Does it bother you when.........?

Question

other people correct your kids and they don't correct their own. the other day my aunt saw my son touching something at home that he's not supposed to touch ( he's 11 months) and she hit him but she has a baby the same age as my son ( her daughter is 5days younger ) and she lets her do whatever she wants because when she tells her not to touch something her daughter just smiles and keeps on touching it and she leaves her. That really bothered me a lot and i want to tell her about correcting my son but i don't really know how to.

it was at my house

Answer 1

Just tell her. Something in a nice way. Like when she starts correcting your son, say, thanks Ive got it. Hes too young to be spanked. He cant possibly understand why he is being hit. Its in their nature to be curious, its how they learn. Just keep things he shouldnt touch out of his reach. At most, tell him no and take him away from the object. He will soon start to understand no, but that doesnt mean he will listen, lol. Hitting him will only confuse him and make him think hitting is ok.

Answer 2

No one but you should be displining your son with 'hitting' and there are far better ways to discipline a young child then that You need to have a serious frank discussion with your aunt and tell her that she is not to put her hands on your child unless its for a hug.

I really do dislike it when people hold higher standards for other people's children and not their own. But the only way you will address this issue is by pointing it out to your aunt. If she is the type that will get angry and hold it against you thats not someone you need in your life anyway.

This is your child, you need to stick up for him because he is too small to do it himself. Tell your aunt not to discpline your child if she does not have the ability to discpline her own, and that you are more the capable of doing so yourself.

A face to face or over the phone dicussion is the only way this will get solved.

Answer 3

I can see where your coming from. First of all no one should touch your child but you. I could she saying something verbally to someones child IF its in my house. Hell if its their house and their kids destroying their house and they are letting their kids do; more power to their kids. My kids I'll get in their butts. Some people also judge by the sex of the child. My friend does that when my son is @ her house "oh hes just being a boy". I dont care I treat my girls and son equally when it comes to mannerisms. You will talk and treat peoples homes w/ respect. Try to say something, but it is a touchy subject when parenting issues come involved between women.

Answer 4

She *hit* YOUR son? That's ridiculous! She's got no right to do that! I dont even think parents have a right to do that, but if anyone has the right, it should be YOU and not her. I agree with you completley. It bothers me when I see people do this, especially with older kids. Children need direction - if he's getting into something, and you haven't noticed, by all means she should redirect him or tell him that's not to be played with but I think hitting him is going way over the top.

Answer 5

The next time your aunt does that explain to her that you do not appreciate her correcting your son, especially with a phisical responce. instead of bringing up the fact that she doesnt discipline her daughter merleyy point out that you don't correct her doughter when she does something wrong.

she doesn't ahev a right to do that...esspecially since he isn't even old enough to be aware of what he is doing, other than finding something new to hold his intrest for about 10 minutes.

Answer 6

Hell yeah that would bother me!

Don't let anyone tell your child what to do, let alone hit him!!!!! Tell her straight forward, don't worry about her feelings, your child is much more important. Besides, if you are forceful with your speech she will know how serious you are and not do it again.

Also remind her she needs to worry about what her own kid is doing, because that kid will grow to be a bad influence on yours if she doesn't discipline.

That's really messed up, if someone does that to my baby I will freak on them. It would be bad enough if a friend or acquaintance did it, but family should know better!!!!

Answer 7

First off, there is NOTHING an 11 month old boy can do that he should
be hit for. He could be playing dixie on his penis - maybe his parents
should applaud the talent, but otherwise, leave the poor guy alone.

At that age, the primary negative re-enforcements come out if and only
if the kid is doing something that could hurt him or others.

This is the worst kind of abuse, in my mind. This is infant sexual abuse.

Answer 8

You shoulda corrected her daughter. This drives me crazy when my friend would correct my kids and then hers would do the same crap so I started correcting them too. She didn't have a problem with it. Sometimes you wanna just knock people out family or not for saying something to your child but not theirs when they go and do the same thing. No body is perfect and what is that showing their child. That they can get away with murder?

Answer 9

I would just thank her for her concern but ask her to next time please consult you first, since you are the parent. With the exception of a dangerous situation, where removing the child from danger is most important.

You have to set limits with people. Your aunt probably still sees you as a baby, with a baby, and while she's not trying to be rude or mean, she's doing what she knows to be best. But its still out of line. You're the childs mother, not her.

Answer 10

This is part of being a mom. Having other people brag about kids that were potty trained at two weeks. Correcting your child, when there's are hooligans. I don't know why women do this to each other so often, but there's no winning. Just ignore her. (but tell her only you can spank or physically discipline your child).