My dad is 41 and he's seeing someone in her mid to late twenties. For some reason this bothers me. Is it wrong to think that way? I don't want another women living with us, but this makes me feel badly.
2006-07-22 10:11:15 · 15 answers · asked by lynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm almost 15
2006-07-22 10:12:29 · update #1
There's nothing wrong with the age difference but if you have feelings about you need to share with him then you should. I'm sure he would want to know how you feel but at the same time you have to remember to respect how he may feel about the person he is seeing and not be judgemental because of a simple age difference.
2006-07-22 10:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right and Wrong are subject to perception. It isn't, in my opinion, for a daughter of a father to be put on the back burner for some young bimbo who is probably dating an older man for the wrong reasons. which could potentially set you down a path that's no good either. I don't know how you two communicate but if you choose to confront him I would ask him how he would feel if you dated a guy much older than you. He would probably freak out if you brought home a guy a few years older than yourself. He would and will tell you, its different when your older but relationships are about companionship and togetherness not sex and physical attraction, those are things that will dissipate in time/ if that is the foundation for a relationship it won't last forever and it wont end pretty. There isn't much you can do hun but be strong and don't try to get back at your father by giving it up to some older guy. it wont make him see the light and it will only mess up your life just tough it out and when your 18 and in college or where ever you decide to go in life. You know how you wont act and what you wont do to yourself.
2006-07-22 17:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but I know how you feel. Its like someone is coming between you and your dad. Its just you and him and you want it to stay that way. I had the same problem a long time ago with my mother when she started seeing someone else. I felt jealous and mad at her. At the time I didn't understand, but I come to learn that single people need a relationship too. Be it a dad or mom. They get lonely too. Hang in there and I hope you can see your dad's point of view.
2006-07-22 17:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Zeta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is in his lower 50's, I am 28 y/o (older than his x-girlfriend {the X is only a year or 2 older than my little sister w/ my mom and dad}). I now have 3 younger siblings, but I see them only once or twice a week (only because their grandmother lives next door). My oldest daughter is older than her aunt and both uncles, and my youngest daughter is older than her aunt... (if you can understand that... LOL). Let your dad make his own decisions, be there to support his feelings, and if the 20 something year old g/f gives you any problems, don't hesitate to let your dad know because children always come first.
2006-07-22 18:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell you dad how you feel. Maybe you can explain that dating her is one thing but you're not ready to share your home with her. It's your home too, you're not a little kid and you should have some say. But realize if he's dead set on doing this he pays the bills so he has the final say. You'll be 17 in a few years and then you can go away to college and I'll bet by then they'll be history anyway.
2006-07-22 17:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the ages. But with the way you stated your questioning. I feel the issue really isn't about the age difference but the not accepting the fact that your dad has decided to start dating again. You should talk to your dad and if your still not comfy about him dating then you could try counseling to try to work out your feelings. Best of luck to you!
2006-07-22 19:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I think its not the age that bothers you as much as the fact there is someone new in his life. He should not move another woman in with you without a marriage commitment. Tell him you want him to find happiness but to please consider your feelings and you are uncomfortable about someone just moving in with the both of you. Suggest that there be things the three of you can do together to get to know each other. Hopefully he will listen to you.
2006-07-22 19:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not wrong. Your feelings are your feelings.
At the same time, give your dad a break. He needs adult companionship and if he has found someone who makes him happy and if he makes her happy, then try to be happy for them.
But talk with your dad and let him know how your feeling but again cut him a break.
But again your feelings are not wrong.
2006-07-22 17:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad's not doing anything wrong. They are both adults and with you growing up now, you'll come to understand this more. Don't you want your dad to be happy? Try to get to know her a little more - you might even like her. But even if you don't, can you handle the guilt you'll feel if you try to break them up? You'll be moving into your own life very soon - let him enjoy his!
2006-07-24 01:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that the situation could make you feel bad, but your Dad is old enough to do what he wants. I would hope that he will discuss it with you before he has her move in. Maybe you should talk to him about the way you feel. It might help.
2006-07-22 17:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋