Im really outgoing with my male and female freinds, but im awfull at approaching women who i find attractive in a bar, when i go out, the more vodka i drink the better i get but then i get to drunk and say something stupid. Im no George clooney but im average looking and have a sarcastic yet great sense of humour.
The usual things go through my head when im contemplating approaching someone, like, im to tall, to chubby, to ugly etc etc.
I wish women would have a green flashing light above there head if they found me attractive, then i would be full of confidence and approach them without the fear of rejection.
Any ideas?
2006-07-22 09:16:10 · 10 answers · asked by Chubby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plenty of ideas. 1. Quit worrying and be yourself. Your friends like you, she will too, especially with a killer sense of humor. 2. Ask one of your female friends to go meet her and then introduce you. Your friends will check it out to see if she is worthy of you! 3. Don't get drunk. There is no bigger turn Off for us.
I am a former model, dancer, instructor. I wish I would have met you in my day. You sound very sweet and worth being with. The shy guys were always the ones that wouldn't talk to me, and believe me, they were the ones I wished would have! You are the type we want...Go for it baby, and don't worry, your gonna be great!!! Nana
2006-07-22 09:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 10⤊ 6⤋
well, i think maybe if you can go up to a women when you are drunk, you should be able to approach one when you are not. Think of something to say before, like first just start a casual convo, then figure out her interests, then you'll decide if you actually wanted to meet her. And believe me, its not always just the fact that a guy is attractive to girls, but if you actually go up to her, you'll get more respect and she'll probably give you a chance. Just try it and dont think too much about what YOU look like, more about what you SAY. words and a great personality are more likely too capture a girls heart rather than an obnoxious hot guy....know what i mean?
2006-07-22 16:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, man!
You know what you need to do? Concentrate on the things that makes you feel good. Find out your good side (don't think about the bad ones). It's been said that if you focus on what is great about yourself, then your confidence level goes a bit higher! There's gotta be something about you that you like and your friends also like about you!! When you focus to much on the negative side, you're doomed to have a confident level at 0!
Most women like men who are themselves..so be your self and THINK POSITIVE!! Good luck :)
2006-07-22 19:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lean to love your self i swear it works
when people can see you have confidence it dosnt matter about chubby, tall, and ugly. they think wow he has confidence lets go talk to him. they talk to you get to know you and then before you know it you two are going out!
But most the time people are so much more harsh on them selves. You think your fat and not good looking but your probably just being harsh on your self. try not to do that
2006-07-22 16:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drink! Start with some one you know. Go to dinner. Go dancing. Let the world know you're a nice guy. Don't be too outspoken, give your opinion. Don't be too shy. the right girls will like you the way you are!
2006-07-22 16:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by jonathanmt93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i feel for you. you should get lessons in how to approach girls there are things like that on the Internet. and if you do feel self-conscious then don't go talk to her just walk right on by. good luck!!
2006-07-22 16:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Grl_in_love15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to is go up and introduce ur self and from there on just talk about what ur into and stuff like that and if the bar plays music ask her to dance
2006-07-22 16:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny you need to get out there and remember that if they turn you down that they ain't good for you and the right girl will be out there somewhere for you and when you meet her you will know and talking will come natural to you both
2006-07-22 16:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by zinola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a girl who's even more shy than you, it'll make feel more comfortable. i know its not the traditional kind of advice but it works.
2006-07-22 16:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by poppettes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to them and if they turn you down, that's their lost!!! keep trying, the real one for u is out there
2006-07-22 16:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by countrygirlgf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋