whats a good age to get married?

Question

and why?

Answer 1

I would say 26-30, but it all depends on what your dreams and goals are. Personally, we put off our wedding because we were both kids in college(which meant we were totally broke)! We had a 2 year engagement, but it allowed us to save up money and make payments to have the wedding of our dreams. I've noticed that most of the couples you see in wedding magazines are closer to 30. They can afford to have lavish weddings because by age 30, both should have sucessful careers and be making money.

Most of the couples I've known that got married under age 25 either had EXTREMELY rich parents, or didn't care about having a nice wedding.

I know this is a little off of what you were asking, but I thought I'd share a different view point.
Best wishes!

Answer 2

Getting married is an important decision. It usually is made without enough thought or perparation, but, hey, we are people ... and we don't usually do the things we should - but the things we want.

I do not know where you are from; cultures and countries affect this very much.

However, your name and avatar suggest you are a young Black American woman.

So assuming that's true, then you need to pay attention to a few questions that have less to do with your age than your life:

1. How long have you known your potential mate?

This matters. I KNOW from experience that the old saying is true - "Marry in haste; repent at liesure." Do NOT marry someone because you're horny, want to get away from home, or just think it's cool.

2. Are you ready?

This is a very practical question. LOTS of young women feel confident and maybe a litte defiant ("don't tell ME what to do! I know what's BEST for ME!"). It is a practical question you can answer by yourself, when you have some quiet time to think about things. Can you earn a living and support a child (depend on it, you'll get pregnant in no time)? Does your mate have the money or earning potential to take care of you and a child? Do you agree about the things YOU think are important in life? Is there someplace to go and live on your own as a couple when you get married - without asking other people for money or help?

3. Do you want things in life that YOU have to do?

Do you want to go to college? Do you want to learn to play the clarinet? Do you want to become strong and independent and a person by yourself? Do you have dreams and plans that YOU must achieve?

Usually those kinds of feelings are YOURS alone. If getting married means that you put them aside - will you spend the rest of your life wishing you had once had a chance to become YOU?

If the last one is true - then no matter your age you aren't ready.

Answer 3

There is no right age to get married. It is something you have to be prepared for. And some people don't find the right person until they're older, it wouldn't make sense for them to marry until they meet that person, would it.
Those who are saying that 25-30 is a good age, because of maturity, consider this: Yes, maturity is important, and you need to be mature. But years and years ago, they married at younger ages than they do now, but had much fewer divorces. It was a different day and age, true, but that doesn't mean that maturity can be linked to age. People are ready at separate times in their lives.

Answer 4

I think it's really based on maturity. I am getting married in 08' and I will be 31. Personally at 21 I think that's too young. I honestly didn't think about settling down with anyone until I was about 26 or 27. By then I had done everything that I wanted to do. When you are married you can't do the same things that you would have done when you were single.

Answer 5

The right age depends on the social conditions available around us ! The present set-up seems to support an age of 25...
The most ideal age was proved to be 8 (with the right situation being provided by ancient Indians !). The results, a very strong lasting relationship was built to nurture a healthy joint-family tradition, which even stood the test of time. Now when we look at it as a history, it is more clear that it really requires tremendous dedication to make a child marriage a resounding success ! Those who agree with this view will be indeed a microscopic minority, but it is more a matter of deep understanding of life rather than number game of votes ! I do not seek blind acceptance, but appeal to the 'intelligent' to examine with an open mind, minutely !

Answer 6

Any age is a good age to get married, but the optimum age is probably between 22 and 28. This gives you time to make career choices and decide on what your goals will be. It's also the peak fertility years for women, so if they plan a family it should be in this time period, rather than later, when conception is so much more difficult.

Answer 7

Its not the age, its the person. Marriage is in fact a business contract. Once two people have decided to marry they should work out their finances before ever tying the knot. If a person is ready to accept that even though it can be a wonderful life, there are always conflicts and they want to work out such things, they are ready. Work out as much ahead of time as possible. If all these things are working then get married.

Answer 8

The best time to get married is when you are so in love you cannot imagine living without that person.You are old enough to get married when you are willing to go through the ups and downs of life with him, are willing to put up with all his annoying habits and accept the ones you don't know about yet, picture him bald and fat, picture when he's old and the possibility of taking care of him, when you can imagine standing by a man no matter "ugly" things may get, you are old enough to get married.

Answer 9

Maturity is more important than age. 25 to 30 is a good age to get married as you would be sufficiently matured, have a decent job and physically ready to produce healthy children.

Answer 10

I was 25, sometimes I think I should have waited until I was 35. In my opinion anytime after 25 is good.