Does this mean that he doesn't want a full on ccommitted relationship?
It was always him who asked me come over and stayed there at the beginning of dating.
Four months later, when we sort of seriously commit to each other, he holds back sometimes. Sometimes after sex he wanted to come back to his apt. I said you could stay but he just tried to give me lots of reasons but I can tell those lame excuses especially during the weekend time.
Was wondering why and what does this mean? I think we are still in the honeymoon prase of this relationship, only daing for 5 months. What should I do? Just be laid back and relax or talk to him to explore what is going on? He spent lots of time out for bars/drinks stuff, does he such some energy out of me?
2006-07-22 10:35:42 · 18 answers · asked by Lla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out of this relationship before your heart gets ripped out of your chest! This guy is a player and you are just a toy to him. He has other "appointments" that he needs to tend to; you're just a name in one of his time slots. There's no chance that this guy even knows the definition of commitment, probably can't even spell it. Try finding a man who will put you first and not be so quick to get you in bed. Any relationship that is based on sex, regardless of how good it might be, is destined for failure. You can do much better.
2006-07-22 10:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about the timing but it's very likely that two people bond when they start having sex. If that happens soon after they meet and before they are fully acquainted, they do not really know each other. Nothing wrong with that in my view. Having said that, it's also very likely that one may make assumptions about the relationships which are not true for the other. Or, one person has hopes that the other doesn't share. If you haven't discussed your relationship's details with your guy, now woulde be a good time to start. See if you can get on the same page. Guys will clam up and try to squirm out of verbal corrals if they feel threatened so make the discuss about your relationship not what's wrong with me (or him).
2006-07-22 10:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have dropped him sometime ago. It doesn't sound like he was that great even when your sexual relationship began to begin. It also doesn't sound to me as if he ever committed to your so called relationship. He's just using you, and treating you like crap, because you let him.
As my daughter would say:" Kick him to the curb".There are better guys out there then him. With a guy like this, he's causing you to loose your self respect, because he obviously has no idea how to treat a woman, because he treats you with such lack of respect. Get out while the gettin's good, if you know what's good for you.
2006-07-22 10:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It COULD mean that he's not that into you, or doesnt enjoy spending one one time with you like that; OR it could just mean he's not that comfortable at your place. Is it clean, well furnished, safe, SMELL GOOD? Do you have food, cable... kids, a roommate or maybe live in a neighborhood where he's gotta worry about his car outside? ... or worse with parents? Do you have a baby daddy or ex that might come over and surprise him in his sleep. Maybe you don't live conveniently to his job if he has to work in the morning. Maybe he's not a morning person. Does he have an obligation he's trying to make it back home to. It doesnt really matter why he never stays, if it's not okay with you that he doesnt stay, you just have to call him out on that. Like, "baby, come over to my place and break me off. but I want you to stay the night. Oh, you can't stay the night tonight. Alright call em when you can." Because we gone do what you let us do! ... good luck.
2006-07-22 10:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Drose119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys keep apartments on the side to hide the fact that they are married.im thinking from what you say that he is either married or in a committed relationship of some sort and his woman wont let him stay gone all night.if he cant stay with you all night any night of the week then you are just his little side piece of a-ss.if he cant stay cut him loose cuz you are being played.good luck.
2006-07-22 10:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It also relies upon on if the man is clearly loud. numerous human beings imagine they must be loud or yell such issues as "oh, you're the perfect!" to verify that it to be "sex"... (you comprehend, those who're loud on purpose to inform different human beings "convinced, we are having sex - you may tell by using the banging of the mattress antagonistic to the walls and my animal cries".)
2016-11-25 02:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless he lives with his mother, i would suggest he maybe loves the sex but not the closeness and loving. I would worry about a man who screws you all the time but never wants to sleep and hold u all night ever.
2006-07-22 10:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been married. Go and talk to him seriously. At least you have to know what is going on to face it and you can find a solution to this. Of course you never want him to cheat on you!
2006-07-22 11:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by summer_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, for whatever reason....he jsut feels strange in your place.....there are people like that....that don't like sleeping somewhere else.....talk to him....maybe he will tell you
2006-07-22 10:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably married, or has another chick besides you, that he has to run back too.
2006-07-22 10:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋