. If you want to keep the pictures and all that then keep them but you have to realize it's not right. When you made that rpomise to me, the promise didn't ome with e-mails and stuff about a girl you met revious to me. I am sorry but can't marry you yet, not until you realize it isn't fair to me and it's not right." Then go sleep over someone else's house for a week or so and if he deletes them and comes back to you then you completed the mission but if he doesn't, find yourself someone better. I am not going to tell you to get real or over it because you are about to marry this guy and f you feel uncomfortable, then you won't feel like your relationship is real. Be sure and test his love. If this is before marriage you have to make sure because THIS is the guy you are going to marry, not the people saying to get over it.
2006-07-22 18:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the fiance and it is a concern 4 U...THEN IT SHOULD BE FOR HIM 2! He Hasn't Learned the " If MOMMA isn't Happy No 1 in the House will be Happy Rule." Yet!
2006-07-22 17:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has the pictures in a 8X10 frame and her personal information in a special photo album displayed for the world to see them....these are his memories. If and when he decides to get rid of them is up to him. Maybe you need to ask yourself why this stuff threatens you and why you don't trust him?
2006-07-22 17:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying , unless he gives you a reason . I still have every picture , piece of jewelry, poems, letters ..I've ever got from guys even from grade school. i was married for 10 year(widowed) and in another relationship for another 10 years . and have dated several in between , every thing i have was given to me from a time in my life when i was happy. they are memories and that's it . i don't pull them out a sulk but after years of not remembering something its cool to look my children thinks its neat too .no one will make me destroy them . the man I'm with knows i love him without a dought .
2006-07-22 18:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by porcelain65711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This coming from a female who most likely, as most do, has volumes upon volumes of pictures and photo albums stacked dangerously behind her 200 pairs of shoes and sandals?
You are being retarded. Get over it.
2006-07-22 17:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by cannon1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel worry about it, because you feiance has the right to meet friends right? as long as he is not doing anything he is not suppose to do, then let him keep his friends.
2006-07-22 17:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. He probably just yanks it to that picture every once in a while (which I hope you know is completely harmless. Don't be 'that girl' and take away all of your guy's fantasies)
2006-07-22 17:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by craftman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋