though we've been workmates for 2 years now, he is also somehow mistyrious, not a clear person, i somehow don't know much about him, but he's a person with a nice personality, so helpfull & caring. i really like him, but i'm scared that if i show my feeling, things could get sensitive.
2006-07-22 09:10:29 · 17 answers · asked by moon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that this person is a mystery is a ( Red Flag) and you should be cautious. A Penny has two faces so are people, for all you know he can be showing you the face he wants to show you.
The fact that your ( Gut Feelings) have you being careful is a good sign and proceed with cautious. In the start, there will be a bit of mystery with some one we like. If after some time this cloud of suspicion on some thing you just can't yet figure out is a sign to just remain friends as in your case and look for some one new.
Don't let your feelings misguide you to see this person for what he really is. Guard your feelings well and be careful with this guy.
My personal view is that any one i don't know too well i keep a safe and healthy distance from them. This guy have raised a Red Flag and you be careful.
I'm not going to tell you what to do if you are adamant to have a relationship with this guy. Your own words answer your question of knowing him for two years and yet he is a mystery.
Be careful with this guy as there are other people out there
2006-07-22 09:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine for the women to make the first move, I did. As long as you don't throw yourself at him or make yourself seem desperate or as you have no self worth. Sometimes there are men who are very shy and won't talk to women first, which is alright. if you make the first move, something is bound to happen, especially if there is some tension. Start with a normally conversation about a pastime that you think he might be interested in too and see where it takes you.
2006-07-22 09:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are friendly with him you can ask him to lunch (in a friendly sort of way) and see what he says. If he bites, make sure you both go to a place where you can really get to know each other. Really try to see what vibes you get.
If he say he's busy or shies away with some excuse or says maybe next time, lay off, move on and be nonchalant about it.
2006-07-22 09:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to wait this one out. i dont believe in making the first move, and any relationship book you go to will tell you the same thing. woman always ruin the start of the relationship by reversing the roles. If you dont remember anything else, think about this the man must be the hunter and the gatherer, it is the core of their inner being.
2006-07-22 09:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong, this is a new age girl, ur not leaving in the pre-historic time no more, nowadays most girls start learning that in a relationship you both gotta coorporate and help each other out where one of you don't feel confortable enough to do it.
2006-07-22 09:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable making the first move, then go for it. I wouldn't go full-throttle, though, because it sounds like you may have an insecurity of getting hurt....I don't mean that in a bad way! Most of us who have been in a relationship have the same fear! =) Just don't give too much too fast, and you'll be fine....
2006-07-22 09:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, girl, step into the 21st century! Of course it's ok for a girl to make the first move.
One thing to consider before you go for him: If it all goes bad, will it impact your working relationship? If your job's important to you, you'd better think twice.
2006-07-22 09:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sometimes its good for a girl to make the first move...i ususally think if a girl likes me enough she will say something herself, ppl do look down on that sometimes but there are others who actually think its a good point. also dont be to stressed even if you think you might get hurt, if you do, you know your human because the heart is not living unless it has expirienced pain, this pain lets us know that we actually do care for eachother as people
2006-07-22 09:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfectly normal and i think that some guys prefer that you make the first move (the girl). I say go for it i mean what do you have to loose?
2006-07-22 09:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a very sexist question .what makes girls so different from guys or visa versa.
but i am European ,where machismo is not very popular
any body can make the first move ,or the last for that matter.
2006-07-22 09:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋