Is it normal to be suspicious of your girlfriend/significant other if you feel she may be cheating on you?

Question

I just have a strange feeling she may be cheating on me, but yet she tells me nothing is going on with this guy she knows from where she works, but she's been acting real secretive about him and won't tell me much of anything except that they're just friends. I feel suspicious of her now. Could I just maybe be panicking here? She swears to me that she's not cheating on me and that she never could, but something still doesn't feel right in my gut about it. I feel as though she's trying too hard to hide something by denying everything. I think she knows that I know something's up and when I tell her that she STILL swears she's not fooling around no matter what I say I know or been hearing. She doesn't act different though. The sex hasn't changed between us either, but we're experimenting more which I feel is good for both of us, so what could the problem be?

Answer 1

I you love someone, set them free . . .

Or, in the alternative, hunt them down and shoot them!

I kid, I kid . . .

But really, it's a tough thing these emotions. Some women like to play games and feel "desired," some women are just as scared with commitment as men are. So give this time.

Same goes with men, the players, the commitment phobics.

Just don't add fuel to the fire and nag this. Also, it depends on your ages. It might be that she's not ready . . . or whatever.

Read the link below, it's funny ... and laughter IS the best medicine!

Answer 2

If she's being secretive about a guy she works with, I'd be suspicious too. Does she spend time with this guy? Has she been working late? Would she feel comfortable hanging out with a group of people including you and this guy from work? - If they are just friends, she should feel comfortable with that. And the fact that you are experimenting more could mean she's picking up tricks from this other guy, know what i mean?

I certainly don't know enough about the situation too draw a conclusion as to whether or not you suspicions are wrong or right. It is normal to be suspicious, but if you keep feeling suspicious for months on in, it is time to do some investigating and figure out what's up.

It is funny that most of the answers you've received are telling you that you have nothing to worry about and to stop being suspicious. I think if the genders were changed, and you were a woman asking about a guys behavior, everyone would be saying "He's cheating!! Leave him!"

Answer 3

If she has not given you any reason not to trust her in the past, then you should trust her and give her the benefit of a doubt and start thinking positive.......if you don't,you might end up pushing her away if you continue being suspicious....or worse, she could start cheating with that guy just to prove you right. Give her more extra attention and think positive, you'll drive yourself crazy if you don't!

Answer 4

You need to stop asking her if she is cheating. You sound like you are in grade school.
If you feel like she is cheating either she is ,or you are very insecure.
Do you really think she would tell you if she were cheating?
How stupid would that be.
Either you trust her or you don't. And if you can't shake the feeling, then move on until you find a woman you can trust.

Answer 5

On a night when you're not hanging out, have a friend stalk her and find out where she goes.

Answer 6

Unless you have proof I would just drop it for now.

Answer 7

yes its normal but never right to accuse without definitve proof they are!

Answer 8

Intuition may not always be right, but its never wrong.

Answer 9

you are just jealous! trust your girl.. you said nothing's changed with her... do not nag her by asking about it over and over again... just show her that you love her...