My friend has depression following separation from the family. He has accepted himself to be inclined towards a person of the same sex. He was married for over 30 years.There is no possibility of a reunion. The children (all of legal age) believe everything their mother tells them. Most of what she tells them are untrue, as she is very bitter. The children are keeping away from him. The grandchildren are being told lies at their early age.
I have advised my friend to seek professional counselling, he agrees to this but his depression seems to make this difficult. He has attempted to take his own life and I was able to intervene just in time. He easily reverts to suicidal thoughts when things are really bringing him down. Help
2006-07-22 10:37:43 · 8 answers · asked by Dominic 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
making him go to councelling is the way to go. You sound like you are doing all the right things.
I'd suggestively offer to take him to the counceller and wait outside and follow through. Don't let him chicken out, but don't really force him. Only force him with words of encouragement. You can't go on saving his life forever, it is just too mentally draining and exausting. Sounds like he is lucky to have a friend that cares so much.
He isn't going to recover unless he wants to recover. Once he realises he has a problem and wants to fix it, helping him will be easier.
2006-07-22 10:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by BouncingMolar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can advice you to do is be there for him, and love him. the bible says love covers a multitude of sin (1 peter 4:8), and that love NEVER fails (1 corinthians 13). Constantly bring him up, telling him his worth and how important he is in your life and in others. That he was brought to this earth with a purpose, and a plan. His life is not in vain. Professional counseling helps.. but seeing a doctor and someone whos pretty much paid to make you feel better will never compare to the warmth and love of a friend.
2006-07-22 10:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by MELLO26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the Emergency Room or a doctor AT ONCE! He cannot be left alone. This a medical emergency. Lie to him if you have to! He may resist going. A severely depressed person cannot make himself get up & do the things he should do. It will seem to him that life is too painful to be endured & death will be a welcome release. You cannot support him all by yourself. If there is a friend or family member that will help you, that is even better. Good luck.
2006-07-22 10:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by Da Bomb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you try to spend as much time as possible with him in this time of discouragement. A suicidal person should never be left alone. Remember to be attentive and understanding of his emotions because he really needs to know that someone really does care for him despite what he is going through with his family. Also have him see a psychatrist to prescribe him some medication and a counselor that he feels comfortable to talking to. This should help and I hope that God restores him.
2006-07-22 10:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Larry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lucky to have a good friend like you. Continue to be supportive, but professional counselling is probably best if he's willing to go. It takes a lot of energy to be a good friend to someone who is depressed. Try to be aware of your limits so that your health doesn't suffer, too. Perhaps there is a support group he can attend nearby? Perhaps you could go along with him, if he thinks it would be easier to go, that way. Take care of you. Good luck.
2006-07-22 10:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by bevthestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really should become involved with a counselor, therapist, or other non-biased person he can talk to - this person can provide non-biased support for him during this difficult time. while this depression may make it difficult for him to seek professional help, maybe you could help him with this by finding a suitable counselor for him to talk to and maybe arranging the first meeting, and driving him there in a show of support. if he is comfortable with it, maybe you could even go to counseling with him if he feels like he needs the support during his first meeting.
you did a good thing by intervening with your friend's suicide. continue to be there for him by talking to him, maybe going to dinner or lunch with him, supporting any hobbies or activities he likes to perform, and just being a good friend.
2006-07-22 10:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by stascia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever he needs to talk just listen. thats the most important thing.show them that you care. take time to listen. thats a very valuable thing.people dont seem to have time for alot of things anymore.our friends are very important people.
2006-07-22 10:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be gay ,let him. If your busy with other people,you have less time to feel sorry for yourself. If he wants to do him self in, make sure he takes the wife with him
2006-07-22 10:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋