my cousins hate me and I'm scared?

Question

my four cousins that are 5, 6, 10, 12 hate me probably because im a distance couin to them. they are realy snoty to me they do rude and hurtful things. next week i have to go to my cabin and they will be there. do you think its ok if i just have my space like sun bathe or read a book and not hang out with them also my dad would get mad if i did that and ingnored them im a teenager for heaven sakes my mom thinks its ok what im doing. im so sad to be going what should i do. also there parents dont do anything.

Answer 1

That sucks. It is sad to think that such young kids are so mean.
You can't change them but you can change how YOU react to them. The more you react to them the more they will pick on you.
I know it is hard, but you need to create self confidence.....fake it until you actually have it. If you let them see you squirm and be uncomfortable they will feel rewarded because that is their point-they choose to make you uncomfortable. They are mean.

If they start a verbal argument with you- don't fall in to that trap. They are working at making you weak. It is very sad human behavior. You need to establish that you will not react to their childish behavior. If you don't respond to them, they will get bored and do something else. Don't let your guard down. They will try to make you look bad in front of the adults- don't let that happen.Each day make some plans with one of the adults..for instance ask your mom if she will go on a hike with you. Ask your dad to play cards with you for awhile.

If your parents force you to play with the kids then try and make sure you are in clear view of the adults.

You deserve some alone time at your age, like you said to read and relax in the sun. If you have to stick close to the adults so that the kids can't bug you.

Part of growing up is learning to deal with all kinds of people.
And unfortunatly learning isn't easy or fun.

Remember you can't change them, but you can change how you react. You have more control of your life than you ever imagined.

Let us know how it goes.

Answer 2

No i fairly do not what i'd do is communicate it out jointly with your dad or once you've any acquaintances from you new college verify with them it is an fantastically not easy aspect to assert in case your the purely one attempting and your mom gained't even verify with you i wouldn't verify with her for some days and enable crap settle

Answer 3

I'm sorry you are in that situation. Maybe when you first go to the cabin, you should try to be kind and play with them a little just to show that you are willing to get along. And bring along plenty of things to do by yourself so when it doesn't work out, you won't be stuck with nothing to do. If their parents don't do anything, make a point to explain to them(the kids, in front of their parents, as often as necessary), nicely, that since they are not willing to respect you and be just as kind as you are to them, you don't feel the need to subject yourself to that kind of company. But if they decide that everyone can work together to be kind to everyone else regardless of personal opinions, than you would be willing to hang out with them. Maybe if their parents understood that you were trying, they may be a little more tolerant of you sunbathing or reading elsewhere. And if they still give you sh*t, rub poison ivy in their underwear, hide their mosquito spray, and give them flowery shampoo or perfume so the bees will get them. Another better option may be to invite a friend for you to hang out with. Good luck!