please need advise?

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please need your help advise?
Im gay Im being going out with this guy for 3 years and w/have sex & he likes girls he have a girldfriend & they have sex too. He gets a 100.00 every 2 weeks but since he is my friend I help him with money or whatever he needs. But he comes to my house every day we do it. But my question is he call me on this past thursday and told me that he dont feel like doing sex I say ok: he say that he wants to hang out w/his friends, but he came later @ night and ask me for money I gave him some. Yesterday he never call me @all. so I keep calling him until 12:00 midnight from 8:00 pm and as now @ 1:00 pm he havent call me. Maybe he is with his girls and friends @ this time. He live with his mother By the way he drinks and smoke weed. I told him that I will give him 300.00 a month for him to take care him self. But after this little by little Im changing my mine. When I call him like last night after 10 times he never responded back or call me back.

PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVISE PLEASE

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54 seconds ago
My friend havent call today since yesterday.
you think that I should wait until 9:00 pm and give him a call or wait for him to call me first. He is the one that he havent call me since yesterday.

PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVISE

Thank You

0 second ago
My friend havent call today since yesterday.
you think that I should wait until 9:00 pm and give him a call or wait for him to call me first. He is the one that he havent call me since yesterday.

PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR BEST ADVISE

Thank You

Answer 1

quit giving him money. if he still comes around without receiving money from you, then he is truly your friend, otherwise, let go. he isn't good for you and you deserve someone who doesn't use you like that. don't call him or try to make contact with him. i know this is hard to do, but you will never know why or if he is your friend unless you do so. good luck.

Answer 2

Any exchange of money can be an ugly situation between friends or lovers. The way you describe the situation it seems like you are being used, and I get the feeling you are aware of that.

If I were you I'd forget about this loser, spend some of that you've been giving him money on some new threads, and go find yourself a real man.

If you don't want to burn bridges and ditch him out-right then tell him that you can't afford to give him money anymore. Blame it on gas prices or tell him your insurance rate has gone up. You may think you are being kind by giving him money but it actually sounds like he's developed an unhealthy dependence on you to pay for his substance abuse and for money to spend on his girlfriend. He need to get off the couch and get a real job, but why would he bother when he doesn't have to? I assume you never intended to support him for the rest of his life, so eventually you will have to cut him off and it sounds like now would be the perfect time.

Judging by what you were willing to do for this guy you're a pretty giving person, and you deserve someone who will appreciate that. You could go on feeding his habit while he takes you for granted forever, but since you even asked this question you obviously know better.

Answer 3

ahhh I feel for you! In all honesty, I think he's taking advantage of you. He's using you for money and sex. What has this guy ever done for you? He needs to get his life together...stop living w/ his mom, stop smoking, and stop taking the money you offer. He's an adult, and he has to start taking some responsilibity. Try to not call him. Instead, go out with friends or see a movie--just do something to take your mind off him. If he doesn't call in, say a 2 or 3 days, then call him back. Better yet, call his mom or his girlfriend. See if they know what's happening. If you think you can do it, break things off with him. First, however, weigh your pros and cons. Take a deep breath and good luck!!!

Answer 4

Though you may like the guy, he is using you. You need to dump him immediately!!!!!

Why are you giving him money? Do you feel so needy for love and affection that you think he will stay with you if you support him? He is a pimp and a scam artist. He is using you for money and probably using his "girlfriend" as well.

While you still have your sanity (and your money), dump this guy right away! At that point he will probably come running to you and want to be affectionate to you, but resist the temptation, he only wants to use you again.

Go out in the world and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not for your wallet and apartment.

Answer 5

First of all you should stop calling him your friend!! You are his 'John'.He comes over,you two have sex then he asks for money.He doesn't care about you,so find someone who does. Tell him to get a job and leave you alone.

Answer 6

it sounds like he is usen ya, maybe ya should sit back no callin and see whhat he does if he shows up askin for more $ tell him no he is really takin advantage of ya and you need to find someone that will be there for you and care not have you take care of him and his adictions there is someone out there for ya and better

Answer 7

There should be a section just for long winded questions.

Answer 8

maybe he is straight now? he has a girlfriend too? maybe they have decided to be together? and stop giving him money, he sounds like a sleaze

Answer 9

well, you don't need to give him money... and wait for him to call you up first... but i better say get rid of him!

Answer 10

honestly I think you should just walk out of his life..you have been nice and he just took your stuff no questions so just walk away and don't call him or even talk to him and see how he likes it.