Is it wrong to fantasize about your dream wedding and dream man. And think about the type of man you would want.'Cause I always think my dream wedding and the type of man God would give me.
2006-07-22 10:34:31 · 14 answers · asked by Lady T 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dream on... nothing wrong at all... unless you are geting into lust...then that would be sin... otherwise... you are quite normal
I would suggest, as you state that you are a young Christian girl... that you read in Ephesians 5:22-33 ( in the KJV if you have one...try to live up to that...and measure your dream man against that standard...
May God grant your dream
2006-07-22 10:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong to dream about that sort of thing. Just don't let your future marriage or anything other than Jesus Christ be your focus. When Christ is your focus He will guide your steps to the man He has picked out for you to marry--a long way down the road seeing as you are only 13 :)
I want to add something that is very important since I see so many Christian teens dating non-Christians. It is very dangerous for a Christian to marry someone who has not made a heart and life commitment to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. To be ready for marriage spiritually means, first of all, that both parties involved have accepted Christ and eagerly intend to make Christ the Head of their home. To consider marriage without the possibility of spiritual agreement is to invite argument and unhappiness into the future household.
I would not guarantee that with becoming a Christian, the whole problem of marriage and the home is automatically solved. But I do say that complete fulfillment in marriage can never be realized outside of the life of Christ. ... I would advise every couple planning to establish a home to first come to a complete agreement on their religious faith." Amos 3:3 states: "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
God ordained marriage to be a "perfect triangle"—God, you, and your spouse. The closer each marriage partner lives to God, the closer each will live to the other. Such closeness is impossible when one spouse does not have a personal relationship with God. This is the reason the Bible says we should not be unequally yoked; read 2 Corinthians 6:14-15. The apostle Paul applies this principle in the case of widows when he writes, "But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39b)
2006-07-22 18:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy to fantasize, because there is a barrier that one can cross which can be dangerous. nothing is wrong in desiring who we should marry or our wedding, but at your age seek to get the best education, and the end product should be a better wife. Note: seek God and he will give you the desire of your heart
2006-07-22 17:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by francis j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will not give you anything except fables.
Choose your own life carefully, you often get what you choose.
Thinking about what type of man would be perfect is a fine idea, but be careful to see that the one you eventually choose is like your dream. Far too many girls find they picked a nightmare.
2006-07-22 17:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by PlayTOE- 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you've already been there that's probably enough. The only problem I really see with it beyond if your imagination takes you into sin. Is that thinking about anything that you don't have can make you very discontent with your life and unhappy.
It would be better if you think about how you can be a better friend to your Friends or a better kid to your parents. Or how can you help your neighborhood be a better place etc.....
2006-07-22 17:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong, but it could cause a problem. You might start to evaluate the men you meet by the standards you set for your fantasy man. They won't pass the test. Real people are flawed -- no matter how great they are.
2006-07-22 17:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All young girls do that. You are doing fine
You can dream about the house you will live in and the car you will drive too, just make sure you do something to achieve it too.
2006-07-22 17:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child, think of the following:
Church? Christianity? Jesus? Dying?
What is the Imacculate Conception supposed to mean?
(NOT A VIRGIN BIRTH! - Google Imacculate Conception. What else do you falsely believe? ) Learn something!
Jesus, the basis of Christianity? .
If Jesus died, he could NOT have been God.
Gods do not die? Do they?
If Jesus 'died' on Friday and 'undied' on Sunday, what else besides Saturday was sacrificed?
Did Jesus give up Saturday for us? Big deal!
If Jesus died for our sins, there should not be any more sins, else why go through with it?.
If Jesus really DIED, he should be dead, dead, dead!
Life after death is like virginity after childbirth.
If the flesh of Jesus died, what was seen walking and talking on Sunday?
If you swallow this stuff, you are not going to like the folks who don't. You want them to swallow it too.
Christians want everyone to convert to their non-thinking in order to be 'saved'.
Believing and not thinking is like choosing a mental illness and becoming truly lost.
2006-07-22 17:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasy of this type can get out of hand. Remember that you are not likely to imagine the FAILINGS of your husband. He will have them and you need to be able to love him in spite of them just as he must be able to love you in the face of your failings.
Too much focus on romance can lead to feelings of being cheated by God or of disappointment.
As a general rule it is good to practice moderation in everything.
2006-07-22 17:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by davidvario 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for it regularly and wait on the Lord to give you the desires of your heart.
2006-07-22 17:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by beek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋