I could REALLY use some advice!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

well let me start off by saying my family on my fathers side has NEVER ACCEPTED us , so we finally get to meet family on my mom's side for the first time and it was great. we felt like we had real family for the first time. i especially liked my girl cousin because ive never really had any one my age to hang out with. however two weeks after they all left my cousin says my father raped her!!!!!!!!!!!!! we all know thats a huge lie and we dont understand y she would say something like that. for the past few months weve struggled with this and its killing us b/c my father could get 20 YEARS for a crime he didnt commit. !!!!!!!!! nothing i say cheers my dad up , WHAT SHOULD I DO

im so sorry this is long, but i could use ur advice plz

Answer 1

Your open about this? You have courage. Well, If your cousin really cares for you, she shouldn't have done that. You have to talk to her and tell you to be HONEST. Also talk to your father about it. He has to be honest, too. Because if he denied it, he is in a lot of trouble for sure. I personally would get them together to talk, eith you in it. This is all what I can think of, girl. Sorry if it ain't much help. But, I wish you my very best for a good solution to your conflict. Good luck! By the way, ob 01.. is right. You can always prove it this way. The best way to prove your father's innocense.

Answer 2

This is a very bitter thing to deal with. There will be no solace for a while. The real truth is, that it is hard to prove innocence when getting accused after a while.
You do believe in your dad, and I do hope that you will stick with that.
This incidence just shows that we cannot pick family, only our friends.

If I were in this situation I most certainly would not communicate with those who accuse. Assure your dad that you believe in him and show him your love. In addition, there are legal aid services out there, you might want to check there for further assistance(as far as the legal problems are concerned). If there is a lawsuit, hopefully it will bring the truth to light. In the meantime, just do what you already started: show dad your loyalty and love, because there is not very much else you could do....

Answer 3

listen if ur dad is innocent der shudnt b a problem it will hav been proved as there will be no evidence. It jst seems like this girl wants attention because she obviously got on with you so she has no grudge against you but you are a new member that has been added to the family so chances are if she sees you and your dad gettin this attention she is not going to like it and she is going to try and jeoperdise tings 2 get you out of the family. It is very sad how she has gone about it but that is how she works. Just convince your dad you will always be der beside him supporting him! Shud help!!

Answer 4

the best advice i can give is this: consult with a lawyer. don't let ur dad go anywhere or do anything without a lawyer present. the only other thing u can do is to be there for ur dad as much as possible. whatever u do , don't talk to the accuser, or her family; espec. alone. don't forget that anything u say can be used against ur father. best of luck to you.

Answer 5

Whew!!! That is a tough one. To be charged with rape, there must be evidence. This evidence must be physical evidence (DNA material, pubic hair, semen stains). The victim must be examined by a licensed physican that can attest to the rape. There does not have to be a witness. One CANNOT accuse another without proof.

Tell your Dad to talk to his attorney about this NOW. He may have grounds for liable if she keeps this up. The girl might also need to seek a mental health professional.

Answer 6

wow i really feel for you! your cousin should be the one put in jail. my gosh who would lie about something like that?! i think you should get some tests done on your cousin. there are tests out there that can determine what really happened. like that lie detector test- get them both tested. i am not saying your dad is a liar or anything i just think it would be a good idea. i will be praying for you and your family all the way!! God bless!!!!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If you think your father is innocent then stand by him, just be there, give him support, There will be nothing that you can say to your dad that will help him while he`s going through this ... good luck

Answer 9

First of all if your dad is innocent, then he should voluntarily have a polygraph test. Was the girl checked to see that she was raped? Did they collect any DNA, if so it should be easy to verify if your dad did or didnt.

Answer 10

SCR@#$ her this bit(h maybe she slept with aguy and she was afraid to tell her family so she thought that i can get away from it by tellin' that your dad who did that to her ...ask an old family member to talk to her like your grandma or one of your aunts or talk to her mom..........and tell her that if you'll prove that shes lyin' ..you'll put her in jail for the rest of her life.....hope she'll tell da truth